Ectopic Pregnancy

[dg1]

Home from hospital after early removal of an ectopic pregnancy and left tube. Only 3 months since I miscarried @ 11 weeks. Anyone with happy stories of carrying to full term after ectopic will be very welcome, life seems desperately unfair at the moment.

dg1 so sorry to hear about this - I had an ectopic and tube removal 2 months ago. Not tried again since, but will do after Christmas - we decided to give ourselves a break and enjoy Christmas with dd.

I hope someone is along soon with some positive stories.

Thinking of you and sending hugs

so sorry for your loss dg1

yes, it is unfair

there are a few of us here that have become parents post-ep i believe

i too lost my left tube with an ectopic pg back in june 2003. i subsequently had 2 early mcs, but i am now mum to 18mo ds and am 5wks pg again

it is even possible to conceive when you ovulate on your "bad" side - i ovulated on my tubeless side when i fell pg with ds

i would urge you to check out the ectopic pregnancy trust website and the message boards there - it was my lifeline after my ep

good luck with your recovery - be gentle with yourself. i had 8 weeks off work and was emotionally battered for some time

here if you have any other questions/concerns - feel free to CAT me if you prefer xx

So sorry to hear this, dg1 and bellie, it is tough. I had an ectopic at 11 weeks in early 2004 and had the tube removed as well. In summer 2004 I conceived ds2 and he is currently sitting here with pasta all over his hair . It took longer to conceive him than it did my other two (ds1 is nearly 6 and dd is 3.5) but it was still only a few months of trying. I was given an early scan to check ds2's position and after that was fine, my pregnancy was as normal as anything. Can I also add, my GP told me about one of her patients who had conceived even though she was missing her right ovary and her left tube - so eggs were getting right across to the remaining tube from the opposite ovary. I thought that was amazing. My ectopic hit me hard, so take it easy on yourselves. Good luck!

(hi wilbur - didn't know you were a post-ep-er - see below that ds is a tubeless side baby!)

I had an ectopic pregnancy which ruptured and resulted in me losing my right tube. Had fertility treatment which confirmed left tube was not blocked. I had 5 or 6 miscarriages and then after I stopped "trying" thinking I would never have children, lost weight and started getting on with life, I got pregnant with DS who is now 7. A couple of years later I had another miscarriage, then started fertility treatment again. I started getting stressed about it again and decided to be happy with DS and forget about another baby. Literally the week I threw away the pushchair I discovered I was pregnant again and DD is 2.5. There is hope, the key thing for me was finding out my left tube was ok, losing weight and not getting stressed about it (easier said than done I know!). Good luck.

i'm so very sorry to hear this, dg1 and bellie, having an ep is very frightening and of course it does scare the shit out of you for the future.
i had two, one treated with methotrexate and the next (in the same tube) was treated laparoscopically. tbh i was glad to get rid of the tube in the end, i think it was knackered after the first ep.
i conceived dd four months after the op and she is currently dancing to the tune of My Girl Lollipop while waiting for her dinner.
i well remember the fear involved... will this happen again, will i be destined never to have any children etc etc
it's normal to feel all these things, and while the hurt stays with you it does get blunted by time. i second Tutter's advice to go to the EPT website as well, they saved my life at the time. there is a nurse there called Izzie who is a bloody saint, tbh, and you can phone her if you are feeling terrible and she'll talk you off the ledge... she did it for me quite a few times.
i'm so sorry, it's utterly shit to lose a pregnancy in such a violent and frightening way, once again please accept my sincerest sympathies. just shout out if you need anything.
kindest regards,
h x

I'm so sorry, I had an ectopic 2 years ago, and it threw my hormones to whack. I got very little support from traditional medicine, which I found really frustrating, but eventually found that acupuncture and reflexology was amazing at restoring me to what I would call normal, also hugely comforting to have people on your side. Be really really good to yourself, wishing you all the very best xx

I had a ruptured ectopic 5 years ago and subsequently lost my left tube and ovary. It took a couple of years after, but I've got the most beautiful 3 year old boy! Never give up hope! You're body will let you get pregnant when it's ready. Good Luck x

hi dg1,
how are you doing this morning? it might take a good while til you feel anything like yourself, don't worry about it, it takes time. same to bellie, tbh,
h

Hi dg
Very sorry to hear of your ectopic, take care xx
I had a ruptured ectopic in Nov 05, right tube removed as well
I am 23 weeks pregnant now, conceiving did take a while - obv had to wait 6 mths after the ectopic. I did have at least oen early miscarriage before this pregnancy though.
Remember your chance of conceiving does not go down by 50% with the loss of the tube, it goes down to about 75% as the other tube can attract an egg from the other ovary.
But for now rest up, eat well and recover xxxxxx

I had an ectopic when I was 19 (17 years ago)was on the mini pill so they say that could have been why, I had part of my left tube removed , was always told by doctors my fertilty should not be issue due to same as Piffle , to be honest because I was quite young never thought a great deal about it until my late twenties , but I too conceived no problem and my daughter is now 5 years. I am sure everything will be ok for you in the future , I can remember quite clearly though how traumatic the operation and the few weeks after felt.

