Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

Original poster

Remembering the wonderful Magic8ballhastheanswers

131 replies

StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 17/08/2011 18:30

I would like to start a thread to remember the lovely Magic8 who unexpectedly died this week, leaving behind a husband, a 4 year old daughter and 6 month old twin girls.

I would like to do more, like blankets, but I don"t know if it is my place.

Magic8, good friend, I am so saddened by your passing. I am crying for you, your spiderbabies and the rest of your family.
Rest in peace.

OP posts:
reelingintheyears · 18/08/2011 21:45

So sad with such a young family.

I didn't 'know' her either but sad to hear of someone so young and with a young family going like this.

Best wishes to the family.

Changebagsandgladrags · 18/08/2011 22:16

My thoughts are with the family :(

SpringFlowers · 18/08/2011 22:17

Oh dear, this is so sad. I clearly remember the day you found out there were two, I am so sorry that the spiderbabes cannot know you as they should. You are all in my thoughts at this awful time, with much love, SamB

slowlygoingbonkers · 19/08/2011 07:16

I didn't know magic8 but my thoughts are with her family and loved ones. May she rest in peace Sad

Gi1da · 19/08/2011 11:20

So another day goes past and it's still hard to take in. I already miss your fb updates on the spiderbabies and dd, the fun things you did with them each day, especially during your recent holidays. I thought of the rose you planted for your lost one, and realised that the best celebration of your courage and beauty will always be in your girls. If they have even a fraction of your bravery, strength, joy and kindness, what inspirational women they will one day be. You touched so many people, in your everyday life, and here. Always magic xxxx

MABS · 19/08/2011 15:10

i am so very sorry to read this

BunnyBaby · 19/08/2011 19:14

Such very sad news. Magic was such a lovely lady, I remember her getting the BFP on the conception, then the amazing news that it was twins. My heart goes out to her wondeful husband and little girls. So sad to lose Ruby, and then for them to lose her. Life just does not seem fair.

Original poster
StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 19/08/2011 19:43

I want to say something more about this, but all I can do is sit here and stare at the screen.

we miss you. :(

OP posts:
lia66 · 19/08/2011 19:50

I just came on to do same ivy but still can't really take it in. When i posted that pic on fb earlier, i expected to see magic likes this..

We miss you too. :( xx

toomuchteaching · 20/08/2011 21:12

I still can't take it in. Lia, Ivy I want to add more too but can't. But I don't want the thread to drop off.

I can't believe I and the spiderbabies are without their mum. It's just so unfair.

aleene · 20/08/2011 22:53

This is so sad. My condolences to her family and friends.

MeriNisipPoissons · 20/08/2011 23:30

The Magic8 are in our prayers.

Funk · 21/08/2011 16:50

One of the saddest things I've read for a long, long time and can't quite take in the massive-ness of this family tragedy.

BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte · 21/08/2011 17:39

I'm so sorry, and am aware of how lame that sounds. If Magic's family are reading this, I just want to extend all the warmth and condolences I can.

I found her online after over a year of looking for others with personal experience of pregnancy and childbirth with heart disease. Magic was so incredibly positive and optimistic and encouraging, and I wish I could tell her again how grateful to her I am.

Original poster
StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 22/08/2011 15:33

tmt neither do I.. I hope people don't mind that I've bumped this again.

OP posts:
lia66 · 22/08/2011 15:55

I think maybe we coould ask for it to be moved ivy cos it'll disappear otherwise. Once we finish the book, maybe we could print it, along with the blanket thread to put in aswell.

Original poster
StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 22/08/2011 16:09

oh that would be lovely, lia.

(btw, someone just pm'ed me to ask where this thread was)

OP posts:
Lilyloo · 22/08/2011 16:17

I had seen the blanket thread , i had never spoken to magic but my condolences go out to her husband and girls how Sad

b00kw0rm · 22/08/2011 16:28

Ivy - that was me looking for the thread! I didn't feel the blanket thread was the right place to pay my respects...
I didn't know magic8 personally but was a serious lurker on the pregnancy after MC threads around the same time. I remember magic's 'story' really clearly and she was so upfront about the death DD2 that I found that really inspirational, especially the fundraising for Bliss I think it was that she mentioned a few times. She always seemed very upbeat and positive and I remember her way of announcing the twins was just to post a scan picture of the two and let people work it out for themselves- that way people had a similar shock too!
I felt that life has many ups and downs for all of us, but with magic she handled the downs with aplomb and she seemed to be on such an up with the safe arrival of the spiderbabies, that it seems an even greater shock to be taken away with such a young family.
My sympathies to her DH and DDs at this difficult time.

BreastmilkDoesAFabLatte · 22/08/2011 16:52

I agree. I was always totally humbled by and in awe of how well she coped with everything.

lia66 · 22/08/2011 22:26

MNHQ do you think we could move this to brereavement perhaps please.

Thank you

DorcasB · 23/08/2011 12:05

Ever since i heard the terrible news I have been struggling to find the words to write here. It is so very hard to take it in, that magic has gone. I met magic on the TTC after MC thread, where she, along with the other lovely ladies, many of whom have posted on here, were an absolute lifeline to me. We became pregnant around the same time, shared our anxieties, hopes, fears and general pregnancy niggles on the pregnancy post mc thread. Our daughters were born within weeks of each other and we made it finally to the post natal grads thread. It was an absolute honour and privilege to share that journey with her, she always came across as such a thoughtful, kind, caring person with her positive and resilient outlook on life. I was in awe of how unfazed she was by the prospect of twins and loved hearing her updates on the spiderbabies, during her pregnancy, and hearing how she was getting on after they arrived. It is heartbreaking that she has been taken away from her family like this, just absolutely devastating.
I didn't know magic in RL but, despite never knowing her beyond the words on the computer screen, she certainly had a very real impact on me, as do so many of you, and she will be profoundly missed.
My thoughts are with all her loved ones.

hairylights · 23/08/2011 15:08

so sad. RIP lovely woman and thank you for holding my hand in some difficult times.

PenguinsMummy · 24/08/2011 21:56

I hadn't been on Mumsnet for ages and was so very sad to see the news about Magic. She was so positive, warm, funny and honest. My thoughts are with her DH and DD's. Words fail me Sad

lia66 · 24/08/2011 23:32

So magic we had our first meet without you today, we were supposed to talk about something we are doing for your girls but it was a funny day and I don't think any of us really wanted to bring it up. It was lovely to catch up but there was a gap there that we were all aware of yet none of us could put it into words, ( I think I speak for all of us). When I look at the photos of the babies, I know the spiders are missing, and will be from now on, that makes me sad, :( you were obvious by your absence too, with your lovely shoes and your smiling face.

It's been more than a week now and it still hasn't really sunk in, Sleep tight lovely. xx

Swipe left for the next trending thread