any not so newly widowed around?

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I know there are a few of you who post on MN - I'm more than 3 years on from being widowed with small child but struggling atm.

It would be great to talk to anyone who is also a bit further down the road. Places like MW are great, but I don't feel like they are the right place for me now, as I am (I thought) long past the initial raw state of early bereavement.

Hi Chrisli,

There is a list of the abbreviations used on this site, by clicking on Acronyms above.

WAY is Widowed and Young.

MW is Merrywidows www.merrywidow.me.uk

Afraid I don't know what SWANS is, hopefully someone else will help with that one.

Hope you and your boys are managing on this 'journey'

Sorry this is short, trying to sort my boys tea at mo.

Take care

Swans is the message board on WAY ( widowed and young) a few of us here are members of WAY.
Welcome to mumsnet.

Chrisli the WAY website is here www.wayfoundation.org.uk/ I have found WAY an enormous source of strength and support since losing my husband just over two years ago. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Evenstar Do you still have to pay a fee for finding out where your local group meets? I was wondering about joining, but in the early days didn't know if it was for me. But the paying of the fee up front before being told where your group met put me off. What if I attend one meeting and then decide that its not for me - what happens about my fee then?

You do have to join WAY to attend as far as I know, I had already joined and found the chatroom very supportive before I went to a meet up though. I am sure you could phone them and ask if it was possible to go to a meet up as a guest. If not I would honestly join up and give it a try, and be prepared to go more than once if your first meet up isn't great, they vary enormously depending on who goes and where they are. Some people only go to things with their children, whereas others prefer the adult only events.

Evenstar Thank you :)

Lemony, if you send a private message to me or evenstar, telling us whereabouts you are we can look and see if there's a group in your area, it's one of the best£15 I've ever spent.

Thank you. :)

My friend lost her husband unexpectedly just last Wednesday and we are helping her and her kids, only 16 months, 7 and 11. But what would you recommend is best - keep going round or give her space? She has little family there to help but wants baby close to her all the time. Just want to do the right thing.