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Kate&thegirls

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Mirage · 11/09/2004 09:41

Thinking of you & your family today.Hope the day passes peacefully for you.

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KateandtheGirls · 12/09/2004 15:23

You guys are too much. I am sure that any of you would have done what I have tried to do (get on with my life, making it as good as possible for my girls) at least as well as I have, if you had been in the same situation. There's not much else you can do is there?

But of course Sept 11 is a particularly difficult day and you have no idea how much it means to me to read that people I don't even know have been moved by my story and are sending me good wishes.

We had a pretty nice day yesterday. I think Caroline really enjoyed herself. The three of us went out for breakfast and then had a quiet morning playing with her presents and tidying the house. The girls also had a swim. In the afternoon Caroline had a party at a nearby gymnastics place which she loved and then we had a bunch of neighbours back to my house for a second party.

I hate the fact that her birthday is Sept 11 and I wish it wasn't, but I have to say that it does help me to take my mind off the significance of the day. The day went so quickly that there wasn't much time to sit back and reflect. But I'm dreading the day (and I have a feeling it won't be long) that she realises her birthday was the day her dad died.

Thank you all again.

ebbie22 · 12/09/2004 15:35

Oh Kate and your girls,if i hadnt of read the links,i would never of known...You always so held together on other threads...
My thoughts will always be with you and your familly.....Lots of Love to you and I hope your dd enjoyed her bday as much as she could of..xxxxx

SoupDragon · 12/09/2004 16:02

Kate, I'm sure when the day comes that you need to explain it to DD1, you'll handle it as well as you have handled everything else life has thrown at you.

I'm proud of how far you seem to have come

krocket · 12/09/2004 16:06

gosh I am humbled by what you have been through. thinking of you also.

DelGirl · 12/09/2004 16:16

Kate, I wasn't around yesterday but want you to know I was and am thinking of you ((hugs)) and a happy belated birthday to your DD xxx

CountessDracula · 12/09/2004 16:32

Kate I had no idea about this. How brave and amazing you are. Thinking of you xxx

KangaMummy · 12/09/2004 16:42

Kate and DDs I didn't realise until just now when I read thread. As others have said I don't know what to say apart from to send cyber hugs to you all {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

Tessiebear · 12/09/2004 16:45

More than words .... Thinking of you and your family

Batters · 12/09/2004 16:45

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whizzz · 12/09/2004 17:15

Big hugs to you - a very moving article.

SenoraPostrophe · 12/09/2004 17:49

Kate, I didn't post on this thread yesterday as I somehow managed to miss your story before, and felt it would have been dishonest to post (IYSWIM).

But I was thinking of you and your girls. You're obviously a very strong woman and I wish you all the best.

sammac · 12/09/2004 17:56

Kate, I'm adding my thoughts, admiration and prayers alongside everyone else today. I'm glad that you had a successful day. xxxxx

charlize · 12/09/2004 18:19

Kate you are a wonderful brave woman, I feel truley humbled by what you have been through.
Your strengh is amazing. How wonderful you are to try so hard to make your dds birthday special for her when inside you must be hurting so much.

ks · 12/09/2004 18:23

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fisil · 12/09/2004 18:34

kate, what a moving story. What a difficult day to you. Happy birthday to dd1.

GRMUM · 12/09/2004 18:41

I too feel very moved and humbled. Your husband was obviously a wonderful man. I'm sure your biggest joy in life must be in seeing him live on through the daughters you had together. Love to you all XXX

Hausfrau · 12/09/2004 18:59

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Frenchgirl · 12/09/2004 19:41

Kate I didn't know your story and have just read it. I don't know what to say. Happy birthday to your dd, all our thoughts are with you and your family.
xxxxx

Tinker · 12/09/2004 19:45

Kate - I didn't know the full story either. Don't know what to say except that you are an incredibly brave woman. I'm glad you all managed to have a lovely day yesterday x

tassis · 12/09/2004 19:46

Kate, I didn't know either. Sending you much love - and my prayers.

shrub · 12/09/2004 19:48

thank you so much for your kind words the other day. i didn't know what you have been through, what you are going through. i too read the tributes with tears running down my face. reading your post where you worry about the day your daughter realises this was the day her daddy died - i don't know if this will help in any way, but when my friend died i found the following poem very comforting:
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am in a thousand winds that blow
I am the softly falling snow
I am the gentle showers of rain
I am the fields of ripening grain
I am in the morning hush
I am in the graceful rush
of beautiful birds in circling flight
I am the starshine of the night
I am in the flowers that bloom
I am in the quiet room
I am the birds that sing
I am in each gentle thing
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there, I did not die
author: Mary E Frye (native american sources) much love to you and your family xxx

melsy · 12/09/2004 20:14

I only just saw this as have been away.I send love and peacful thoughts to you and your girls.

Angeliz · 12/09/2004 20:39

Kate, just saw this and wanted to add my love++++++++++++

kalex · 12/09/2004 20:41

My love and best wishes to you, your girls and your family, you are in my prayers

twogorgeousboys · 12/09/2004 20:55

Have been away for a week - first chance back on my computer.

You were very much in my thoughts yesterday.
(((((((((Big hugs)))))))) to you and the children.