Father's day is next month.How are you feeling especially if this is your first without your lovely Dad.

[whatisforteamum]

I will be working on Father's day.Making lots.of other people Dad's and families happy.At the moment it is weeks away however I know it will be everywhere on tv ads etc very soon.How are you feeling and what will you do in memory of your Dad.

Bexcee your loss is very new and the first few weeks are a solid block of utter misery without relief, it's awful timing for you to be seeing the Father's Day merchandise everywhere right now. All you have to do is wake up and get through the day until breathing becomes easier and cut yourself some slack. I'm mumbling away because I'm crap with words but I remember the first few weeks clearly, be kind to yourself

Wrt my own plans for Father's Day I had planned many weeks back to just stay indoors and avoid all media platforms until the day was over but I bought a card today and I wrote to my lovely dad and before I knew it I had filled the card and 3 more pieces of paper with a letter to him. I was catching him up on all our news and explaining why I'd done certain things that he would disagree with (he wouldn't be too surprised ) and I'll put it in with the diary that I kept immediately after his death.

I lost mine 34 years ago. I was a teenager when he died. I feel sad that I had so few years with him, but glad for the few I had. I will raise a glass in his memory as always. for everyone struggling to cope. There are no words to make you feel better, but you already know that.

This is my first Father's Day without my dad, I lost him in September. But it's also the first Father's Day with our baby girl. I walked into Tesco the other day to get DP a Father's Day card from her but had to walk straight back out again because it's just too hard for me. I don't think it ever gets easier does it?

My df died in July last year. He wasn’t one for celebrations of this and that as his birthday was New Year’s Day.

However, I miss him terribly, especially his advice about anything I’m struggling with, he’d always put me right.

My dd reminded me yesterday about a Xmas we had, and we were pulling crackers. My dad pulled a cracker and had an empty one, but dd had 2 of everything so gave him her bits ❤️

It’s times like that I really remember my df, as he would have done the same for dd, they’re so alike.

redexpat I have to say I think the same every year with a little smile! My dad was a pain to buy for but what I wouldn’t give to have to buy something for him again.

Dippyeggs it does get a little easier. The first Father’s Day without dad I cried in Clinton’s when I was buying my DH a card from DD (she was only 2 at the time), but this year will be my third without him and it’s not quite as painful. Try moonpig if the shops are difficult, at least then you’re in the privacy of your own home.

My dad was taken much too young in horrible circumstances. It still hurts so much as we approach his three year anniversary. I like the idea of writing a card to him each year still but I can bring myself to buy one. Thinking of you all

On I hadn't got a card.I accept he has gone and mostly feel. Ok.I think being under a lot of pressure lately it hit.home Dad has gone.h heart goes.out to you all.I have no grave to visit which makes it harder and easier in equal measure.

My dad's funeral was yesterday - and it feels so much harder than I ever thought. We had a difficult relationship for many reasons but I loved him and I know he loved me too.

I feel much sadder and tearful today. I am dreading Fathers Day but will think of the happier times we spent together.

Thinking of you all x

It’s my first one too. I don’t feel anything special about it really. I miss him but the day doesn’t really feel any different to any others to me.

I feel a bit bad about that after reading all your posts! But it is what it is.

My dad was cremated last year the week before Father’s Day. I asked the funeral director to put his cards in his coffin. Not sure what I’m going to do this year.

Mine died in March. I feel I have to do something for dh, especially given that I'm having our second child next week plus we have a 3 year old but I can't even look at cards without feeling the tears coming.

Ah I didn't think of moonpig, will deffo do that.

My dad was 51 when he passed & my baby was born on his birthday, this March. it was like a sign. I just wish he'd made it to meet her 😕.

I'm glad I found this thread, it's comforting you're not alone in all this.

I'm so sorry to hear about everybody's experiences with losing their dads. You know it'll happen eventually, but in my head I had a good 30/40 years left with him yet!

Dippy egg your Dad was far too young.x

@whatisforteamum he was, he he'd been diagnosed with cancer not even a year before he died. It's been 8 months since he passed and I'm still struggling

I’m feeling fine atm no idea how I will be on the day. Prob fine but sad but getting on with it for my children and my Dad wouldn’t want me still feeling depressed.
My grief has been very up & down, no real pattern or reasoning for how it’s gone.

