My heart is broken and I need the comfort of strangers please

[Primadonnagirl]

Lost my wonderful Mum a few weeks ago and it's indescribable. Feel like everyone thinks I should have moved on and in some ways I have but just really feel it tonight. Can I have some kind words please perhaps from those of you who know what Im going though. Just feel like a little girl again and all I want it my Mum to wipe away my tears.Sorry not v interesting I know but I'm desperate

Oh bless you OP - let it out, just let the grief flood out tonight. You're amongst friends and 'strangers' who care. We're all here holding your hand.

Losing your Mum is so primal, so raw and enormous. Be kind and let your grief take its course, no matter how it looks, no matter how long it takes.

I'm so sorry for your loss

Hi All. Just quick update. I have actually had a positive day today. Feel so much calmer. I know that despair wil come back but just wanted to let you know you helped me through a dark night. There's so much stick on here about us being a random bunch of people on the Internet....I've said it myself at times! But I just knew I only had to ask and the support would be there. Thanks again x

Glad to hear you feel a bit better.

Well done. Glad you had a better day. I found it helpful to read all the posts too.

You're totally welcome. Do come back on here and chat with us further at any point if you need to....and above all else, be kind to yourself

Chumpster, I'm sorry for the loss of your Mum also

It's still so early and the pain is so raw when it's sudden. I remember it well, I also remember the anger at people telling me they'd lost their father when to me that was incomparable. Is just lost my mum. Yes your dad has died but you still see you mum, have a cup of tea, share stuff about the children. You still have that emotional support that only a mother can give. It's sad that you've list your dad but it's not the same. I lost a good friend by spouting that but it was how I felt at the time. Even years later, and having subsequently lost my dad too, I still feel that the emotional impact of losing your mum is huge and often, if you're a young mum yourself, you lose so much more in the way of emotional as well as practical support. I have 3 boys then had my DD 2.5yrs ago. I think they all need me whilst they're young but I think if I died when they were all in their late 20s, early 30s, then DD would feel my loss the most, especially if she had young children. I will try and hand into life as long as possible for her, which may be challenging as I didn't have her until I was 43!
Look after yourself x

i lost my mum a few months ago. so sorry OP. it's f-king awful what you're going through. it will never be OK that our mums aren't here anymore. x

If it helps, it helped me to keep reminding myself that my children were healthy. That may not help you but it's something that helped me in the darkest moments.