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Remembering the wonderful Magic8ballhastheanswers

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StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 17/08/2011 18:30

I would like to start a thread to remember the lovely Magic8 who unexpectedly died this week, leaving behind a husband, a 4 year old daughter and 6 month old twin girls.

I would like to do more, like blankets, but I don"t know if it is my place.

Magic8, good friend, I am so saddened by your passing. I am crying for you, your spiderbabies and the rest of your family.
Rest in peace.

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randomimposter · 25/08/2011 11:17

lia's put it oh so well. It was only really when we started to talk about you that we really relaxed. It wasn't the same :(.

I really missed my snuggle with "my girl", B. Lots of love to you magic xxx

Solo · 27/08/2011 17:36

Such a sad and terrible loss. God bless you Magic8, Rest In Peace.

Sincere condolences to Magic's Husband, children and family and friends.x

banana87 · 27/08/2011 19:25

Shit. I had no idea. My thoughts and prayers are with Magic8's family.

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OliviaMumsnet · 29/08/2011 20:17

sending love and prayers from MN Towers
x

Becaroooo · 29/08/2011 20:28

My deepest sympathies to all who loved and have lost magic8

lia66 · 01/09/2011 08:40

Hi magic, (want to call you X but not on here)

So it was I's birthday, the first without her mummy. I know you will have been looking down on her and seeing her little face. You know dh will look after her and the spiderbabies don't you? It was funny for us knowing that one of the first hurdles in the year has already been passed iykwim, and also dh's birthday. You had so many plans, we know that.

Still thinking about you, just seems wierd really. :(

PrettyVacant1 · 02/09/2011 10:10

Hey Magic, I had my baby last week.
We had a beautiful little girl.
You have been with me from day one through all our troubles and losses.
You were so looking forward to me having it and I was so looking forward to sharing her and needing your advice.
I'm so sad you won't get to meet her but I know you are looking over us.
I hope I'm able to be a fraction of the Mum you were to your darling girls.
Missing you. C&C xx

randomimposter · 02/09/2011 20:35

Hey Magic

I think of you every day. Often it's because you pop up on my FB, because you liked or commented on my status updates for last year.

This time last year I was in a shit place - I had just had my third MMC in 12 months, and had moved house into a temp rental which was grotty and smelly and DS was being a real monkey. You and the other scoobytrailblazers were always there to support and comfort me, and it really helped.

I'm no closer now to having the second child I long for, but your death has made me realise how bloody lucky I am and appreciate all that I do have. When I snuggle DS at bedtime I think of I, B and X, and how totally awful it is that you are not there to give them bedtime snuggles. I'm just so sorry.

:(

toomuchteaching · 03/09/2011 10:27

Magic every night when I'm up with J, and it's still all the bloody time, I spend a moment lying in bed wishing I wasn't awake, and then every night without fail I get up, go to her and squeeze her extra tight because I know what a lucky family we are. While I feed her back to sleep (I know, I know Magic!) I say a prayer that your girls are being watched over and A is finding the strength to comfort them when they miss you. It is so unfair. We all miss you so much and that is only a fraction of how they must feel.

randomimposter · 05/09/2011 11:19

Are you watching and giggling at all the tooing and froing going on today Magic? The Scoobs are all working out if and how we can get to say goodbye to you on Thursday. I know you know that we all want to be there, but geographically and logistically that can't happen. But we all love you amd miss you, and still can't believe that this is all happening :(

Youremindmeofthebabe · 06/09/2011 10:01

I haven't written anything of merit here yet. I feel a bit fraudulent, because I really didn't know you as well as most of these ladies, as our paths only crossed for a brief time. I did know that you were exuberant, happy and a very positive person. I'm so sorry that this happens to anyone, but when it's lovely people with young families and so much to give to life, then it's even worse. I'm thinking of you all. Love, best wishes, and the strength you need to get through Thursday. We can't be there, but will be there in spirit.

lia66 · 06/09/2011 23:55

Well that was bloody hard. I've just witten the card to go with your flowers, 1000 words wouldn't have been enough, I wanted to say so much. Can never find the right words when it comes to it though.

