my dad has died

[SophySinclair]

After an estrangement of two years, my dad has died suddenly at the age of 52.
I can't breathe.

[SophySinclair]

Thank you all for your messages and PMs. Like bezabeza said it is all very new. It's been really helpful talking to people who also lost parents. I didn't expect to be as badly affected as I am right now. I'm also feeling so sad for the DC who have never had a relationships with their grandfather.

[ILovePonyo]

God yes sophy, I feel sad about my dad every day but am finding it hard to think about my dd not knowing or seeing him as she grows up, he was a brilliant grandad to her and that is one of the things I am finding hardest to deal with. I have made myself put up a couple of photos of him and dd, just so I can say "that's your grandad" even though i find it difficult.

Hope you're doing Ok, have you considered cruse bereavement counselling? I have been to my local one but they have a 3+ month waiting list, that's why it could be worth looking into now.

[SophySinclair]

Today was rough as there was a huge match on in Ireland today (hurling - to quote Alan shearer " a cross between hockey and second degree murder") and our county was in the final, for the first time in 20 odd years. I kept thinking Dad would have loved it.

[emmylou157]

Hi,
How are you doing. I am also finding today hard, I live 2 1/2 hours away from my mum and family and came back last night. It was so strange not talking t him on skype tonight as before he died we spoke every night. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. My little girl adored him and every night she insists on saying goodnight to him outside as she thinks he has gone to be a star and that breaks my heart every time. I have good days and bad days but we just have to keep going and remember they wouldn't want us to be sad x

[SophySinclair]

Watching Steel Magnolias was a BAD IDEA this evening. Sob-fest.

All of you who have lost someone, I hope you are doing ok.

[BadRoly]

I find that even now, almost 4 mths on, the silliest things set me off! Dh and both had a good weep on our way surfing yesterday because the kids were singing 'Sing' (the jubilee song)...

I still stand by my 'just roll with it' advice. Dont fight your emotions, just accept that it is your head/body/soul/mind or whatever coming to terms with your loss xx

[ssd]

hi

just to add my sympathy and empathy for everyone here

my mum died 2 weeks ago and I just feel raw

agree no one gets it unless they've been there, its loike explaining to someone what its like to have a baby when they are childless

daft comparison but you'll know what I mean

its just so horrible

[BadRoly]

Sorry to read about your loss ssd. I know what you mean. Didn't want you to go ignored.

[ssd]

thank you x