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tragic death of my 14year old twin son

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devastatedmum · 18/02/2011 13:47

MY 14 yr old twin son, was the victim of the Blackpool sea tragedy 28/7/10, I will never understand how or why it happened right infront of our eyes, he was just 3 metres from shore. Michael was the strongest swimmer of the children, he knew all the dangers and alerted others of undercurrents. he was above average boy with huge potential in life, so full of energy and would've fought til the last for his life. his inquest is still under investagtion due to my concerns and doubts, none of which will bring Michael back, but may just save someone elses life.
Whilst on holiday in Blackpool, very sadly on wednesday 28th july 2010, my gorgeous twin son fell victim of the sea, at the tender age of 14years, a very strong,sensible, above average, popular boy
and good swimmer.
It was a normal bright/cloudy day, windy at times with sun breaking through, when we got to the beach next to central pier at 3.10.pm. Michael my twin son entered the sea with his friend Jake also 14, playing in a large inflatable ring and started off directly infront of us, no further than
couple metres from shore, The sea was calm enough although the tide was going out, and there were some frisky waves at times, the two boys moved to their right and we moved them back over infront of us because we didnt want them goin too near the pier.
My youngest son David age 11, then went in ankle high, opposite the two boys floating in their ring, paddling away, at times the wind was getting stronger and the two boys were drifting to their left towards north, then a while later Michaels twin joined them Daniel, we told him to tell the boys to come back over to their right as there were waves near them and it was calmer infront of us,
our eyes never left them for one second, the winds blowing and, within seconds of Daniel joining them at calf high, Michael and Jakes ring started going sideways further to their left side North, but they were still No further Than 3 Mteres from shore, No one seeing danger all laughing and
joking, they hit a sand dip now the two boys in the ring couldn?t feel the surface, they had not gone further out than 3 metres but because they hit this dip in the sand it made it look like they were with the waves, Daniel only a few feet away still calf high tried but couldn?t reach them, The boys called for help to a guy sitting infront of them on the sand, that done absolutly nothing, as he saw them laughing, probably thought nothing wrong.
My husband had already spotted something not right and ran towards them & called 999, as No beach controllers were on duty and No life ring could be found.
Michael pushed the ring over his head as he now wanted to come out of the water, although Michael tried to swim in, the current took him nowhere, although closer now than jake, Michael stil couldnt
reach the surface, from being over the dip in sand, so Daniel grabbed Michaels hands but a wave seperated them dragging Michael to the right opposite David, who didnt realise anythin wrong as he was still ankle high himself a few feet from Michael,
Daniel managed to grab Jake who was stil in the ring, and pull him out of water, but was still unable to reach his twin, they threw the ring to Michael but the wind threw it back, At 15.38 a wave went over Michaels head and he never surfaced again, There were several other children in the sea at
the time, and members of the public spotted the boys apparently also rang 999, and took their children out.
We were beside ourselves paddling in screaming for him, not understanding why Michael Hadn?t come to the surface, We were asking public to help but not one person would, even the guy doing donkey rides I screamed at didnt know what to do, but i think he rang someone...
Despite coastguards and helicopters with thermal imaging, they didnt find Michael,
It was actually members of public that found Michael at 6.30.pm on the sand next to central pier
Did Michael manage to swim to the pier and was waiting there for help, ??????
Mikey wouldnt have giv up No way he was far too clever not to have tried.....
When paramedics found him he still had a slow pulse but enough to work with, so they took him to hospitol, and carried out heart bypass, to treat his hypothermic body, but all the efforts were just too little too late, and Michael was pronounced at 7.50.pm..........The Worst Day Of My Life,
Losing You Was The Hardest Thing I Ever Had To Do, Loving You Was The Easiest,
R.I.P GORGEOUS, MY TWIN SON MICHAEL ANTHONY SHEEHAN

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mamalovesmojitos · 19/02/2011 00:28

I am so sorry. I am here in tears, thinking about how unfair it is for that to happen to your precious boy. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. I wish you strength and some kind of peace from the very bottom of my heart.

This site is full of wonderful women (and men too) and I know you will always find suppport here if you want it. Bless you xx.

