My mum died

[cazpro77]

Hi there
I'm new reaching out i suppose
Feeling quite low
Ok my mum died 14th feb,
Mum had renal failure and was in diaylaseess
3 times a week for 5 hours se worked 40 hour weeks
As well as having mobility issues so used a wheelchair
She had several operations in a row over 3 weeks woke from a coma and said
No more diaylaseess, or assiteted life support
That was on the 9th feb I stayed up in her room as much as I could
When I arrived on the 14th I knew it wasn't long
By 2pm holding her hand mum let go of this world
I screamed, but nope...

Now forward to now, waited for corenor paperwork
Mums funeral is this Thursday!!!!!!!
My mum would've been 60 today so have been to see her in the chapel of rest,
Hopefully we have sorted everything regards the funeral?
My mum was/ is a true angel she is now out of pain and suffering
But I'm finding everything so hard
I'm an only child and my dad isn't handling things very well so is avoided all 'mum arrangements
Although he had cleared her room out??
So my asthma is playing up as I'm so lost so ...
Coping well maybe
Thank u for reading I appreciate it
Take care

Caz my heart to goes out to you , of course you are not coping very well its early days All i can say is there will be good days and bad days . If you have a good friend to talk to seek them out, your Dad is feeling the same as you its all very raw for the both of you. It has been a long wait for the funeral and that has not helped. Get through tomorrow and take each day as it comes. Sorry i have not been much help.

I am so sorry for your loss,.

I've been where you are and you are doing great. Your Dad will get there, he's just having to do it a different way, keep talking.

I hope the funeral goes well.

Sorry to hear what a hard time your mum had before she passed away, and you too. As Wyrd says, one day at a time and try to find strength from your friends and family.

Just wanted to send my sincerest condolences to you and your Dad. Thinking of you

Sending my love and support. My beautiful mum died almost one year ago. She was much older than yours but it was sudden. The best advise I was given at the time was to have courage. Have courage to accept. I held on to this and for me he helped. I kept 'asking' for courage and I felt calm and serene by asking. The courage has stayed with me, but typing this my tears are welling. I am so so sorry for your loss.

@roundtoit,just your replying is helP enough,
@wryd it feels like I'm falling part at the seems
@legoballon I'm kinda in robot mode if that make sense?
@permaquandry thank you for your condolences
@rightchoice in a way as my mum 'took ' the desicion to stop treatment ;even tho we begged her !) I feel like I could've changed much
Mum was in diaylasses for 3 years I since found out the machine wasn't as affective as it was ie becoming unsuitable for mum,
So if not now then a few months at most,
I have a great OH and a nearly 3, year old who adored her nan, so I explained that nanny ran out of batteries and couldn't be fixed so the angels came for her
Up there that star there next to the moon is nanny,
Now she hasn't asked about nanny since last week although a Tantrum today tells me she's sad and angry,
I told her nursery staff who have been so very supportive,
On many levels,
My nerves are shot so many phone calls to many cigs
Equals very bad asthma, I rang my doc last week had steroids
So am ringing him again tmoz,
The world seems so very different almost scary again
Does that sound daft?
Thank u ever so much for all ur support
Ur wOrds are making sense right now
Thank u for letting me offload and ur replyies

Really sorry for your loss Cazpro.

So Sorry for your loss, It will get easier I promise

I know how you are feeling because I lost my lovely Mum last week, her funeral is this Friday.I have never known pain like this,I feel like my heart has been ripped out, it is like my Dad's death all over again.

Try and take care of yourself, lots of good food,hot baths, hugs from anyone who offers one.I feel so much better after a good cry.

77 and 808 - My heart goes out to you both. My mum is all around me, every day, in my heart and thoughts. They die but never leave you. Look after yourselves. xx

Very sorry for your loss :(

sending you much love...

Just wanted to day how terribly sorry I am for your loss.
I am sending you my very best wishes and prayers. God bless xxx

I am so sorry for the tow of you who have so recently lost your mums, doesn't bear thinkin about xx

Im so sorry for your loss.

Mums shouldnt die,they should be here to be with us,whilst you have your mum your still someones little girl and then when theyre gone its the hugest hole in your heart,I used to look out of the window and see everyone else carrying on as normal I wanted to stand in the middle of the world and get everyone to stop...MY MUM WAS GONE!!!.

That was 25 years ago,it wont always feel so bad,you will cope-you have to cope and life will carry on x

hope you find the strength x((hugs))

Sorry for your loss, xx.

so sorry for your loss.i lost my mum at a very early age .I was 19 mum was 41.All i can say to comfort you.is your mum is at peace now but your hurt is very real.Think your mum wouldnt want you to be sad .Look after your dad as sure your mum would want you too. xx grief is a very sad emotion cause we never want to lose the ones we love.god bless xx

So sorry for your loss. I lost my mum 18 months ago, it's so hard! It's such early days for you darling, just be gentle on yourself. Lots of hugs to you xx

So very sorry to read of your sad loss, my prayers go out for you. only time can heal the pain you are feeling.
God bless

Dear Girl,
I'm so, so sorry.
May I suggest that you say some words at her funeral, some words of your own, not a reading? Painful as it may be, you may regret not saying something but you will never, never regret saying something from your heart. My dad died just before Christmas, and although an agnostic myself, I delivered his eulogy in the same place, same church as I read the epistle, as a child (He was a clergyman). I felt I had helped to 'send him on his way' whatever that may mean.

Always remember that grief is the price of loving, it is also natural. You will be in my thoughts

soundcloud.com/verseandrum/sets/silver-hair-eyes-of-blue is a link which at a later date you might like to listen too. The songs I play when I remember with love the mother I loved and lost also
God Bless

cazpro my heart goes out to you, I lost my mum 6 years ago and she was also a young age, and its hard, I used to talk to a star it helps, you will go through all sorts of emotions, anger, crying, throwing things out she gave you and then frantically getting them back later, you will never stop missing her but it will get easier to bear, my sincere condolences and thoughts with you at this time xx

Oh wow thank u, all your replyies
It words are making sense,
After seeing my mum in the chapel of rest yesterday
I felt quite unwell
Then just after my tea I was unwell, stomach pains sickness
My family said its the shOck of everything?
It's been nearly a month an I am coping just seem to fall apart over the simplest of things,
My dd has been super huggable today
Thank u so much for all your support it is helping
Thank u