Don't really know what to say but wanted to say something. Thinking of you Magic, and your gorgeous girls and A. xx

mamapower · 07/09/2011 21:03

Magic,

I've had a really sick feeling today and it's knowing that tonight is the last sleep before everyone must say goodbye! You know I can't be there but I am guessing I am probably forgiven, you also know how much I think of you and that every now and then dh busts me shedding a tear for you! I, along with all the scoobs will be thinking of you tomorrow and hope that your girls and A are shrouded in the love and support from the rest of your family and friends they'll need to get them through.
Sleep well gorgeous girl xxx

AlbaDeTamble · 08/09/2011 10:31

Last time I saw you, nervously meeting the rest of the gang, you were the first person I saw, in the car park, and you were so friendly and welcoming. I wish the same thing could happen today. I miss you. Saying goodbye will be hard xxx

appleblossoms · 08/09/2011 10:54

I've been avoiding this thread as I just didn't have the words, I still don't. You were so special Magic, your advice (and fish slaps) were always spot on. You were SUCH an amazing mum, I loved learning from you. You really seemed to get kids, you understood how they thought. I wish with all my heart you were still here and I will always be gutted I never got to meet you in rl, but I know I must be thankful for the time I got to share with you. It seems like such a brief time you were in my life, but the impact will remain for a lifetime. Rest in peace gorgeous girl. So sorry I can't be there to say goodbye today with the other scoobies. I will be thinking of you and your precious family all day. x x x x

LizaTarbucksAuntie · 08/09/2011 14:05

Magic8 you were quite clearly an amazing and much loved lady. I would have liked to have known you.

My prayers are with your family and everyone who knew you.

MummyAbroad · 08/09/2011 14:08

RIP magic you really touched me with your kindness and support after I lost my baby. Its so sad that such a generous humorous soul has left us, but I am glad I got to know you a little bit while you were here. xxxxx

MmeLindor. · 08/09/2011 14:12

RIP Magic
I did not know you, but you touched so many hearts and lives.

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RebeccaMumsnet · 08/09/2011 14:16

Sending lots of love to your beautiful DC and family today. Thank you for all the support you have given on the boards. You will be missed.

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StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 08/09/2011 14:53

oh magic.. I don't have the words to express my feelings, and I don't want to have to say goodbye to you. there are so many conversations we should have still had, and now I will never be able to say some of these things to you. Magic, I had some news today, and I know that you would have been the first to congratulate me, and reassured me. When I found out, I thought about you straight away. I wondered what you would say, if you would tell me to get a grip, or if you would have just given me a hug.
We all miss you, every day. Your kind, funny ways, the way you took everything in your stride and were always friendly to everyone.
And we still wonder, why did it have to be you, Magic?
You have left a huge gap amidst the Scoobies that nobody will ever be able to fill.
Sleep peacefully, beautiful lady.

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randomimposter · 08/09/2011 20:41

I knew even on the drive up that I would struggle to keep composed. But seeing I and X and B get out of the front car started me off, and I struggled to stop crying from then on.

The chapel was not just standing room only, it was pretty much back row in the car park.

And the flowers were everywhere. The tributes were heartwarming and heartwrenching all at the same time.

It was lovely and tragically terrible too.

When I got back in the car to drive home, I turned on the radio and this was the first song on good old Radio 2 (apologies - you were far too cool for Radio 2 :))

Look at the stars,
Look how they shine for you,
And everything you do,
Yeah, they were all yellow.

Sleep well Magic xxx

lia66 · 08/09/2011 20:50

magic you would have been so proud of A and especially little I today, A is a very dignified man and he is going to keep your memory burning bright for your beautiful girls forever.

We managed to make him smile a little today aswell, I'm pleased we did.

Only once have I been to a funeral with more people present, it was a beautiful, heartbreaking service. The sun shone for you for one last time.

i know you're still with us, having a chuckle at the shenanegans last night between us all, I know you would have been there for pointy, as you have been before.

Mother nature is a cruel force sometimes. I don't understand it, don't suppose I ever will. Maybe there's a reason but at the moment I just think it's not fair.

We miss you. Sleep well. xx

Lizzylou · 08/09/2011 20:55

Oh how very sad, I am so sorry for all those who are missing someone who is so obviously very loved.
RIP Magic8

Freezingmyarseoff · 08/09/2011 21:10

I'm so sorry that you have been taken away from everyone who loved you so much. It has been a privilege to have known you just for a little bit, thank you for that. x

mamapower · 08/09/2011 22:01

Miss you. Night night Magic, sleep well xxxxx

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