When does spotting become something more - help

[pollingfold]

Help...I have been spotting for a few days, although not a huge quantity it is becoming progressively darker brown and more sluggy ( sorry but don't know how else to say it). I have read everywhere here about other peoples experiences, but when should I start to worry (more than I am now) and call doctor. You are all the only people I know to turn to. I have had a few minor cramps - and just put those down to stretching etc. Am I just being paranoid or is this the first stage of m/c. Am at work in stupid open plan office so ability to talk to doctor is limited.

, BooHoo... Pollingford.

pollingfold, so so upset for you. I too miscarried 2 weeks ago at 7 weeks. There's so little that I can say, expect that there are lots of us here thinking about you and hoping you're getting lots of tlc.
love hana
xx

Dear pollingfold, so sorry to read this. And Azure too. Do come on here if you need some support. Will be thinking of you.

Polingfold, I am so sorry. My heart really sinks when another Mumsnetter miscarries. Mine was 3 weeks ago and there have been a few since. Please come here for support when you feel ready. Love Bunnyx

Thinking of you pollingfold, and Azure, and everyone else who has miscarried.

Thinking of all of you that have recently miscarried. With time, you do feel less sad, which is little consolation right now, but it does get easier to work through the pain and upset.

my thoughts are with you too,pollingfold.

Pollingfold, i am so sorry for you. This is my first message to the net and i wanted it to be to you. I went for a scan last week, at 10 weeks, just to sort my scan dates out and was told that my pregnancy had not progressed (thats how the sonographer put it) i was devestated, a complete shock, i'd had a scan 2 wks previous that showed my babys heartbeat which just made me feel even worse. I had no bleeding at the time so i had a D&C on friday. To be honest it really hit me the day after, i felt empty, and tearful.
A week on and im feelling better but also quite angry actually, but like all these lovely ladies say time is a great healer and lets look forward to being able to try again with success next time, in the meantime we have to grieve in our own way. Good luck pollingfold.

Good luck to you too juicypips. That was a very generous post, directed at pollingfold but telling us about your sad news too.

lots of love and lit candles

Thankyou Hewlettsdaughter, lots of luck gos out to you too. Im sure you have been through your fair share of heartache too. Its just a breath of fresh air to be able to talk about it. It does help doesnt it? Hope all is going well for you, i have read some of your early posts, and so feel for you too.

Juicypips, wlecome to Mumsnet, even if in sad circumstances, I joined post m/c and couldn't have done it without all the wonderful peopel on here. Sorry for your loss and do hope we'll be able to chat in beter circumstances soon!!!
LOLxxxx

juicypips, sorry to hear your sad news.

welcome juicypips - so sorry to hear your news.

pollingfold - how are you?xx
Juicypips I have suffered a miscarriage before my first son and my daughter was stillborn four yrs ago, soon after I gave birth to another boy - I think maybe I can't carry girls, if you need to talk or have any questions then I will try and help xx

Hello naayie, Im so sorry for everything youve been through, things must have been incredibly hard for you, beyond imagining. So pleased to hear you have two dear boys.
For the last couple of days i've felt ok just trying to move on, then something will start me off, a friend is pregnant, and would have been due the same time as me, i try not to think about it but i do feel so envious, and the odd thought of why me passes through my head. I think its quite normal tho, just want to get the next couple of months out of the way so we can ttc again. lots of love to you naayie.
Pollingfold, i was also wondering how you are?
xxx xxx xxx

thanks juicypips, it will take a bit of time although i was pregnant only three months after the miscarriage with my first son who is now nearly 6, in a nice way i think if it hadn't have happened then i wouldn't have him - do you know what i mean, it took alot longer with the stillbirth of my little girl and i still think about what happened nearly every day but i look at the boys and just think how lucky i am. It doesn't matter what anyone says you will get through this in your own way and you will proberly never forget but it is more common than you think, it isn't anything you did. anyway how did you get the nickname juicypips?!!!

I'm back, after a bit of break. I'm so in awe of all these responses and understanding. It amazes me just how many women go through this everyday, pick up the pieces and carry on. Its inspiring that you are all so positive and open to taking the time to talking to others in need.

My heart goes out to you both azure and juicypips, hopefully time is a healer. Now that the hormones are levelling I am slightly more rational than last week.

The one good thing that came out of the scan to confirm the m/c was that they found that I have PCOS. It was something I had been pressing the doctor to test for prior to becoming pregnant, so now I know at least I can start arguing for some help. Is any one else on Clomid - how hard did you have to fight for it before the doctor perscribed it, or did you have to go through a specialist?

Anyway apologies for my ramblings, thanks once and again and its good to be back, hopefully to carry on chats with many of you on the ttc thread.

So good to hear from you Pollingfold! I'm pleased that this week feels a little better for you. Well being diagnosed with PCO must have shed some light for you. There are many people on here with it and I bleieve Posh and Heather Mcartney have it. I got Clomid after irregular cycles after my second m/c. I am yet to start it as I wanted to give it another month. However I feel your Doc will be keen to give it to you with PCO. It has been wonderful for so many on mumsnet. Have a look in trying to conceive threads, or put a message out and they will come to you!
Good luck with your treatment and I'm thinking of you.
xxxxxx

I was prescribed clomid through a private specialist after i lost my first baby, did you know that if you conceive on clomid there is a much lower risk of miscarraige. How are you doing pollingfold sorry for your sad news.

Pollingford, I thing that Jules Oliver ( Naked Chef's wife) also has pso - they didn't think she would get pregnant again and had their second daughter very close to their first!
hana

Naayie, where did you here that clomid pgs were much less likely to miscarry? I read something to the contrrary in Prof Leslie Regans book about miscarriage. Now I'm confused.

Pollingfold, I got pg on my second month of clomid. I wasnt ovulating at all and was prescribed clomid by the gyneacologist that my gp referred me to. He prescribed it immediately. Month 1 it didtn kick in and I didnt ovulate, month 2 it worked, I ovulated and got pg. Easy!! Unfortunately I miscarried which is why I posted the above message to Naayie, I am very curious about my reasons for miscarrying. Anyway, good luck with everything.

Hi pollingfold, i hope your ok. Atleast now you know what you know and you can get the appropriate treatment for it. I have a friend who concieved on clomid just ater a month with her second child. Its been a little over two weeks since my m/c and i just wanna say to you it does get easier, and it really helps to talk and get things off your chest. Fingers crossed for all of us ttcxx good luck and love pdxxx
Hi naayie hope your ok. My nickname comes from DH he christened me with it when we first met and it just stuck!!xxxxx

bunny2 -i read it in a book my sister in law gave me - cannot find it but i know that it said this as i got pregnant in the third week of trying for my 2nd pregnancy (1st ended in a miscarry at 8wks) but saying that - my daughter who was sadly stillborn at 7.5 months and was also conceived on clomid, but i am sure that i can't carry girls, i haven't actually be told this,(the post mortem said she was healthy but that the placenta failed, they could not explain why) sorry i did not mean to confuse you. Writing about it is really strange, it brings all the confusion and frustration back, even after all this time. juicypips - yr nickname is obviously rude! How are you doing, i know it is hard but although i hated people saying it at the time, time is a great healer! how is your dh coping? take care,