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My bestfriend has breast cancer....

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Coathanger · 17/03/2007 11:30

Hi.

I don't come on here as much I used to, but I knwo I can count on MN when I need some advice.

My best friend, who is 32 years old, fit, healthy etc, was diagnosed yesterday with Grade 3 breast cancer. She has had a lump for a long time....years, but last year the consultant told her it was nothing, although he carried out no tests to confirm it. 1 year on, and her prognosis hinges on a bone scan and a CT to assess the spread of the cancer.

She has 2 very young children, too, and the thought of the affect on them is unbearable.

Anyway, I am not very knowledgable about this kind of thing, I mean I check myself etc, and know the risks, but I don't know very much about the disease. So, if anyone has any advice or knowledge, perhaps you could help me

Thanks

xxxxxxxxx

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jhyesmum · 25/03/2007 11:32

Coathanger - that's really positive news. I hope her treatment goes really well.

Mum was supposed to have her CT sacn on monday but the machine has broken. She will now have it tuesday - i'm dreading it actually because i'm so scared it's somewhere really nasty.

she went to the Macmillan centre on wed about her chemo. They are more concerned about getting her pain under control and building her up. I'm so fustrated because I just want her to get better,and she won't until she has chemo and radiotherepy.

Send lots of good wishes and ((((hugs)))) to your friend and to you.

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Coathanger · 25/03/2007 22:49

jhyesmum - It just isn't good enough to have such vital machinery break down like that. I will be thinking of you and your mum on Tuesday. I hope it is positive news. {{{{{hugs}}}}} to you both xxxx

Friend starts chemo tomorrow...but still no news on bone scan...and I agree with you, Tamum, I think my friend was (understandably) worrying. I think she is emotionally wound up and picking up on tiny little things. xxx

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Pinkchampagne · 25/03/2007 22:52

Thinking of you & your friend, coathanger.xxx

KittyLetteMeEatAnEasterEgg · 25/03/2007 23:05

(((((((((((((()))))))))))))

THINKING OF YOU

Socci · 26/03/2007 11:47

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Coathanger · 27/03/2007 21:50

jhyesmum - how did your mum get on today? I have been thinking of you both xxxxx

Friend started her chemo yesterday. She was very sick all last night and she feels very tired and weak, but she is upbeat.

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pinkchampagne · 27/03/2007 21:53

Your poor friend, CH.
Really hoping for a positive outcome for her.x

jhyesmum · 28/03/2007 15:52

Hi coathanger,

Mum done good and had her scan, should find out where the cancer is Thursday. She also had a calcium transfusion too as they found her to be laking in calcium.

However, my dad called me this afternoon as I was on the way home from work and mum has now been admitted to hospital. She has an infection. I don't know where it is, but i think it's from the lump that she had the biopsy taken from as it has grown huge since then. It was the size of a pea now it is the size of an orange (i'm not exagerating!).

I'll keep you updated when dad rings me.

Thanks for your support.

How's your friend doing? i', so pleased she was getting her treatment so soon. That is so encouraging.

Tamum · 28/03/2007 16:00

I hope they manage to get the sickness under control Coathangar- still crossing fingers for news on the bone scan here. Good luck for your mother too, jhyesmum.

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jhyesmum · 28/03/2007 20:05

Just been to see mum and i am in bits. She is so poorly and i know she is slipping away. The cancer is all over.

pinkchampagne · 28/03/2007 20:08

Oh jhyesmum, I'm so sorry.

jhyesmum · 28/03/2007 20:08

Thanks pink. It's killing me TBH. Why oh why??!!

pinkchampagne · 28/03/2007 20:12

Must be so awful for you to see your mum like that, I'm so sorry.
XXXXX

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Coathanger · 28/03/2007 20:31

jhyesmum - Sweetheart, I want to give you a huge {{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}. I really am not sure what to say, as I know nothing will really help, but I can offer you a shoulder to cry on and an ear to bend. Please PM me anytime. I am thinking of you all, and praying for the best outcome possible. Sending you lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

My friend is doing fine, very weak, shaky and a bit away with the fairies due to the 2 very strong anti-emmetics she is on to combat the awful sickness. I managed to chat to her on MSN today (can't visit until third week after her chemo ) and she seems as up beat as ever. And she seems even more full of fight...she said she is determined to beat this! Her oncologist did say on Monday tat all being well, she could have this beat by September...keep those fingers crossed xxxx

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pinkchampagne · 28/03/2007 20:33

I have everything crossed for her, coathanger. She is one very brave girl.

mamama · 28/03/2007 20:40

I'm so sorry.

My friend was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of years ago at the age of 28. It was awful for her. And worse for her family. I'm so sorry to hear your friend is going through this. I know it will be hard for you too.

The good news is that my friend is doing well now - she had a lot of treatment, surgery and may never be able to have children BUT she is alive and, of course, we are all grateful for that.

{hugs}

pinkchampagne · 28/03/2007 20:42

Glad to hear your friend is doing so well now, mamama.

mamama · 28/03/2007 20:43

That didn't sound quite as positive as I intended, sorry. I just meant that it is awful to see someone go through this but that there is hope.

Will keep everything crossed for you & jhyesmum

Posey · 28/03/2007 20:47

No experience at all, but a whole lot of love and good vibes being sent to all of you who are giving strength and support to family and friends with this awful disease. As you all know, there is always someone on mn to listen, to offload on, even if we can be of no other help. So anytime...

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saffy202 · 28/03/2007 20:57

I am gobsmacked that the consultant didn't carry out further tests.
I used to work at a breast screening clinic and once we had a 13 year old girl who ended up with a masectomy

Wishing all good vibes

jhyesmum · 31/03/2007 10:29

How's your friend coathanger? I hope the treatment is working.

thought i'd just give you a bit of an update.

Mum is now out of hospital. However, she is really poorly. She's had a really bad night and my poor dad has been up all night. She hadn't taken her morphine, but she swore she had. She is so fraile and confused. She even fell over and hit her head and one of her teeth fell out. This made me cry.

She is having chemo in Tuesday, all being well. Hopefully, this will make her feel better and make her more comfortable.

I cannot believe that this is happening. It's all so quick. I don't want her to suffer. She is a very proud woman, and I know that she has know she has had cancer for a very long time. She has wanted to protect us.

I'm really pleased that your friend has found hers early. This gives her a fantastic chance of recovery.

Mum has probably had bone cancer for a very long time, and it has now spread all over.

It's so heartbreaking.

Pinkchampagne · 31/03/2007 10:34

Oh jhyesmum, this must be so awful for you all, I'm so sorry you are going through this, it must be unbearable.
Thinking of you & your family.xx

CH - how are things going with your friend?

jhyesmum · 31/03/2007 12:40

Thanks Pink xxxxx

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