My Dad passed on the Monday following Father's Day two years ago this year. I miss my lovely dad

whatisfortea thank you for your kind response.
My dad should still be here. There was a very traumatic experience where he was admitted to hospital unwell (1 day unwell!) mid January where they said they'd perk him up. He was much better over the weekend, then went downhill suddenly. The hospital wouldn't listen to me when I had all his medical history from kings hospital etc. They were getting wrong departments involved, every Dr you spoke to told you something different. He lost the ability to swallow but Drs were saying he was refusing to eat. I was buying him liquid stuff from the shop which he managed! I was with him every day for 3 months, plus working full time, plus looking after my severely disabled mum. I ended up threatening to call the police on the hospital at one point when they were simply untiring me (I work for the police so that's how bad it was) The hospital then lied on his death certificate (kings hospital confirmed last year he did not have the disease our hospital say he died of) so I don't even know WHY he died, which is even worse. But I've decided ive no energy/finances to contest. Dad wouldn't want me to go through that.
Dad was not elderly. I'm only early 30s.
Like PP said earlier, I'm just trying to get through the day. My eating has got quite bad & ive put on weight & don't get sufficient sleep but I don't care anymore. I have siblings, but they all have families of their own and not local to me.
I haven't taken any time off work as I am better there & my mental health is not great at home especially from looking after mum 24hrs. Least I have a bit of a laugh at work.
Sorry for the long post.
And sorry to read what everyone else is going through too.
I would say it's a heartbreaking thing to go through when you love your dad like we did. Dunno about anyone else, but my heart feels like it's been ripped out my chest!

First Fathers Day without my DH. I always bought him a card and present and DS and DD and families always made a fuss of him. He was just the best husband and dad.

Lilmadagain
Thank you for your kind post it means a lot. I'm just taking it a day at a time at the moment.

I lost my dad in January so first one for me.
I'm working on the day so will be able to keep my mind off it.

I’m dreading Father’s Day. I lost my darling dad 8 months ago (how can it be that long since I saw him) and I miss him terribly. He was just wonderful, so caring, kind, loving and generous with a fantastic sense of humour. I don’t have anyone who has the same humour as me and I miss our little jokes. Every day I hear some news, something funny, a programme advertised and I think “I’ll tell Dad” and it is gut wrenching to realise in that moment that he’s not here anymore. Oh, my heart breaks for him. I need to acknowledge Father’s Day for my DH and DCs but it is so hard. Love and thoughts to everyone in similar positions.

Any retreat about the same time as my lovely Dad :( These last two weeks have been the hardest even since the week he died where relief was the overwhelming feeling.Now I work in hospitality where Sunday is all about making other people's Dad's happy.I miss mine so much.I think.seeing the garden table without him Sat there is hard.He loved gardening and was good.at it too.I'm so sorry so many on here have to go through this.Your Dad's sound lovely:) and to think I thought I had the best one.
Let's try to raise a glass to them all and remember them fondly.

I remember you WhatIs from when we both sadly faced losing our dads. I’m the same about seeing an empty chair at the table, I find it very difficult and the weeks are becoming harder to cope with missing my darling dad. I wrote him a poem to be read at his funeral and I keep re-reading it as it sums up my feelings then and now.
It will be so hard for you on Sunday if you’re having to focus on everyone playing happy families, I’ll be thinking of you. I’m not sure what to do yet as DH will be working so I’ll have to entertain the DCs and make sure my DM is ok as she’s got some worrying health problems. 💐 to everyone facing similar heartache as we struggle to cope without our dads. You are in my thoughts.

The same to you retreat.That is lovely that you read a poem.Sending strength to.everyone this sunday.

This is my 3rd father’s day without my dad, he passed away in May 2016. I’m 31 and still feel like I’m too young to not have a dad, which is silly really! The day and build up to it hasn’t really gotten easier for me yet (although I am happy I don’t have to agonise over what to buy anymore!)

My very close friend lost her dad last summer, and then her husband in an accident a few months ago so I’m spending most of my time worrying about her and not focusing on my own pain for now.

Sending love to everyone