My husband died yesterday

[toriap2]

My husband died in his sleep early Monday morning. I have a devastated 12 year old I am trying to be strong for but I just want to hide. Everyone has been so lovely but I just want him back.

Thankyou. Sleep well xx

I want to send you a massive hug. My DP died nearly 9 years ago.
I know exactly how you feel. I found a forum online that really helped me out. It was a real comfort. I'll try and find it. Xxx

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I don't know how to do links! I used this forum for a long time. I still pop on occasionally to check in and let the newer members know that it really does get easier.
More big comforting hugs for you. Xxx

Thankyou so much for tat Mrs Trent and I am sorry for your loss also xx

I'm so sorry to hear of your awful and it sounds like very unexpected loss. You are a remarkable mum and your DH sounds like he was a wonderful man and father. I'm glad you have friends gathering and I hope they will stick with you in the weeks and months not just days - don't be afraid to ask people to do specific things to help you, whether that's some cleaning or just being with you when you go to places ghats are full of memories. I hope you have some answers soon and that they help, and that DDs decision to go to school brings her some normality.
Have you slept? Do see your doctor if that's adding to the acute difficulties you're in.

I'm so sorry this has happened, I can't add to the good advice you've had here, I just didn't want to read and run. Take care xx

Toriap2, just want to send you my sympathy and prayers. You sound a lovely person. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your girl. xx

So sorry for your loss. Your husband sounds like he was a lovely man.
Please let people know (perhaps throgh your mum) that you want to talk about him and remember all the cool, crazy things he has done.
Sometimes people on the outside are just so scared of doing or saying the worng thing, they say nothing when all you want to do is remember him....

My stepmother was found dead in July. No one expected it and it was very sudden. Her 14yr old daughter went to school the next day. There were police and undertakers etc etc at home and it was no place for her.
I'd let your child do whatever they want to do. No one will be thinking straight at the moment.
I'm so very sorry for your loss.

A long way down the line but I started taking my stepsister to exercise classes a couple of weeks after her mother died. We went four times a week and it really helps her have something else to focus on.
Her and my dad created a photo collage to put up after the funeral to get people talking about her life.
I'm so glad you have someone with you.

Oh toriap2. Please accept my sincere condolences. I can't imagine.

Keep safe.

DD seems to be doing ok at school. I did phone and ask and they very knidly checked and reported she was quiet but fine. Work have been lovely and sent gorgeous cards and flowers and friends are still bringing food and cake. Thankyou all for your kind thoughts. It helps so much xx

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I can't imagine what you're going through toriap2, sending my sincere condolences to you and your DD.

I'm so sorry xxxx

I'm sorry for your loss

oh love, i am so sorry for you and your dd. so sorry xx

So sorry to read this Toria.
I'm glad you have your Mum with you for support, and other people helping you. It's a huge shock for you and people will want to help if they can.

I'm sure your daughter will get support at school from staff and her friends.

My DH died 7 years ago, not a sudden or unexpected death. Our three children went to school apart from the day of the funeral, they wanted to go and I'm glad they did as they gained a lot of support there whilst things were very hectic and difficult at home.

I joined WAY widowed and Young, lots of support and friendships made, in time that may help both you and your daughter.

Thankyou all again for your kind words and good advice. I am sorry .i didnt reply sooner but people have been visiting all day and the washer broke. Dd managed school but was so tired after it was dinner, bath p, bed. Xx

Thinking about you and your daughter. I have no words of comfort. Please know there is always someone around on MN 24 hours a day. Xx

Thankyou so much. The coroner released the certificate today so i can start arranging things. I really don't want to as this will make it real if you know what I mean. Until now, it was just like he was in one of his trips to hospital. My mum has been so ace.

I imagine this must be one of the worst hard parts. Facing the reality, the actual goneness. The next days will be very busy for you. It may feel like you are running through a dream. Sometimes it is very easy to forget to take care of yourself during times of great stress. Eating, drinking, even a bit of exercise, like a walk, all good ways of looking after yourself.

I'm so happy your mum is there for you. I'm sure you dd is much comforted by having her Grandmother around too. Sending hugs to you all.

Sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry to read your posts OP - I can't imagine what you're going through. My sincerest condolences. I will be thinking of you and wishing you and your daughter strength