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MY son died

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mumof2teenboys · 04/07/2012 04:13

Don't know how to say it, but need to put it down. My beautiful son was found dead last night. I don't know what to do. He is 22 but still my baby, how do you begin to process something like this?

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AlfalfaMum · 07/07/2012 15:00

I'm so sorry mumof xxx
Sending you love xxx

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 07/07/2012 15:11

He sounds like a very popular and loved young man. I'm so sorry.

pinkpyjamas · 07/07/2012 15:18

James sounds like a wonderful person.
I'm so sorry you are all having to endure his sad loss.
My thoughts are with you.
Please be kind to yourself x

hoops997 · 07/07/2012 15:23

So very sorry for your loss, James sounds like a wonderful boy and I'm sure he knows how much you all love him. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Sam and the rest of your family.

Rest in peace James x

Rumours · 07/07/2012 15:36

Sad so sorry for your loss

WoollyWoolfe · 07/07/2012 15:55

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LackaDAISYcal · 07/07/2012 16:28

I am so so sorry to hear such dreadful news :(

Thoughts go with you and your family and friends over the coming days, weeks and months :(

karyncake · 07/07/2012 16:28

I am so sorry to read of your loss.
My sisters life was taken just before her 21st birthday and it was a terrible shock for us all.
I never thought my parents would be able to deal with the loss but 8 years on I now see them smiling and joking again. We can chat about the normal everyday things that I thought we had lost and talk about her with fond memories.
I think the hardest part for my family was when the visitors and flowers stopped coming and the funeral was over. It seemed everyone had gone back to their lives and ours was still in pieces but gradually we found our way again.
From the perspective of a sibling I felt I put my own loss aside for a long time as I was so concerned for my parents and did not want them to have to worry about me as well. I put on a brave face for them, tried to organise my sisters belongings without being disrespectful when at the time all I really wanted to do was get rid of the whole lot as it did not seem right going through all her private things.
Please be kind to yourself.

SarryB · 07/07/2012 16:33

God, how awful. I don't know what to say to make you feel better. Love and hugs from me. xx

TapirBackRider · 07/07/2012 16:46

I'm so sorry for you loss, (((hugs))) to you and your loved ones.

KurriKurri · 07/07/2012 16:59

My Dear - I am so terribly sorry for your loss. There are no words to help in these early days, when your lives have been so devastated, but I hope that in time you will be able to find comfort in wonderful memories of James and the love you all shared. xx

AllMuddledUp · 07/07/2012 17:37

James sounds like a wonderful young man who touched the hearts of many people around him. I am so sorry for your loss.

MmeLindor. · 07/07/2012 18:01

I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like he was a remarkable young man.

RabidAnchovy · 07/07/2012 18:14

So sorry you have lost your lovely son, James Sad

MrsYamada · 07/07/2012 18:15

So sorry for your loss, so sad.x

fallingwater · 07/07/2012 18:53

So, so sorry for your loss, mumof2teenboys. I hope God gives you the love and strength to come to terms with this devastating, brutal, shocking day in your life...Take solace from this: All of us are praying for you, and your lovely boy...God Bless Him... Your family, friends and other people you may never meet, (including myself) are here for you right now...Take care of yourself, mumof2teenboys, as this is something which will take a long time to absorb. I know this is totally unrelated, but I lost my mum when I was a teenager (She was 45 then..) for a long, long time, I could not deal with my feelings and emotions. It took years...
But YOU are in my prayers and I will pray to my Bhagwan to give you immense strength... xxx and hugs..

TheLightPassenger · 07/07/2012 18:54

So very sorry to hear this.

MildewMayhew · 07/07/2012 18:54

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. James sounds like he was an amazing man. :(

Angelico · 07/07/2012 18:59

So sorry for your loss. Your posts are beautiful and am just so very sad for you. Thanks

McKayz · 07/07/2012 19:59

I am so sorry to hear the sad news about James.

He sounds like he was a wonderful person and I hope you can take comfort in his friends.

ohforfoxsake · 07/07/2012 19:59

I am so, so sorry. xx

GetOnYourDancingShoes · 07/07/2012 20:01

Thinking of you and your family.

Blessings x

kizzie · 07/07/2012 20:32

I am so very sorry for your loss. Both of your boys sound wonderful. I agree with the other posters - a terrible illness took your son but you are so right to think of the time you did have with him as being even more precious. You and your family and friends sounds so lovely - I'm sure whatever you decide to do for the funeral it will be a perfect celebration of james' short but special life x

kizzie · 07/07/2012 20:36

Just wanted to add that later you might want to do a search on Libby purves the journalist and writer. Her son nicholas died in very similar circumstances and she has written very movingly about how her and her family have come to terms with it x

chinam · 07/07/2012 21:08

I'm so sorry for your loss. James sounds like an amazing young man. God bless you and your family xx