I can't get my head around it

[LithaFest]

I don't know what to say or who to talk to.

My 13 yo nephew died early hours this morning. We weren't close as he lived in another country. Still in shock though. It's too young. It doesn't seem real. Today does not feel real at all. Every time I think of his parents and what they're going through I fall to bits.

Can someone just handhold for a moment please? I don't think I can sleep.

Sorry to hear the news.

I am so sorry to hear this incredibly sad news

Thanks again. I am not myself today.

How could you be lithaFest? Hope work were good to you.

Work passed in a blur yesterday. I didn't tell anyone. I felt numb. Dp text me to say he got to Dublin safely. Today is the funeral.

I really feel for the whole family

I had a little cry again this morning for my friend. I think a sudden death makes it seem very unreal and your poor nephew was only a child. I will say a prayer for him and his family today. I didn't get to go to my friend's funeral (found out afterwards and live far away) and I really wanted to pay my respects. I do take quiet moments to reflect about her. I will be thinking of you today.

@LithaFest I'm so sorry for you and your family. My 22yo nephew was killed in a car accident in Jan 2017. It sounds dramatic but I honestly wouldn't have got out of bed the months following if I didn't have ds. I don't think I'll ever stop grieving. I'm crying now as I write this. For my dsis, bil and my nephews siblings too, it's completely thrown them. I try not to think or talk about him too often as I still haven't managed to reconcile with it. I don't think any of us ever will. My intention here is not to depress you and everyone else, but know that you're not alone.

Thanks again for taking the time to reply. I spoke to my partner on the phone before. He said there was an open casket (Irish Catholic tradition) and 900 or so people turned up to pay their respects! He said it took so long for everyone to pay their respects. That boy was definitely loved and cherished by so so many. I hope dp's family take comfort from that

Yes, I'm Irish and I'm familiar with that tradition. A funeral is like a community thing and as well as paying respects to the deceased, it's a show of support to the family. I hope you're okay tonight.

Thanks @MsForestier. I think I'll be ok once dp gets back. I'm more worried for him. It's hard to accept for now. As they say time is the greatest healer. I just hope the family I Ireland has support once the initial shock passes.

Sending love. What an horrendous time. I've just hugged my teenage boys (they looked confused). 🌺