Quodlibet · 19/02/2011 00:29

Oh god how dreadful and terrible. So sorry for you and your loving family.

You've done something tremendous in laying out this account for others to read, I'm sure it must be so hard for you to do so.

The only wisp of consolation or sense I can glean in this terrible chance tragedy is that you know and can treasure how hard your courageous boy fought for his life.

My thoughts with you and yours.

RunawayRasin · 19/02/2011 00:34

You are in my thought's OP. I know that it will be of little comfort, but remember that every parent who reads this on here or has heard about your tragic loss will be that much more aware of the unexpected dangers of the sea. Your post alone may save a life.

Your DS sounds like a very special young man.

SparkleSoiree · 19/02/2011 00:43

Your moving account has brought tears to my eyes and I cannot for one minute imagine how you feel.

I am really sorry for your loss.

CointreauVersial · 19/02/2011 00:53

What a tragedy, I can't imagine how it must hurt.

I can't bear the sea, and am scared stiff of my dcs swimming in it. Your story makes me realise why.

nappyaddict · 19/02/2011 01:18

That is so scary. One of the reasons I only go to beaches with lifeguards patrolling. Although in your case I'm not sure it would have made any difference :( So sorry for your loss.

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differentnameforthis · 19/02/2011 06:35

So so sorry for your loss.

lavandes · 20/02/2011 00:27

devastedmum We are all here for you. We have all lost our precious children. If you need to talk to others in your situation we are all there in the bereaved mums thread. We will listen to you, and we will not judge you. I have gained so much support over the last 10 months and I will always be thankful for that. xx

devastatedmum · 16/07/2025 18:16

Hi guys thanks for all the love and care can’t believe I wrote this so long ago I didn’t know how to reply I hope you all receive this now
currently 12 days from Michael’s 15th year
he was under 4 month off being 15 when he passed so it’s another hard one again this year! I hope you are all doing well yourselves
take care and again thankyou for reading about Michael’s tragedy oxox😘

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lateSeptember1964 · 18/07/2025 05:57

Thinking of you and Michael 💕

Solo · 18/07/2025 23:49

I can't imagine the heartbreak of losing a child. @devastatedmum I wish you peace and love. I hope you and Daniel, and Michael's and Daniel's dad and doing okay.

My Dd (18) is a little fish in the sea, but i worry every time she goes in, and don't take my eyes off her.

Monty27 · 21/07/2025 06:11

I'm so sorry to read this. I hope over time you and your family has found a way to cope with this tragic loss.
RIP Mikey. 💙💙

Spooky2000 · 27/07/2025 23:02

devastatedmum · 16/07/2025 18:16

Hi guys thanks for all the love and care can’t believe I wrote this so long ago I didn’t know how to reply I hope you all receive this now
currently 12 days from Michael’s 15th year
he was under 4 month off being 15 when he passed so it’s another hard one again this year! I hope you are all doing well yourselves
take care and again thankyou for reading about Michael’s tragedy oxox😘

The anniversary of the time that they were alive is always really, really hard. When 29 and then 30 years had passed since my DP had passed - he was 29 when he died - and at that point and the following year, I was thinking about where would he be, what would he be doing and thinking and I was just grateful our son was with me. My son died - he took his own life, like his father had - when he was 31, so 2 years later than his father had.

Time is an odd thing, because we wonder what they'd be doing now in the entire lifetime since they passed and this is poignant for you because of the moment.

My point really is that now that the time he has passed equates to the time he was alive, it is really, really hard...because you wonder where they would be, what would they be doing, what would have happened in their lives. I genuinely hope that you, your family and Daniel have love and happiness in your lives and take comfort in knowing that people are thinking of you all and sending you love and hugs at this awfully difficult time <3

With love and with thoughts and hugs to you all

Spooks xxx

BetsyJameson · 25/08/2025 20:24

Thinking of you, Michael and your family ❤️

MrsPositivity1 · 14/09/2025 21:11

Such a devastating thing to happen to you and your family. Your Michael will be looking after and guiding you all. I wish you all the love in the world and especially Michael’s twin.

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