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As we go through this painful journey together

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lavandes · 10/02/2013 21:24

As we go through this painful journey together we share, cry, scream and shout but we never judge, we know that there is always someone to listen. We always remember our precious children who will never be forgotten and will live on forever in our hearts.

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Helyantha · 13/03/2013 12:17

Shabba so sorry to hear about your dad. But what a way to face a crisis! Is he like your Matt by any chance?
These are hard days, and no words can express adequately what you and yours must be going through, but please know that you are all in our prayers. No need for pin-on smiles just yet, but remember that breathing and walking thing Thanks

whiteandyellowiris · 13/03/2013 12:55

hey shabbs, have you seen your dad at all today? did he had his six minitures? i hope he did and i hope he enjoyed them

xxxxxxx
thinking about you and your family xxxxxx

shabbatheGreek · 13/03/2013 19:28

He had 5!! He put them in his slippers in the locker. Ward Sister came round and saw them....she said 'Harry are these bottles of vinegar love? Wink 'Yes Sister!!' Said 'Saint' Harry!!! She walked off laughing!!.

Yes - him and Matt were partners in crime!!

whiteandyellowiris · 13/03/2013 20:13

oh so glad he enjoyed those Smile

you will have to take him some more

maybe a mini ice bucket too xxx

one of my dhs friends ended up in ahospice and dhs friends fav thing was the drinks trolley, he really used to look fowardto the drinks trolley

whiteandyellowiris · 13/03/2013 20:14

always had a g and t x

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 13:03

hi everyone, hows things today shabbs.

shabbatheGreek · 14/03/2013 19:07

We have organised Macmillan nurses and hoping that he can come home tomorrow. Macmillan nurse said 'Have you any questions Harry?' 'Yes love...I love my Rugby and its on Saturday afternoon - any chance I will be watching it at home on my own new posh telly?' She grinned at him and said 'Every chance sweetheart - I will do my best to make that happen and I cant see why it wont.'

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:00

oh i was going to ask what your dads name was, harry, i like that.

i hope your dad gets to watch it at home on sat.

maybe with a wee drink and a few snacks.

how are you doing yourself shabbs? i know silly impossible question xxx

shabbatheGreek · 14/03/2013 20:06

Oh just the same old me - I haven't cried in front of anybody...its just the daft way I am - I just want to do my best for everybody. I have tried to be different but I cant. Just want Dad home and he said 'please will you help me plan out my funeral - just in case they are right cause they think its terminal (he keeps hoping they have given him someone elses results). I told him it will be a pleasure to help him to do that. He wants no religious stuff including hymns - said he has no belief in God because if there was a God he would never let children die. He asked if we could make it as much fun as possible because he cant stand morbid funerals Smile My word, I love my dad xx

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:18

he really sounds amazing shabbs, i know you don't need me to tell you that

sounds a good idea to have more of a celebration of life rather than a funeral.

when we picked ds poem for his funeral, i wanted something more comforting that terribly sad and we picked this one

When tomorrow starts without me
And I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me.
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today;
While thinking of the many things
We didn't get to say.

I know how much you love me
As much as I love you;
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name
And took me by the hand.

She said my place was ready
In heaven far above;
And that I'd have to leave behind,
All those I dearly love.

So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart
For every time you think of me,
I'm right here in your heart.

but a realise you don't want anything religeous, but i thought id share that with you

oh i know a good one brb...

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:20

You can shed tears that he/she is gone
or you can smile because he/she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that he/she?ll come back
or you can open your eyes and see all he/she has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can?t see him/her
or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him/her and only that he/she has gone
or you can cherish his/her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your
back
or you can do what he/she?d want: smile, open your eyes, love
and go on.

i love this one, beautiful xx

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:22

or the song my way might well suit him! xxx

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:23

been thinking about you alot today x

shabbatheGreek · 14/03/2013 20:31

He has always said that he wants the song 'We dont cry outloud' by Elkie Brooks...he says it is me and him 'We dont cry out loud, we keep it inside, learn how to hide our feelings.....'

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:32

oh i'm going to listen to that on you tube, back in a few mins

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:39

wow that sond is beautiful, i esp like the parts

Baby is an awful lot like me
She had the finest teacher
that's me
Fly high and proud

very lovely

its had me in tears xx

shabbatheGreek · 14/03/2013 20:44

Smile thats my favourite bit as well xx

shabbatheGreek · 14/03/2013 20:46
whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:51

oh i like the live version even more, you can really hear the emotion in her voice and soul.

i think theres so much truth in that song, as people tell us its ok to express our feelings and of course it is, but i simply cant do that every day for the rest of your life so you do have to learn to keep it all inside alot/most of the the time

realy great song

whiteandyellowiris · 14/03/2013 20:57
i love this song, i really sing the blues to this and hope a change is coming soon to my life
shabbatheGreek · 15/03/2013 07:13

Morning girls xx

Can everybody keep everything crossed that I can get my Dad home today? xx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 15/03/2013 07:17

Project Crossed Everything for Harry has commenced, shabba. It may make some activities today somewhat challenging! No matter, it's a worthy cause. X

whiteandyellowiris · 15/03/2013 07:54

Yep fingers crossed harry comes home today x

shabbatheGreek · 15/03/2013 08:13

Thank you Smile xxx

lavandes · 15/03/2013 17:15

Fingers and crossed in Cornwall Shabs thinking of you all xxx

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