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tragic death of my 14year old twin son

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devastatedmum · 18/02/2011 13:47

MY 14 yr old twin son, was the victim of the Blackpool sea tragedy 28/7/10, I will never understand how or why it happened right infront of our eyes, he was just 3 metres from shore. Michael was the strongest swimmer of the children, he knew all the dangers and alerted others of undercurrents. he was above average boy with huge potential in life, so full of energy and would've fought til the last for his life. his inquest is still under investagtion due to my concerns and doubts, none of which will bring Michael back, but may just save someone elses life.
Whilst on holiday in Blackpool, very sadly on wednesday 28th july 2010, my gorgeous twin son fell victim of the sea, at the tender age of 14years, a very strong,sensible, above average, popular boy
and good swimmer.
It was a normal bright/cloudy day, windy at times with sun breaking through, when we got to the beach next to central pier at 3.10.pm. Michael my twin son entered the sea with his friend Jake also 14, playing in a large inflatable ring and started off directly infront of us, no further than
couple metres from shore, The sea was calm enough although the tide was going out, and there were some frisky waves at times, the two boys moved to their right and we moved them back over infront of us because we didnt want them goin too near the pier.
My youngest son David age 11, then went in ankle high, opposite the two boys floating in their ring, paddling away, at times the wind was getting stronger and the two boys were drifting to their left towards north, then a while later Michaels twin joined them Daniel, we told him to tell the boys to come back over to their right as there were waves near them and it was calmer infront of us,
our eyes never left them for one second, the winds blowing and, within seconds of Daniel joining them at calf high, Michael and Jakes ring started going sideways further to their left side North, but they were still No further Than 3 Mteres from shore, No one seeing danger all laughing and
joking, they hit a sand dip now the two boys in the ring couldn?t feel the surface, they had not gone further out than 3 metres but because they hit this dip in the sand it made it look like they were with the waves, Daniel only a few feet away still calf high tried but couldn?t reach them, The boys called for help to a guy sitting infront of them on the sand, that done absolutly nothing, as he saw them laughing, probably thought nothing wrong.
My husband had already spotted something not right and ran towards them & called 999, as No beach controllers were on duty and No life ring could be found.
Michael pushed the ring over his head as he now wanted to come out of the water, although Michael tried to swim in, the current took him nowhere, although closer now than jake, Michael stil couldnt
reach the surface, from being over the dip in sand, so Daniel grabbed Michaels hands but a wave seperated them dragging Michael to the right opposite David, who didnt realise anythin wrong as he was still ankle high himself a few feet from Michael,
Daniel managed to grab Jake who was stil in the ring, and pull him out of water, but was still unable to reach his twin, they threw the ring to Michael but the wind threw it back, At 15.38 a wave went over Michaels head and he never surfaced again, There were several other children in the sea at
the time, and members of the public spotted the boys apparently also rang 999, and took their children out.
We were beside ourselves paddling in screaming for him, not understanding why Michael Hadn?t come to the surface, We were asking public to help but not one person would, even the guy doing donkey rides I screamed at didnt know what to do, but i think he rang someone...
Despite coastguards and helicopters with thermal imaging, they didnt find Michael,
It was actually members of public that found Michael at 6.30.pm on the sand next to central pier
Did Michael manage to swim to the pier and was waiting there for help, ??????
Mikey wouldnt have giv up No way he was far too clever not to have tried.....
When paramedics found him he still had a slow pulse but enough to work with, so they took him to hospitol, and carried out heart bypass, to treat his hypothermic body, but all the efforts were just too little too late, and Michael was pronounced at 7.50.pm..........The Worst Day Of My Life,
Losing You Was The Hardest Thing I Ever Had To Do, Loving You Was The Easiest,
R.I.P GORGEOUS, MY TWIN SON MICHAEL ANTHONY SHEEHAN

OP posts:
KazBarTheFriendlyGhost · 18/02/2011 13:58

Words cannot express how moved I am by your tragic story.

I wish you all the strength in the world to hold your head up every day and somehow find peace.

racmac · 18/02/2011 13:59

Im so sorry to hear your terrible news - I dont know what to say - I have never been there and I cant imagine the heartache you are going through.

