Am eight weeks pregnant and bleeding.

[twinsetandpearls]

Am eight weeks pregnant and had very bad cramps and bleeding last night, went to A and E and they have told me to come in today for a scan.

I am very nervous about what they are going to d o and was too shocked and nervous to say anything last night.

If I am miscarrying will they let it happen naturally or will they intervene.

I am sorry if this has been asked before had a quick look in archives but I am a bit all over the place and got a bit lost in old threads.

So for you all. TandP i would think it would be really important to keep talking to dh at this time. As for having time off ork don't feel at all guilty people stay off with a cold!

So sorry to hear your bad news, tsap and tanny2. Just wanted to add that when I had my mc the hospital told me the bleeding would be no worse than a period and would only last for about 10 days. I actually bled for about 3 weeks, and whilst it was OK most of the time, it was frighteningly heavy and painful for a few hours, and much worse than any period I'd ever had. Hope it won't be too bad for you, but don't get freaked out if it does feel bad. As for the emotional stuff, it didn't really hit me for about 4 weeks, but I suppose it's good for the physical and emotional bits to happen separately. I hope you and your dp manage to work through the confusing feelings you're having, tsap. Take care.

thankyou MummyTL and I am sorry to here your news tanny, I will be thinking of you.

mummytl is right - had about 4/6 hours where bleeding was bad (and I mean scary bad) then intermittent bleeding for a while longer.

also think it took good 2/3 cycles to get back to normal (despite what books say). Made mistake of ttc almost immediately (we were getting married about 2 months after first m/c ) and am sure that second m/c inevitable given that I'd not actually had a proper period before I found myself pregnant again.

And hormones will be bad for a 4/8 weeks too -found myself getting irrationnally angry or upset about stuff that ordinarily would barely register x

I will bear that in mind poppy as I teach, so place myself in quite stressful emotion intense situations.

I was thinking of going into work tomorrow to catch up on some paper work and asking for a non contactday and then teaching on Friday.

sorry to hear that try to take some time out for yourself too

I just don't want to dwell on it which is not going to accomplish anything and I have a lot on at work.

twinset - if you feel up to it then go in . From what you say staying at home when you know you've got loads on at work is probably not going to help

Just be a little careful as you will feel up and down. The other thing I noticed is that you can get rundown quite easily (I went thorugh every cough,cold and stomach bug going and was continuously ill after first m/c) so try and look after yourself in terms of eating, drinking ,vitamins etc - found that helped me come to terms physically with easier the second m/c when I did this.

Sorry..sound like I'm preaching - you just need to do what is right for you and soudns like getting stuck in at work might help.

thanks poppy not preaching thoughtful advice

I ma feeling a little bit better today but my emotions are all over the place and I get sudden surges of real pain. I can not decide if to go into work tomorrow, I feel so guilty sat at home

I am so sorry about what you are going through, twinset. It really sucks, to use an awful yet appropriate US term. Take care of yourself. Ideally you would take tomorrow off as well, to give yourself some real time to recover. That was another thing about teaching- you simply cannot afford to be ill. It takes its toll healthwise eventually, as I found out to my cost- took me a year to recover from 2 in a difficult school.

I have just come back from leaving some cover work for tomorrow but my year sevens need me teaching them as they will mess about fro a cover teacher and I have a gsce set who practically riot when I am not there and they missed a lesson with me last week as I was in a school development meeting.

But I am very very fragile, I justkeep bursting into tears for no reason and my mind is all over the place, you need to be tough to teach the kids I have tomorrow.

tandp they will manage without you, although can vouch the cover teacher won't i'm sure you need tlc more than them at the minute. Teenagers are resilient and i know they always appreciate you more, although they would never tell you, when you go back. Hope you coping x

thanks.

twinset - so sorry fr what you are going through. You must allow yourself some time.

I didn't when I had my mc. I went into work the day I started bleeding and the only day I took off was the day I had the scan to confirm everything was over and ok. Bad mistake. It really took its toil and I was a wreck TBH, looking back. Very silly thing to do thinking about it. I needed to time to deal with my loss and I didn't allow myself it. Which is why a few months later it all of a sudden came back and hit me hard.

I will bear that in mind hula, I know you used to teach so can understand why I feel the need to go in but also what could go wrong if I go in too ealy.

Thanks Hula I see you as the voice of gentle common sense on here so wil listen

LOL! Not sure about that bit

But do take care of YOU for a little while first. The children at school will be fine for a few days, nothing you can't pull them back up on if necessary.

I went in for the afternoon and managed but found it hard and came home very tired. But I do feel better for having shifted some of my workload and seen the outside world.