Thanks to everyone for such kind thoughts and encouraging experiences. Feel emotionally battered though, keep bursting into tears.

Piffle... can you explain your "obv 6 months" comment? All advice I was given in hospital was just to wait til cycle returned to normal i.e. 1 period before trying to conceive again.

dg1 - the trouble is that different docs and hospitals give diff advice in terms of how long to wait. i was told 3 cycles and i had full surgery (laparotomy). it might be worth having a look at the ept's advice - iirc it's 2 or 3 cycles.

emotional recovery is really important - i know there's no way i'd have been ready after only 1 month. i know it's hard - you're eager to try again and get on with it, but it might be worth waiting a couple of months til you feel back on an even keel again

xx

the ectopic pregnancy trust advises waiting three cycles, dg1, just to let everything heal internally and to let any bleeding disperse. one of my docs told me one month, the other told me six, so that was confusing to say the least and i decided to go with the EPT recommendation. there are issues with letting methotrexate go out of your system if that's how the ectopic was treated, but if you had the op you don't need to think about that.
can i be perfectly honest with you? when i was told three months i thought that seemed an age... i realised later i actually needed that time to get over the shock of losing my pregnancy and to grieve for what might have been my future. i feel for you, really i do... it's a confusing and painful time

sorry, x-posted with Tutter.

I had to wait 6 mths as I had full stomach surgery if you had keyhole/laproscopy then your healing will be much quicker hopefully.
Also what I found the hardest was that you are expected to be so relieved your life was saved (I was very touch and go as had lots of internal bleeding) and you are unable to grieve properly for your lost pregnancy /fertility.
Hope you're ok today dg1 xx

Yes, I've got a success story, I have been through quite a bit while trying to get pregnant. Tried to conceive for 4 years with no joy, 1st attempt at IVF resulted in a failure, 2nd attempt at IVF also a failure, 3rd attempt abborted as the IVF clinic found out that I was pregnant but with an eptopic, 4th IVF attempt successful and now have a 4 year old dd. And then a little miracle happened and I fell pregnant naturall and gave birth to another little dd. Also during that time I had surgery to remove an ovarian cyst. I didnt have any tubes removed, but have lots of scar tissue from the surgery and eptopic.

sorry to hear that you had an ectopic, you wanted some positive stories.... after two years of trying i got pregnant, sadly it was ectopic and i lost both baby & tube, we were told to leave it 6 weeks before trying, i went for my 6 week check and the consultant said if you are not pregnant within 2 years we will look at IVF, what i didn't know was that i was already pregnant...with twins!
i later went on to have an early miscarrige and then went on to have DS, i then became an egg donor as my family was complete.

If you just want some one to chat to in a simular situation,then I had an epctopic pregnancy and left tube removed two weeks ago. I am also still bursting into tears all over the place. I also had a miscarrige this summer and feel this year has just been one huge roller coster of emotions. My thoughts are with you and your family.

oh surreynanny, what a shame. do try the EPT website for support, they really are good. it's hard to explain how AWFUL an EP is to anyone else...

it does get better, though, but it takes a while and there will be lots of sadness to get there. am very sorry to hear of yoru miscarriage also.

I'm really sorry for all your losses. I had a m/c in 99 followed by an ectopic pg in 2000, removal of one tube and didn't dare try for another baby. I already had dd1 in 93 and was bleeding heavily during 1st trimester then so I decided that my body was not up to it. Until I met a top chinese doctor. First he corrected my back problem which could be a factor for m/c. He then gave me herbal remedies and to follow a strict diet to get my body back into a child bearing state. I was not allowed to try until he told me to.

After 6 months, I was given the green light. I got pg first time and no spotting or bleeding. My ds is now 3.5 and I've also got dd2 by accident who is 21 months.

Sometimes we may think that we are in good health but there maybe something wrong inside that we do not know about. Our body will normally tell us by rejecting the foetus. It hurts loads but you have to be strong and build up your health so your baby can be in the best enviornment for the crucial time of his/her life.

I have been lucky to have ds and dd2. I'd like to wish you all luck who are ttc. Waiting to see loads of baby announcements on MN next year. Yes, you can still have a baby after m/c or an ectopic.

I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy because my hgc hormone levels were not doubling... they monitored my levels for a week or so and at one point I noticed a significant increase at one point from 450 to 950. They told me that it wasn't enough and i had to decide either methotrexate or surgery to remove my 'ectopic' pregnancy. I had to get my head around the whole thing and my husband and i chose the injection. I had it under the advice of the doctors only to find one week later that the pregnancy was infact normal (gest sac found in the womb). They made a mistake. They terminated a perfectly normal baby. This was last tuesday. The hospital are investigating their mistake.

Oh goodness, flickpeacock . Am so sorry and for you.

flickpeacock, that is AWFUL

you poor thing

you must be reeling?