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As we go through this painful journey together

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lavandes · 10/02/2013 21:24

As we go through this painful journey together we share, cry, scream and shout but we never judge, we know that there is always someone to listen. We always remember our precious children who will never be forgotten and will live on forever in our hearts.

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shabbatheGreek · 30/03/2013 08:25

So glad they are with you Lavandes - grandchildren are very special aren't they? We (Dan,Em, Lewis & me) went to see my parents yesterday. My Dad, normally a very private man, said 'I'm having trouble doing a poo!!!' Which, for some strange reason, made us all laugh!!!

Lew said 'Pop I sometimes cant poo so I take my DS to the toilet with me and play on it...before you know whats happening my poo has come out!!' He offered the DS to my Dad - who has no idea what it is but took it with him anyway. We heard him coming back down and Lew raced out to him. 'Did it work Pop??' Dad (with massive grin on his face) said 'It did I did a massive poo!!!!'

We all stood in the hallway cheering my Dads poo!!! Think we are all losing the plot now. xxx

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lavandes · 30/03/2013 22:34

That is priceless Shabs The very young grandkids can have a very special relationship with their Grand and Great Grandparents. My boys were very lucky to have their grandparents and both of my dh's grandparents when they were very young. I didn't have any grandparents and I was so grateful that they did. My dh's granny was the most caring and wonderful woman I have ever known. She looked after herself until she was 98. x

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shabbatheGreek · 31/03/2013 09:39

Morning girls xx

I do realise the massive importance of Easter....especially to people who are religious. Is it just me who is thinking - if I was Jesus' Dad and I had the power to stop horrible stuff happening to him I would do it in a heartbeat??? Or is that too simple?? For whatever reason I just feel down in the dumps today.

shabbatheGreek · 31/03/2013 09:45
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lavandes · 31/03/2013 21:53

HI ladies x

HI Shabs this is such a horrible time for you. I honestly don't know what to say, nothing I say will make it better. All I know of your situation is to say please spend as much time as you can with your Dad, talk to him as much as you can, there is nothing more. Do as you tell us and take one foot after another and breathe. Also look after yourself you are going to need your strength. Sending lots of love to you and yours xxx

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shabbatheGreek · 31/03/2013 22:03

Thank you love. It truly has been the 'oddest' of days - nervy, edgy scared feelings...there is so much going on and it feels like I cant 'do it all.' BUT I will, I have to, there is no other option. xxx

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lavandes · 31/03/2013 22:27

My situation with my Mum was different to yours, she was in a nursing home but if you get a feeling that you must go to him then do go, I truly believe in 'gut' feelings. It did work for me. xx

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SaintVera · 01/04/2013 00:18

Oh, that Nat King Cole song...! Made me cry Shabba
Love to you and wishing you the strength to walk through this fire for your dad.
I hope Easter is bearable for everyone here
xxx

shabbatheGreek · 01/04/2013 09:33

Morning girls xx

I love Nat King Cole - his voice is so pure and when I saw that song it made me 'smile' - one thing Gareth & Matt always had was a smile. When we went to see Matt at the chapel of rest he still had mucky hands and a dirty face...I had asked them to leave him like that - because thats what he was always like....when I looked at him he had a big smile on his face. Precious, but sad, memories.

xxxx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 01/04/2013 15:27

Saying hello to everyone here.

Sending gentle love to lavandes and Richard today. I hope your time with your grandsons can bring some smiles on this difficult day.

Myfive I hope that you feel that Dexter strongly was in your hearts yesterday.

Shabba your family is amazing. May your dad continue to poo regularly and happily under Lew's guidance!!

white let the tears flow. As I have said before, they are liquid love. I hope the change of location to the seaside provides you all with some relief, and maybe even some sunshine...

maddy if it's not too late, I'd also like to remember Caitlin too. Such a beautiful name.

We have just returned from a whirlwind tour of the family down south, and ended up going to Mr Mia's aunt's 80th birthday that had worried me so. I have only meet many of this extended family once or twice, the first time holding Mia proudly in my arms at 5 weeks of age, and the second a year later, at the celebration of her life. And it was fine - Everyone was just lovely, and to my surprise, they all openly talked about Mia alongside Finn. It's nice when people behave unexpectedly like that.

MrMia is currently cleaning up Mia's cot for Finn. Little bitemarks on one end where she would stand and shriek for me after a nap, just to let me know she wanted to get up. Bittersweet thoughts. I love them both so much.

shabbatheGreek · 03/04/2013 09:33

Morning girls. Well the sun is shining here but its freezing cold. Lew is keeping me entertained with his 'craziness'. Hope you are all doing OK xx

shabbatheGreek · 05/04/2013 06:20

Morning girls xx

shabbatheGreek · 05/04/2013 08:51

Got my grandson here. He just said 'Andma, do you miss Gareth & Matty?' 'Yes love, very much.' 'Well (says the little lad in reception class) just say this with me.....'Our father who art in 'eaven, give us this day our daily bread and gift us our trees sapping!!' We say this every day and it makes my heart feel warm. Out of the mouth of babes??

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 05/04/2013 09:53

I love your Lew.

shabbatheGreek · 06/04/2013 09:43

Morning girls xx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 06/04/2013 11:40

Morning! Sunshine here. Hoping to get outside after two days of sickness for MrMia and me. Happily, Finn seems to have escaped.

shabbatheGreek · 06/04/2013 23:32

Hope that everybody is OK and thats why our thread is so quiet. The sun has shone brightly here all day - hope it has wherever you all are xxx

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lavandes · 07/04/2013 22:04

Hi ladies x

I'm here Shabs I'm working my way through April one day at a time, ok'ish so far xx

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shabbatheGreek · 08/04/2013 00:41

Sending my love Lavandes - working your way through it sounds good to me. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

shabbatheGreek · 08/04/2013 07:05

Morning girls xx

shabbatheGreek · 10/04/2013 23:31

So very quiet on here. Hope you are all OK.

Will keep on posting - no matter how many or how few are here. This thread is too special to leave.

Thinking about my sons and all our children tonight xxxx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 11/04/2013 07:47

Me too. Ok here, just not enough sleep as Finn has decided that 2hrly feeds are totally acceptable again...

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lavandes · 11/04/2013 07:51

Morning ladies x

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shabbatheGreek · 11/04/2013 08:04

Morning girls xx

Mia - I remember that well - 2 hour feeds and the feeling that you are 'walking around outside your own body' because you are so beyond tired. xx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 11/04/2013 22:53

shabs do you remember the bad-tempered screams of hunger too? Can't believe a four-month-old already has a temper...

MrMia told me tonight that the funeral director has rung to ask whether we would like to pick up Mia's ashes. Of course, we should, and we will, but we don't really know what to do with them. We could spread them at Mia's Wood, which is the most logical thing to do. However, he has suggested I could have them made into a man-made diamond if I wanted, which I both like and find a little weird too. Has anyone else here ever done something like this? Is it really very weird? Would you do it?

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