Time between death and funeral

[AlexBu123]

Hi All,

A friend of mine lost her only son at the start of April. She had to wait more than 3 weeks to bury him. This is clearly a very traumatic period from death to funeral. I feel that something should be done to speed this process up for grieving parents. Could I ask peoples views on this?

Does the time between death and funeral matter?

If it does, does it also effect the long term coping with the death?

What are the processes of dealing with a child's death over and above an adults death?

What ways might the process be sped up?

Any other thoughts of opinion?

Thanks

Alex

My mum died 6 months ago and she was about 3 weeks for burial - that was in part because my sister was in hospital and we delayed it a bit to see if my sister could come . The grave was already there with my dad in it - it is a 3 person grave so my mum went in there.

3 weeks ago my sister died - she had a long term illness, but it was unexpected and she was referred to the coroner because it was sudden. She had a post mortem and she wasn't free for a funeral for about a week whilst the paperwork from coroners was done and post mortem. I arranged the funeral and it was exactly two weeks after she died.

Talking to the minister at my local church - we were very fortunate - for cremation where I live, the waiting time is almost a month... Xx

Sorry for all of you with recent losses

Was talking with coroner and mortuary staff recently, Delays can vary due to time of year, winter has longer waits due to higher death numbers especially amongst elderly, also just the backlog and that yes, high population for number of people / places involved in all aspects of funerals means can often be long waits

Recently we had a five week wait for an elderly relative who needed no further investigations - it was all down to the crematorium being busy. Really I think this is too long and the anticipated death of an elderly person isn't unexpected but how if must feel for some others I can't imagine. Certainly I have needed the funerals to be out of the way for other losses.

It does matter, long term it matters less but those early weeks do matter in how you adapt and manage the grieving process.

We just had a funeral for my mum three weeks after she died. The crematorium was booked up and there were people away we wanted to be there. My sister freaked out at the thought of the wait initially, but for me it was better, more time to write the eulogy and organise the service we wanted. And she's still going to be dead in ten years and it'll still be hard