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Anyone bled heavily in early pregnancy & still remained pregnant?

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Distracted · 22/11/2003 14:49

I suppose I already know the answer to this one really but just wanted to find out what other people's experiences were?

I would be 5 weeks pregnant now (ie. 3 weeks since conception) and I've had 2 positive pregnancy tests (1st was so faint that I repeated it). But Thursday night had blood stained discharge, which has turned into pretty heavy bleeding and stomach cramps too. Really I suppose I know that I'm miscarrying - I don't suppose you can bleed that heavily and keep a pregnancy.

I wondered about doing another pregnancy test at some point so that I knew for certain but I wondered how long you would have to wait after a miscarraige before a pregnancy test is negative?
Does anyone know?

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quackers · 24/11/2003 12:36

Pollingfold is absolutely right. I would go to your GP and ask for their help in getting a blood test. The rise will confirm it is continuing. I'm so soryy they were so unhelpful. I don't know what they were saying either about the pg testing. You can test from day of period or earlier and like u say u felt pg before that. Hope you manage to get some help and you get more of a sympathetic ear when you next call.
xxxx

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Distracted · 24/11/2003 13:43

Thanks Quackers and Pollingfold - a blood test does sound like a good option. I am going to wait now until Thursday though and go along for the scan. However, if that's inconclusive then I'll suggest the blood tests (presume they would take longer anyway if they have to be sent away for analysis). It's certainly good to be clued up on the facts here. I also rang the Clear Blue helpline and they said you can still test positive on the urine test for 9 weeks (depending on how high the levels of hcg were when you miscarried)!! 9 weeks! So the nurse I spoke to at the early pregnancy unit really didn't know what on earth she was talking about did she! I will do the test though, just so that I can tell her I have on Thursday (of course if it was negative then I suppose I'd know for sure - I suppose the earlier you miscarry the quicker the levels will drop as they won't have been as high to start with). Still pretty unlikely to be negative within a week though I imagine.

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quackers · 24/11/2003 13:56

It depends on the hospital. Mine got them back same day, that's because I went straight to A and E with bleeding, (no EPU at mine) and they sent me for a scan and blood tests. Fingers crossed, you seem very together!

elena2 · 24/11/2003 16:41

Hi Distracted
No experience of this so no advice but just wanted to say good luck for Thursday
Hugs (((((((((()))))))))))))

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Distracted · 24/11/2003 21:45

Thanks Elena2 and Quackers. Re. the bloods we do have a local hospital with a minor injury unit where they will take blood samples if the GP refers, but they're all sent away to the main hospital 24 miles away for analysis, so don't think I'd get results easily. I've set myself to wait for the scan on Thursday now and hope that it's not too early (will be 6 weeks since last period on Friday and I think actually 4 weeks from conception on Saturday).

Brunhilda and Madgirl - how are you both doing?

I'm trying to be very together about it. I feel like I should be, as it really is so early and if it wasn't for pregnancy tests then I'd only think I was having a late period and all that. It can't be anything like what people go through when it happens later on, plus haven't miscarried before, or had any problems conceiving. So I kind of feel guilty about making a fuss. I already have a wonderful dd (and for some reason she's being particularly good and lovely at the moment too), so really I'm lucky. But I have to admit that I'm finding it hard to think of much else and do keep feeling very upset. Glad really that I am working the next 2 days as will make me think of other things and keep me occupied - am out all day Tuesday on a training course so that day should fly by I hope then just one more to go.

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quackers · 25/11/2003 08:46

Distracted, you've evry right to feel hurt for any loss. Loss is loss and it's horrible whenever it happens.take care xxxx

hana · 25/11/2003 16:54

agree with quackers - don't feel guilty because you have these feelings, nor should you compare your feelings to others who have suffered a pregnancy loss of any kind. or any loss. Hope you have good news to share with us soon
hana

madgirl · 25/11/2003 17:02

Distracted you are being AMAZINGLY together i think. it does make me angry that the nurse told you to do a pregnancy test. i have not been able to concentrate on anything for longer than 5 mins over the past week. only one more day and then at least you will know what is happening down there. to give you positive vibes - i had another t/v scan this morning (after heavy bleed for 2 days on days 24 and 25) and then after spotting on and off for 8 days or so now, i haven't miscarried and am 6.4 weeks. this doesn't of course guarantee that all will be well now but it does prove that you can bleed and spot and still be ok. thinking of you. xx

pollingfold · 25/11/2003 19:53

Distracted. big hug to you {{{{{{{}}}}}. This must be very hard, goodluck for Thursday.

quackers · 25/11/2003 21:05

Madgirl, that's amazing!! I'm really praying for you and your little one.xxx
Distracted, lots of love to you for the next couple of days. It's so togh, I hope it;s good news.xxxx

