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Have just lost my baby at 25 weeks

187 replies

Sleepathon · 25/08/2013 12:49

I am sat with my hubby in hospital and have just been told that baby has died, there is no heartbeat.

I haven't really cried although my hubby is in bits. They are about to give me a tablet which will get things going to induce labour.

This was my first pregnancy. I think I may be in shock cos all I can think of is the practical things. Like cancelling the furniture order which is being delivered on Wednesday. Yesterday we did a massive shop, ordered a travel system, bought bedding, a cuddly toy etc. I have just cancelled an Asda order due for delivery where I had bought some nappies and sudocream etc.

The thing I am dreading is telling the rest of my family and my friends. I hate pity and I hate people feeling sorry for me. My family are all going to want to come round and I don't think I want to see them just yet.

I am scared about how I'm going to feel in the following months. It took us 18 months to conceive. Am I right in thinking I will get full maternity leave as baby is going to be classed as stillborn rather than miscarriage? One of my best friends at work is pregnant. And another has just had her baby.

What am I going to do with all the baby clothes I have bought? Sad

Please say a prayer for us.
Any advice on coping is appreciated x

OP posts:
larlemucker · 27/08/2013 20:43

Thinking of you and you DP. You are in my prayers ??

Ledkr · 27/08/2013 20:52

I just cannot imagine your pain. I'm so sorry and will also be thinking of you all.
Useless words but I couldn't just read it and go.

tinypumpkin · 27/08/2013 20:52

I have been thinking of you today, your DP and your beautiful Ibrahim. No words but much love (if I can say that on MN) .

MargueriteA · 27/08/2013 20:57

Thinking of you and your Ibrahim x

PistachioTruffle · 27/08/2013 21:12

I'm so sorry for your loss, thinking of you, your family and Ibrahim Flowers

Hopingforno2 · 27/08/2013 21:32

Thinking of you all Flowers

fedupofrainydays · 27/08/2013 22:24

Just read this post and cried my eyes out. Hope you are ok sleep. Saying prayers tonight for you three xxxxx

ratbagcatbag · 27/08/2013 22:32

Thinking of you Flowers

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 28/08/2013 00:03

Thinking of you all tonight sleep. Flowers

kohl · 28/08/2013 00:21

Am so sorry, thinking of you and have said a prayer.x

AmericasTorturedBrow · 28/08/2013 00:42

Just seen the thread and thinking of you too, so so sorry for your loss

SisterMatic · 28/08/2013 00:51

Thinking of you and your family, I am so sorry for your loss x

hashtagwhatever · 28/08/2013 00:54

thinking of you and your dh x

PramQueen1971 · 28/08/2013 00:59

Thinking of you and your husband. Take very great care x

Original poster
Sleepathon · 28/08/2013 02:24

Well he is the most beautiful little boy I have ever seen. He looks so peaceful. Got all of his dads features, long fingers, big feet and hairy ears!

We are having lots of cuddles and it feels nice. Don't want to waste the opportunity! Have said lots of prayers to him. Can't stop looking at him...

My gorgeous sleeping angel. He is getting buried tomorrow near his auntie, she'll keep an eye on him.

Thank you all xxx

OP posts:
LinusVanPelt · 28/08/2013 03:10

Ibrahim sounds wonderful :) Congratulations on delivering your beautiful baby. You have given him a gorgeous name, and I'm glad that you'll have memories of cuddles and nice feelings meeting him.

I am so, so sorry that you're going to have to say goodbye. It's so unfair. You will always have him in your heart, and the thought of him being with his auntie is lovely too.

Wishing you lots of strength and support in the days ahead. x

Secretswitch · 28/08/2013 03:49

Dear Sleep, my heart is aching for you and your husband. Ibrahim sounds like a beautiful baby boy. I will pray for you all. I wish I had words to soothe and comfort you. Sending love and hugs..xx

BeaWheesht · 28/08/2013 07:02

He sounds adorable.

Much love

fedupofrainydays · 28/08/2013 07:25

He sounds so lovely and so precious. Hope you know that he goes straight to heaven and you will meet him again one day xx

imip · 28/08/2013 07:29

((((Sleep))))) give him a lifetimes worth of cuddles. Congratulations on delivering your baby boy. Make the most of this short time with your whole family. Peace and love to you and your dh. When you have the chance, please feel free to post all the details of your labour if you wish to share.

Love imip xxxx

Munxx · 28/08/2013 07:29

I will also say some prayers for you and your family and precious little Ibrahim. Much love. I am so sorry for your loss.

toffeelolly · 28/08/2013 07:53

Thinking of you and your husband in the coming weeks. Your little angel will always be with you. Take care xxx

LottieJenkins · 28/08/2013 16:33

For Ibrahim and his mummy and daddy

Too Soon - Mary Yarnall

This was a life that had hardly begun
No time to find your place in the Sun
No time to do all you could have done
But we loved you enough for a lifetime

No time to enjoy the world and it's wealth
No time to take life down off the shelf
No time to sing the songs of yourself
Though you had enough love for a lifetime

Those who live long endure sadness and tears
But you'll never suffer the sorrowing years
No betrayal, no anger, no hatred, no fears
Just love - Only love - In your lifetime.

Mary Yarnall

Pinupgirl · 28/08/2013 16:44

I am so sorry for the loss of your son op. I have suffered a similar thing and would be more than haopy to chat or offer any advice you may need. Please feel free to pm me.

PGRated · 28/08/2013 16:58

Sorry for your loss OP. Your son sounds beautiful. Sad