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Am eight weeks pregnant and bleeding.

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 08:23

Am eight weeks pregnant and had very bad cramps and bleeding last night, went to A and E and they have told me to come in today for a scan.

I am very nervous about what they are going to d o and was too shocked and nervous to say anything last night.

If I am miscarrying will they let it happen naturally or will they intervene.

I am sorry if this has been asked before had a quick look in archives but I am a bit all over the place and got a bit lost in old threads.

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 08:25

I am surprisingly calm, have even been into work this morning, it doesnt quite seem real.

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mumto3girls · 09/05/2007 08:25

Wishing you the best of luckxx

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 08:27

how long will it last for, will I be able to just carry on as normalor will they prescribe bed rest. I read somewhere that people don't think it is necessary anymore.

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mumto3girls · 09/05/2007 08:29

it may go onfor a couple of weeks getting lighter gradually. They may askyou to have bloodtestsdone to showyour hcg levelsare dropping. But theresstill hope yet!

niceglasses · 09/05/2007 08:30

All the best. I'm not sure they say bed rest helps as you say. But emotionally it might be best to take things easy for a while. I've had 2 m/cs and the emotional thing is harder than the physical. Thinking of you.

WanderingWanderer · 09/05/2007 08:30

Please don't give up hope yet! When is your scan? Assuming the very worst they will normally let nature take its course. I have had a missed miscarriage previously (which ended in a D&C as my body didn't recognise there was a failed embryo)but no experience of anything like yours, but I think it should take anywhere from a day to a week, but it varies greatly. But back to my first point - it could just be a threatened miscarriage and your cervix may still be closed and there may still be a heartbeat/foetus, in which case I am sure you will be told to rest. Good luck and keep us posted.

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 08:31

am going to the hopital in about half an hour.

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LilyLoo · 09/05/2007 08:51

Good luck tandp. Hope everything turns out to be fine x

lulumama · 09/05/2007 08:53

oh honey ! it might be that you are having a bleed because it is the time you would have had a period, it might not mean a miscarriage

bed rest doesn;t help per se, but can make you feel better, so see what happens after the scan

fingers crossed for you xxx

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 12:16

am back from the hospital and there was no hearbeat so a definite miscarriage.

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poppy34 · 09/05/2007 12:19

oh sweetie -I'm so sorry - you'll be feeling dreadful.

Did they tell you what to do next or just suggest you went home? Have you been given any pain killers?

this is an area that unfortunately I've got a little too much experience in so am thinking of you xx

WanderingWanderer · 09/05/2007 12:22

I am so, so sorry. What did they advise you to do next? Having been through a m/c as well I can only offer my sympathies. It's awful. There is nothing anyone can say really other than we are all desperately sad for you. Was this your first pg?

mumto3girls · 09/05/2007 12:31

I'mreally sad for you...beenthere myself. Rest up. [hug]

LilyLoo · 09/05/2007 12:36

so sorry tandp there is no answer i'm afraid take care and hope you get support from others who know how you feeling x

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 12:38

have been given some painkillers although tbh I am not in a lot of pain but that could be because I do get painful periods so it does not feel that abnormal.

Just told to take things easy and to come back in or see GP if I get worried.

I am supposed to be at work this afternoon as we have a moderation meeting and feel like a fraud sat here

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 12:39

Feel a bit ocnfused tbh I thought they might want to intervene but dp is so upset I was wanted to get him out and home.

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lulumama · 09/05/2007 12:39

am very sorry , take care of yourself x

poppy34 · 09/05/2007 12:49

twinset- I felt like that "fraud" feeling too but imo better to take time out. Wish I had done last timeas kind of suppressed the feelings by carrying on (worked from home except for one day off sick during both m/c).
Genereally they dont intervene unless its obvious nature won't take its course or hasn't worked. This is all ok (if painful) but I would say that it can sometimes prolong physical part of it. I made a bad mistake by letting them wait for nearly 6 weeks (after initially bleed) and rescanning me before they finally decided to an ERCP. I would suggest that you make sure you're checked again in a few days/week to see how things have progressed and don't let them fob you off with the conservative managmenet route. This may be the best thing to do physically but imo the waiting stops you and DP getting on with healing mentally.

Pain can vary - had really bad 12/18 hours with first m/c but second one was more controllable (even went walking round garden show with it whilst heavily drugged up). But do take it easy as sometimes the shock can

Hope your DP feeling a little better - can be really tough for them as not only are they coping with loss , my dh says very hard as you feel bad for us going through it physically.

Love and hugs to you both

xxx

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 12:52

I feel awful as tbh honest when I found out I was pregnant I was gutted and could not see how it was going to work.

But dp was over the moon and was disapointed that I did not feel the same way. I feel like he is looking at me thinking she didn;t want the baby anywayand that I I grive with him it is fraudulant.

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poppy34 · 09/05/2007 13:01

Twinset - I can see how that makes things more complicated but maybe try talkign to your DP about it.

I really think one of strangest things about m/c can be the mixed emotions you have.

When we were ttc I had very mixed feelings as part of me really wanted baby and the rest thought about downside (fact we werent yet married at that point, how would skids cope, was I ready for this , how would it fit in with career, would my life be over etc) so I do understand that mixed view.

I suppose one of the few things about m/c (I am curretly undergoing my third) is it really has made me focus (even though I evaded it) on my dh and why I want children. I would have done anything not to have such a fucking awful way to find out what I really wanted in life but it has helped me I suppose.

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twinsetandpearls · 09/05/2007 13:02

thanks poppy

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tanny2 · 09/05/2007 13:39

hi i just had a scan this morning and i to lost my baby at 8 weeks so i know how you are feeling. all the best

Saturn74 · 09/05/2007 13:42

so sorry, tsap.
and for you too, tanny2.

poppy34 · 09/05/2007 13:54

tanny - so sorry to hear that news. Rubbish feeling so thinking of you xxx