Brunhilda · 26/11/2003 10:01

Distracted - your scan is tomorrow - please let us know how you are doing. I went for a scan today and unfortuntaely it does not look good. They can see sac but no baby and sac does not look good. Have to go back in 2 weeks in order to know for sure. I have come back. Can't get hold of dh and have come straihgt to Mumsnet to all you lovely ladies. This is hard but I am so blessed already and I know I am not alone (although don't wish this type of thing on anyone else). I did read that an mc is a sign of fertility - so maybe next time ... Lots of love to you and thanks for asking how I am.

bossykate · 26/11/2003 10:13

so sorry, brunhilda

madgirl · 26/11/2003 10:32

Brunhilda i am very sorry to hear that. It must have been horrid for you this morning. i know they say that it is a sign that all was not well with the embryo or baby, but it is still a loss. my thoughts and love are with you. x

Azure · 26/11/2003 11:13

Brunhilda, sorry to hear your news.

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Distracted · 26/11/2003 11:27

So sorry Brunhilda - must be awful having to wait another 2 weeks to know for definite and Madgirl congratulations - that's good news, although I know you're probably still worrying.

As for me, well I did a pregnancy test this morning and against all expectation it's actually negative!! So I have my answer after all. My hcg must have dropped off pretty quickly - my positive pregnancy tests were both very faint so perhaps I didn't have enough hcg anyway and that's why I've miscarried (last pregnancy had a very definite positive test). At least I know now, although there's a bit of me that still doesn't believe it as I keep getting intermittant nausea. I have been getting that almost since conception, however, so it's probably unrelated to the pregnancy as I had no nausea last time until 6 weeks.

My worry now is that I haven't properly lost everything as I only bled heavily for 1 day and no more clots than a normal heavy period, since then the bleeding has died off (still spotting now but nothing else). I think my normal periods have been heavier than this, or at least heavier for longer. But then, I'm a worrier by nature. I'll have to just start accepting this now and wait until I have another natural period. Don't think I'll try again until the new year.

Feeling really sad and a bit mixed up about all this (as have to admit to feeling both happy when I found out i was pregnant and then really scared as sometimes can hardly cope with one child, so almost felt I had brought it on with my doubts and worries). Going away for weekend with hb on Friday (dd staying with grandparents), so something to look forward to and a bit of quiet time to 'grieve' and I suppose look to the future.

Thanks everyone for all your advice and support, it's made such a difference to keep checking messages on mumsnet during the horrible waiting.

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Brunhilda · 26/11/2003 11:46

dISTRCATD - REAALY SORRY. i GUESS IF YOU ARE WORRIED YOU COULD GO FOR SCAN ANYWAY. mY THOUGHTS WI YOU. b

madgirl · 26/11/2003 12:06

sad and disappointed for you Distracted, hope you have a restful weekend. x come back and let us know how you are doing.

Azure · 26/11/2003 13:17

Distracted - sorry to hear how it's turned out. It's no compensation, but I hope you manage to have a nice weekend away.

quackers · 26/11/2003 13:51

I am so sorry, I really really am. Distracted, your weekend couldn't have come at a better time. Just for time out and a god think and time togther. Don't worry too much about bleeding, it may even come back a little if there is some more lining to come away. If you;re at all worried, see your Doc. Have you done this anyway??
Brunhilda, lots of love. I'm thinking of you. It's tough looking at the scan and being told that. That's what happened with my last m/c. Lots of love.xxxxxx Hoep you can keep posting

eyelash · 26/11/2003 15:31

Distracted

I am so so sorry this has happened to you. It has been an absolute emotional roller coaster for you over the past week or so so please please look after yourself. The worst thing about chat rooms if the frustration of not being able to give a proper hug so cyber hugs to you.

If it is any consolation (as if it could!) many of us have been in the same or a similar situation so feel free to rant, rave or whatever over the coming days, weeks, or however long it takes to come to term with this loss.

I have said this before on previous threads but a memory tree has provided me with endless pleasure and an opportunity to remember the miscarriages I have had. It is a magnolia stellata and flowers around the time I had my first miscarriage. Some of my family think it is morbid but I have found it a great help especially from now on as it starts to bud in time for spring. My ds1 and ds2 also seem much more precious.

Have to go now as welling up but thinking of you.

eyelash · 26/11/2003 15:33

Brunhilda

Apologies - just read further down the thread. My thoughts are with you as well.

wiltshire · 26/11/2003 20:53

sorry and sending you lots of hugs

bunny2 · 26/11/2003 21:53

Distracted and Brunhilda, I have so much sympathy for you both. there will always be lots of support and advice here.

Madgirl, fingers tightly crossed for you. It is looking good.

bunny2 · 26/11/2003 21:53

Distracted and Brunhilda, I have so much sympathy for you both. there will always be lots of support and advice here.

Madgirl, fingers tightly crossed for you. It is looking good.

bunny2 · 26/11/2003 21:53

Distracted and Brunhilda, I have so much sympathy for you both. there will always be lots of support and advice here.

Madgirl, fingers tightly crossed for you. It is looking good.