Could do with some hand-holding please?

[ChubbyKitty]

Horrific accident in my parents house. Mum and grandad have both gone, dad is stable, and only found one of three cats.

I'm 21, I did not expect to lose my mum this soon at all. It hasn't even sunk in properly yet, and I know when it does I will be completely destroyed. What do I even do

Not yet, apparently the investigation will be done in like a week or so. FLO is back on duty tomorrow so hopefully will get some kind of update on everything.

I think you're probably right. It'll more likely hit me when we get them back and we'll all get some closure as well hopefully.

Forgot to ask how your dad is doing now. Bet he was happy that your cat family has grown to two ! Sounds like they are in for some good pampering from you ! Any news about the one in a box ?

No news about anything yet

He's really pleased about the cats. I rang him as soon as we got her home and she purred down the phone at his voice which was super cute.

Ah that is so sweet, how s dad doing emotionally. Was it his dad or your mums ? Such a lot to take in for you all xx

It was his dad. Emotionally I think he's destroyed he's just not one of those people who likes to show it, but I know it's there.

Oh that is so sad, I hope in time he will feel able to move on and still have an enjoyable life, but I realise this will be difficult for him. I'm sure you will support each other and help each other through. Any special plans fr the weekend ? Expecting a mixture of weather here so will have to arrange things wether permitting.
Hope the cats at enjoying seeing each other again xx

Baked him a cake for Sunday and taking his card and present. And drinks with the ILs tomorrow night which should be nice, take my mind off things and get out for a bit.

Hi chubby, cake sounds lovely. Have a super day with your dad tomorrow.ask him to send me a slice I can't be bothered to make cakes any more. My mum used to make all of us a cake each week. Now she isn't here I don't have the enthusiasm to make one myself.

My mum used to make a lot of cheesecake because she had a rubbish oven that burnt normal cake. And then we'd eat the whole thing in one sitting

Hi, how did today go?

I love cheesecake.

Today was great, he really loved his card and present and the cake was brilliant if I do say so myself

It is all starting to sink in a bit more, very slowly.

I hope you saved me some

You are still doing brilliantly, are you off work for a while yet?

It all got inhaled by me someone.

I have another 2 weeks and then I'm going back on reduced hours. But so far there's been no news about anything at all so I have no idea how work will fit around everything else.

So it was good cake then ?!

I still haven't got biscuits for the base! Im going to attempt a lemon meringue pie. Was going to be Key Lime but there were no limes.

This waiting for reports, releases etc is taking a long time Chubby, I suppose the only good thing about the wait is that you get chance to prepare yourself.

Hows the cats? Have you been watching the secret life of cats on tv? Amazing stuff!

Last time I did cheesecake I used hobnobs and it was beautiful

The waiting is getting a bit tiring now. I have no idea how or when ill be able to go back to work, as I can't exactly fit busy shifts around the investigations and funerals and whatnot. And yet I need to pay the bills, I've for my Avon but I can't say it covers the rent! Work can't give me sick pay because I wasn't there long enough before it happened() but I've heard I can still take the sick note to the job centre? Or apparently there's some kind of bereavement benefit? I have no idea about these things

Im coming to yours for cake! Funny enough cake came through the post today!

Bereavement benefit? That sounds like its definitely worth looking into. Not heard of that one but who knows what benefits there are we dont get told about. Apply for housing benefit too. I hope it all gets sorted for you, its been a long time.

What are you doing to keep yourself busy? Have you been addicted to Candy Crush yet?

Aha no I'm still on Simpsons Tapped Out! Most of my friends and DP have up on it months ago

I also seem to be ageing quite a lot. But Avon has slowed that time bomb down so I still look under 30 for now

Just doing silly stuff really. Sunday night I had a Disney marathon, today I went shopping and got hello kitty socks and a new cat tray. Also had a pub lunch with DP. Tomorrow were going to Nottingham so I can demolish the Disney Store and insert its contents into my house

Im stuck on level feckin' 65!

I love the Disney store, there's one in the Trafford Centre and Asda across the road from there have a mahoosive Disney area too. I got loads of nightmare before xmas stuff.

Ive been using the green serum to fade the pigmentation thats appeared on my face since having the boys, seems to be helping I just need something to tighten my skin.

Everyone needs Hello Kitty in their life my middle boy pinched mine!

Im currently sporting the superhero lounge pants from Avon as this is how I roll.

Hi chubby. I think that if you don't have enough money to pay for funeral stuff you can get help with that, if I remember rightly my old neighbour even had money for flowers too when her dh died. But it may be different now, but it's worth asking. And I would also ask housing about any benefits you could claim. Council tax, rent etc. they can only say yes or no.
I would of loved your cheesecake cake I love hobnob biscuits ! One of my favourites. Did your dad enjoy his cake, I note you didn't save any for us.
No indication of any dates yet then ? What is taking so long. Have they found what caused it to happen yet ? It's a long time for you all to wait isn't it xx

Aha I'm ordering those lounge pants for DP! We've done really well this time round so I feel he deserves it.

My dad really liked his cake! He laughed at the bit that had peeled off and been filled over with icing. Bloody silicon moulds!

No dates or anything yet. It's getting crazy, it'll be a month tomorrow

Hi, I don't know if you can send private messages but im 24 and lost my mum in February, 5 weeks before I was due to give birth to my beautiful 2nd daughter. Please believe me, it is so difficult at the start and an uphill struggle But I promise it gets easier. I miss my mum all of the time and think about her 24/7. She was my best friend and feel like im missing a limb without her and the thought of living the rest of my life without her is scary. But please don't suffer in silence. And cry. Crying is good and will make you feel better in the long run. My mum died suddenly too but once you get over the shock it gets easier. Feel free to message me. I'm in the same boat. You are not alone. Take care xx

ilovemybabies we have a thread for people who are grieving for a mum/dad. Please feel free to join us there
here

Not sure that link will work, but please come over there. But please support chubby on her thread too. Sorry for your loss.

Ilovemybabies I am very sorry to hear that. It makes it worse that you were about to become a mum yourself.

I had a panic when it happened as my AF was due a week after and never came(3weeks late). I'd hate to think I could have been having her grandchild and never even got to tell her!

It does make it harder that she knew about my baby and was excited but as she died suddenly, we had no idea she wouldn't meet her. Very sad. How are you feeling?