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Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

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Ectopic Pregnancy

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dg1 · 21/11/2006 18:09

Home from hospital after early removal of an ectopic pregnancy and left tube. Only 3 months since I miscarried @ 11 weeks. Anyone with happy stories of carrying to full term after ectopic will be very welcome, life seems desperately unfair at the moment.

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BudaBauble · 17/12/2006 09:58

Hi flickpeacok - are you Locket's friend? I have been thinking of you a lot this week. This seems so unbelievably terrible.

There is lots of support here - hope you find it helps a little.

flickpeacock · 17/12/2006 10:03

emotions come and go with the settling hormones.. have to be strong and look forward. At least we know that we can have a pregnancy in the womb.... had PID when younger so there was always a scare of ectopic for us. We can't wait for the 3 months to be over and for another go! It will always be baby number 2 though! So lucky to have suppport of dh and family. Our bad luck is hopefully passed now and we can look forward to the next little peacock!

flickpeacock · 17/12/2006 10:04

Yes I am lockets friend... she has been great and her kids have been gorgeous to cuddle
x

BudaBauble · 17/12/2006 10:06

You sound very positive and that will help you as you go on.

Hugs.

flickpeacock · 17/12/2006 10:09

thanks. think i may need to chat over the next few weeks.

MomOnTheRun · 17/12/2006 11:21

FlickPeacock so sorry to hear that. How can they make such a mistake! Wish that you would get pg and have a lovely child soon.

StrangeTown · 17/12/2006 14:00

Hi Flick, was so sad when I heard what had happened to you, am really glad you have felt able to come and chat to us.

I hope you are able to take some time off now and maybe have an extended break over Christmas. Spending some time on yourself and DH and with family.

I am TTC again in new year following a m/c couple of months ago. Waiting to try again is a difficult and emotional time, I didn't want to think about another pregnancy/baby, I wanted the one I'd lost. This must be even harder for you, thinking of you and hope you are ok.

cedar12 · 19/12/2006 14:09

dg1 I am so sorry about you ectopic pregnancy. I had an ectopic 18months ago, I promise you wont feel like this forever. I still get upset sometime now but i still enjoy life. When you decide to starting trying again dont let it take over your life as I am sure me getting so stressed hasnt helped us. I sure every thing will work out in the end I hope youve got lots of people to support you. Thinking of you and your family look after yourself and get plenty of rest

cecillia · 21/12/2006 00:00

I am sorry to hear about what happened to you. I also had an ectopic pregnancy three years ago. It was all surreal. I found out I was pregnant but than started having strange pains. I had a scan and they told me that I had an ovarian ectopic pregnancy. I had to have an emergency surgery. Afterwards they told me that they could not find anything in my ovary and assured me that I must have miscarried before the surgery. I spent the next three years staring at my scar and trying to make sense of it all. I now have the same scar but a bit bigger due to my cesarian eleven months ago. My daughter is next door, and still not asleep! Just hang on in there. You are not alone.

smellymelly · 26/12/2006 19:18

Sorry you are dealing with this..

I had an ectopic in 2003, it was the reason I found mumsnet actually. It ruptured in Paris and I lost my right tube, it was awful I think people underestimate the fear of dying as well as coping with losing a baby. I was told to maybe wait for 3 months I think before trying, but 4 months later after only trying properly for 1 month I got pregnant with boy/girl twins, which means I ovulated twice and both eggs travelled down the same tube. They have just celebrated their 2nd birthday!! We call them our miracle kids!

TwoIfBySanta · 26/12/2006 19:47

dg1 how about this story then to cheer you up during what feels like the worst time in your life. I had an ectopic Feb '99, lost my left tube and was told that I would not be likely to ever have a baby of my own.

Well, I had two of them, at the same time, my dts were born Dec 01.

There is hope, there is light but I wish I had been offered counselling as I would have loved to speak to someone over my lost baby. Too many people said to me that it just wasn't meant to happen which might be meaning well but to me, even at 8 weeks gestation, it was still my much longed for baby. If you are offered counselling grab it with both hands, especially as you have two losses now, allow yourself to grieve or 6 years later, like me, you will still feel that one of your babies is missing.

TwoIfBySanta · 26/12/2006 19:49

Oh and I should add that my dts were conceived naturally, without needed IVF as the doctors had told me. So miracles can happen.

PinkElephant · 03/01/2007 15:01

I never even thought of looking on these threads - that just shows you what is happening to me right now hasn't even sunk in yet. I was rushed in at the end of last week and found to have an ectopic. My Beta HCG weren't rising enough and the scan showed an area to the left of my womb below the fallopian tube which was "strange". I'm being treated with methotrexate and in the throws of having bloods checked, I'm not sure if they are responding yet. I just want it all to be over now and feel like I am slowly killing my baby with these drugs, its a horrible feeling. Everything feels like its on hold until my bloods settle and I have a period and then I can feel its all over. I guess having 3months off TTC does give you time to recover. Just hope I don't need another injection and then have to wait 6months!!

Flickpeacock - this is awful news and is at the back of my mind constantly, what if .....what if..... It must have been so hard to deal with.

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