My thoughts are with you and your family

DooinMeCleanin · 18/02/2011 14:03

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through. Mikey sounds like a very special boy Sad

ednurse · 18/02/2011 14:08

What an absolutely tragic and terrible loss. Please everyone, be careful. So sorry to hear this OP.

vnmum · 18/02/2011 14:12

The thought of what you had to go through has brought me to tears. I'm so sorry for your loss.

boohoohoo · 18/02/2011 14:12

What a terrible terrible tradgedy. I can not imagine what you are going through. My thoughts and best wishes are with you xx

WhatsWrongWithYou · 18/02/2011 14:18

Your poor son and your poor family. I can't say how sorry I am to read this. Feel inadequate to respond more.

solo · 18/02/2011 14:20

Your story has chilled me to the core; I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son, so, so sorry :(

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 18/02/2011 14:23

I'm so sorry for your loss op, I can't imagine what kind of hell you must have gone through that day and each one sinceSad

You are in my thoughts x

Jammygal · 18/02/2011 14:33

I am so sorry devastatedmum....lots of love to you and your family. I hope it helps sharing your story....you are really, very brave . Take care xxx

MercyMe · 18/02/2011 15:01

I am so worry to hear about what happened to your
son. I can't even begin to imaginr what you're going through. Thinking of you all x

mummylin2495 · 18/02/2011 15:12

How awful for you and your family having to go through this terrible tragedy.may i ask how his twin is coping with this ? You have my deepest sympathy.

mumonthenet · 18/02/2011 15:21

I am so, so sorry for the loss of your Michael.

Such a tragedy. I cannot imagine the pain you and your family are going through.

malevolentpsammead · 18/02/2011 21:39

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lavandes · 18/02/2011 22:52

devastedmum I am so sorry you have lost your precious son. I can understand how you are feeling. I lost my son in April as the result of an acccident (not the same as yours) you can read my posts. There is nothing I can say that will make any difference but please read the bereaved mums threads and I know you will find some support and understanding from other bereaved mums who will listen and not judge. xx

lavandes · 18/02/2011 22:54

Please will someone put a link to the lady who has lost her twin son in a dreadful accident she is devastedmum. do not know how to link. xx

dearprudence · 18/02/2011 23:07

What a terrible thing to happen. There are no words, I'm just so sorry. x

Susiewho · 18/02/2011 23:13

I'm so sorry. I hope you find support on these boards. :(

WhatsWrongWithYou · 18/02/2011 23:52

Lavandes, I hope this is the right thread - for bereaved parents?

Monty27 · 19/02/2011 00:03

O.M.G.

So so sorry. I know all the sorries in the world won't bring your beloved son back and won't soothe the pain you and your family are in.

Please seek and take all the help you can get. Look after yourself as much as you can, you were Michael's mum he wouldn't want it any other way.

Prayer here. I hope you don't mind.

I did lose a healthy child (4 mths) many years ago. The raw pain is unbearable.

blackeyeddog · 19/02/2011 00:10

How much you must have relived each moment to give your account. Bless you and so terribly sad for your loss xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 19/02/2011 00:15

So dreadfully sorry to hear about your precious boy. I kept reading it faster and faster and then had to go back and read again. So very sorry. I can only imagine how you are feeling.

Please come and have a look at the bereaved mums thread that was linked earlier in this thread. We all have lost children of different ages and under different circumstances. We all try to support and help each other in any way we can.

Monty27 · 19/02/2011 00:17

And beautifully written in his honour.

I wish there was something I could say but I know there isn't. All I'll say is he wouldn't want you in this pain and he's at peace now.

xx

candleshoe · 19/02/2011 00:21

I am a mother of twin boys too. I cannot begin to imagine your pain. You have my best wishes and I thank you for your story. xxx

AgeingGrace · 19/02/2011 00:25

I remember that story. What a horrible, horrible freak accident. The pain must still be utterly raw for you all - I'm so sorry.

It's so not true that "everything happens for a reason". We live in an unpredictable world, and it's staggeringly bad luck that this happened to you, your family, your little boy. Sometimes all your efforts come to nothing. But you know you made them. Thank you for your post and the reminder. Much love.

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