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I have lost my mad beautiful funny sister

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argghh · 26/01/2012 02:57

She was the person for whom the phrase 'life and soul of the party' was invented.

She had been ill for some months with liver failure caused by Hep C.
Her daughter rang me 2 hours ago to say she had lost the battle.

I am sat here on my own devastated.

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WildEyedAndHairy · 27/01/2012 22:04

So sorry for your loss xxx

randommoment · 27/01/2012 22:07

xx love and hugs from another recently bereaved xx

chipmonkey · 27/01/2012 22:50

So very sorry for your loss aargh. 51 is too young and so sorry her children have lost their mother when they are still so young.Sad

argghh · 28/01/2012 04:29

Thankyou for your lovely kind words, The last two days have been a whirlwind, but in true style, we have also laughed and laughed and laughed remembering some of her antics. She has left an amazing legacy in four of the most wonderful chilren you could ever meet: seeing them all together on Thursday supporting each other was a privilege (they range in age from 30 to 13)

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brandysoakedbitch · 28/01/2012 05:35

I have just seen this thread argghh and wanted to add my condolences for your loss. 51 is not age at all is it? And so amazing that you can see the wonderful gifts she left behind in her children. I am terribly sorry for your loss and I really hope you can find comfort in the fact you have been loved by someone very special. My absolute best wishes to you at this very difficult time.

sweetandtenderhooligan · 01/02/2012 18:53

How are you doing arrghh?

argghh · 02/02/2012 12:57

Thanks sweet, not too bad actually.

Funeral is next week, has caused a couple of arguments but all settle now. Spent yesterday sorting through her clothes with her daughter and my two other sisters: gosh she had some outfits! Shame she was half my size.

We have had some lovely letters and tributes, some from people wo knew her years ago which is very touching.

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DontCallMeMummyPig · 10/02/2012 17:37

Hi, I've also lost my funny, mad beautiful sister. It was nearly 15 years ago, she was 23, two years younger than me. She'd had cancer for a while. I feel so much for you now because it's a special kind of loss. A part of your life, your childhood, wrenched away. But I don't know what to say to make things less painful for you. It was my 40th birthday yesterday and all I wanted was to share it with her. The births of my 3 kids were tinged with the same sadness. But time heals, and the love of a close family and wonderful loyal friends does help. Talk about her. Laugh about her. That helps xxxx

administrator · 10/02/2012 17:57

I'm so so sorry. I hope you have someone to take care of you. I can't imagine losing either of my sisters so I really feel for you.
Take care.

argghh · 13/02/2012 08:36

Dontcallmemummypig - so sorry for your loss too. I have been remembering our childhood days so much.
Her funeral was last week, it was beautiful, lots of people turned up including her first ever boyfriend!

Her daughters have been finding it very hard and 'writing' to her, which I have read and found heartbreaking.

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lookout · 22/02/2012 20:00

I lost my funny, kind, handsome brother almost four years ago, so I too can sympathise a bit. Don'tCallMeMummyPig is right - your family and friends are what will help pull you through this. And those tributes too will help you remember all the many good things there were about your sister.

There isn't anything anyone can say to make it better. But keep posting here if you want to, it was a lifesaver for me here. It probably doesn't feel like it now but you will learn to live with the space where your sister should be. It will be a part of you just like her life was a part of you too. (((Hugs)))

EdlessAllenPoe · 22/02/2012 20:04

so sorry for your loss. sisters are brilliant.

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