My dad died last night.

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I have posted about him recently when we were first told he wouldn't survive

It had been 9 weeks and 2 days since he took himself into hospital not feeling too well. He never went home again.

He was moved to a hospice a couple of weeks ago and it was lovely there, but ultimately distressing for everyone as we all knew what was coming

He had acute heart failure and renal kidney failure, and filled up with so much fluid that he could barely breathe, it was devastating to see him in that state.

He was only 63. I was meant to have him for years yet.

I haven't even contemplated how I will deal with this, with him not being here any more.

My lovely dad.

So sorry Fusty

So much you have to get through.

Try to remember that everyone's response to grief is different.

Yours will be unique to you.

Though they are often trying to be kind, people will say daft things.

Sending you strength and patience.

I'm so sorry for your loss. :( x

all your messages are so kind

i feel like i am floating through the day - I have been living in an unreal world since his diagnosis really, and am worried that when this truly hits me I will crumble

don't really know what to do with myself

i'm ok really, just dazed

Sorry to hear this Fusty.Posted on your other thread as my dad had just been hospitalized with heart failure and fluid build up at the same time.Take time to sort everything in your head and take some time just for you.Thinking of you x

I lost my dad at 54. He never saw me married, never saw his grandchildren, still breaks my heart.
Take care x

Fusty, my heart goes out to you and your family. I am so so sorry :(

Its so sad and I feel so very sorry for you.

What helps (I find -i lost my parents too) is to have a list of things youd like to do that they would have liked or wanted to do....perhaps your Dad was a great gardener so a bit of garden you could plant up 'for him',perhaps he loved Great Yarmouth so sometime you could go there and do things hed have liked? its just nice to have a'shared place' iyswim.

thinking of you x

Oh Fusty :( I couldn't read this without posting.
I lost my Dad in November 2007, it still hurts.
Be kind to yourself. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Remember the good times and the fact that you had him in your life even though it should have been so much longer.

Thinking of you. x

So sorry to hear this, Fusty. Thinkiing of you.

Oh Fusty, I am so sorry. 63yrs is no age at all Let yourself be looked after. Take care.