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Our beautiful baby boy

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Cakebaker35 · 04/11/2014 08:46

was born on 21st October and died on 29th October in our arms. I don't know how I will ever feel ok again. I miss him so so much, he was just beautiful. How do you ever learn to live with something like this? Our dd is the only reason for getting out of bed at the moment but I'm worried our sadness will take its toll on her but I just can't be 'normal'. I feel so so empty.

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EarthDays · 06/11/2014 17:53

I'm sorry you're going through this, it's beyond words.

I can't think of anything adequate to say, apart from you have my most heartfelt condolences to you and your husband, and I'm glad you're getting some good real life support.

MarshaBrady · 06/11/2014 17:56

I'm so sorry for your loss cakebaker, so sorry.

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TallGiraffes · 06/11/2014 18:04

Oh Cakebaker I'm so so sorry. I remember you from the mc thread earlier in the year.

I have no possible words of comfort other than your son knew love for the whole of his life and left this world surrounded by it. Thanks

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Cakebaker35 · 06/11/2014 18:15

Thank you x his name was William and I miss him terribly

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Itsfab · 06/11/2014 18:25

Cakebaker35 - I am so sorry for your loss of Baby William.

I have no idea what words to say but just wanted to say a stranger is thinking of you and weeping for your son and your loss.

RIP William.

Noregretsatall · 06/11/2014 18:38

So so sorry Cakebaker, sending love and strength for the days ahead. Xxxx

MontserratCaballe · 06/11/2014 18:46

Dear Cakebaker, thank you for telling us about William. I am so sorry for your loss.

I am sure Monday will be hard but you will get through it. Can you ask a relative or a friend to be on hand to look after your daughter during the ceremony? That way she can be taken out if she needs to be by someone she knows so you can concentrate on your feelings. It might make you feel a bit easier knowing someone is ready to scoop her up if she needs it.

Sending you love and best wishes. Thinking of you Flowers

chickydoo · 06/11/2014 18:50

So very sorry for the loss of your baby x

blurredlines · 06/11/2014 18:58

So sorry for your loss. You are a extremely brave lady and I wish you and your family all the very best x

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Cakebaker35 · 06/11/2014 21:22

Thank you so much for your kindness. We have decided that dd will go to preschool on the day of the funeral, this is normal routine for her and she loves it. I couldn't stand for her to see us in bits, and everyone else too. She has seen us cry at home and although she understands why in her simple way, it does make her anxious so I feel the occasion would overwhelm her. I'm dreading the day but also need it to happen. Feels so strange.

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imme · 06/11/2014 21:30

So very sorry to read this, your story brought tears to my eyes. Sending you strength for the next months! Flowers

Likeaninjanow · 06/11/2014 21:37

I'm so very, very sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy.

Cherryblossom11 · 06/11/2014 21:38

So so sorry for your loss. You will always carry William in your heart.

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 06/11/2014 21:38

Thinking of you, cakebaker, and of your precious William. I will remember you all on Monday.

QOD · 06/11/2014 21:42

So sorry for the loss of your son, and all the other babies and children lost on this thread. The pain is unimaginable
so dreadfully sorry

Luciferbox · 06/11/2014 21:43

I am so sorry for your loss xx

MollyBdenum · 06/11/2014 21:45

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking of you, and William and the rest of your family.

whohasnickedmyvodka · 06/11/2014 21:49

Cake I lost my little girl on the 18th October 18+2 days if you want to talk please pm me xxxx

yellowdinosauragain · 06/11/2014 22:27

William is a beautiful name. So so sorry he could only be with you for such a short time. He'll always be with you in your hearts and with time hopefully memories of him will bring more than just pain and disbelief. I'll be thinking of you on Monday x

EugenesAxe · 06/11/2014 23:02

Such a sad story; I am really sorry for the loss of your William. I can't imagine the pain of seeing any loved one as they pass but I'm glad it comforted you; you know he was in his favourite place when he went and that he must have been feeling as content as he could.

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PacificDogwood · 06/11/2014 23:09

cakebaker, I am so very sorry that you and your DH did not get to spend more time with your son. William is clearly much loved and will have left a huge gap in your lives.
My heartfelt condolences to you all - you most of all Thanks

Your long post about his short life was so very eloquent and heartbreaking. Look after yourself and hopefully with time there'll be some healing possible for you.

PuppyMouse · 06/11/2014 23:17

OP you are so brave. I have tears streaming down my face reading William's story. I hope one day you can find peace and that your amazing DH can help you through this.

stupidlittlegirl · 06/11/2014 23:23

Cake i am so terribly sorry for the loss of little william. X

thoughtsbecomethings · 06/11/2014 23:26

Such sad news my thoughts are with you all at this moment in your life which u never forget but time will make it more bearable.x