Anyone else have a child that WIll Not Stop Talking?

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DD1 never shuts up. And if she asks me soemthing, as opposed to just randomly making noise then she will repeat it and repeat it until it drivesme mad, even if I answer.
I can see that DD2 is heading the same way as well, she was a late talker but is making up for it.

YEsterday they had me in tears after a day out when DD1 just Did Not Stop and I was trying to relax and listen/talk to other people as opposed to being 100% focussed on her!

Anyone have any advice? I feel awful telling her to Shhhh as I hated it as a child (Oh yes, she gets it from me) but when I am on the phone, or cooking , or driving and she is demanding my full attention it is too hard not to.

dd2 used to be like this, it was very wearing, but now at 8 she's SO much quieter. She's still definitely on the talkative side (school reports tend to be full of comments like "confident", "good leadership skills", "takes an active part in class discussions" all of which I read as "bossy and talkative") but since about 5 she started learning to think with her mouth shut, as it were.

That was such a relief. Though there are still weeks when I wonder if she's on the ADHD scale, or her mouth at least.

and we have 2 quiet ones too which helped.

DS is 3.2 and does not stop to draw breath from morning until night. He also talks in his sleep. His current phase involves endless pointless questions - 'Is that car a bus? Mummy? MUMMY?! Is that car a bus? Is that van a car? Is that man a lady? Is he, mummy? Is he a bus? What's a van being a car? Is that a red Peugeot? Why? WHY is it a red Peugeot? Is it an AA van? What's a car broken down?' - all day. ALL day. He does redeem himself with regular flashes of genius and he has fantastic comic timing, but ye gods it's wearing after a few hours minutes. He's at nursery two mornings a week and his teachers rave about how chatty and funny he is, and I'm incredibly grateful for his verbal ability and his confidence, but OH and I are both very quiet people by nature and it's been such a shock to the system.

DS is 4.3 and is exactly the same. We have a half hour walk from nursery and he does not stop talking the whole way. If DD (21m) is whinging at the same time I really struggle not to snap as I can't cope with the stereophonic sound of the noises.

Even when I ask him to be quiet he's 'Can I just say one more thing mummy?' until he gets to say at least ten more things.

Like Spiderlight I'm really proud of him. We got his nursery report last week and they mention his wide vocabulary, imagination, confidence and sense of humour, but my god sometimes it's so wearing.

Glad i am not alone. I have 2 DDs 5 & 3 both chatterboxes. What gets me is how the volume seems to increase after a day at nursery/school so they come home almost shouting at me. Also when they are both talking at the same time and keep getting louder and louder trying to outdo one another in competition to be heard. I have been known to hide in the bathroom for 5 minutes just to get some peace!

I have one complete chatterbox aged nearly 4 but have noticed that sometimes she turns her chatty sights on her (much quieter) little sister these days.

Sadly a fight normally breaks out just as I'm enjoying the solitide.

BubbaAndBump - that's truly all too familiar..

This morning DS, aged 4, said that "nobody else is to talk because their words are boring ,only I will talk because my words are interesting" Delivered with hand on hip and wagging finger. Often talks himself to sleep or lies chanting random numbers.

Girny that is funny! ds frequently tells me we never listen to him, or let him speak

Can I just say that as the mother of a pre-verbal child (I'm not counting "buh" for bus and "ahvwah" for au revoir), I have found this thread to be the most entertaining thing I've read in a long time? The ladybird and the man/lady/bus/AA van transcriptions had me howling.

I'm sorry for your familiarity with that ramble MammyT

corgikelly if you'd like the live version of ladybird-esque ramblings, feel free to send me your address and I'll send you my DD for a week or two - Free of charge!!

Apparently when she was about 3 or 4, my mum was told by my grandmother to stop talking for one second - her answer? "But mummy, how can I breathe if I stop talking?"

Therein lies the root of all my headaches!

Oh yes.. from the moment she opens her eyes to the moment she closes them! Yesterday we were sat in the hairdressers and she dd not stop chattering, then started making a high pitched noise, I asked her why she was making 'that awful racket'. She answered, 'but mummy I'm being a peacock'! Ok then!

I blame child focused parenting/education. Its no wonder they never shut up because from the moment their darling little eyes opened they've had adults hanging off their every word.
And now suddenly they're able to communicate and, quite rightly, engage what they believe to be is an enthralled, captivated audience.

Kids are just little people and if you're not honest with them about what its like being a grown up you're in for a rough ride. sometimes...no, most of the time, they're boring, annoying, idiotic, loud, nonsensical, disruptive, attention seeking little shit bags.
parents are not their play-mates, they're not their friends, grown ups do not socialise with toddlers and toddlers need to know this. its all very well spending time with your kids and teaching them skills but to bring them up thinking that everything they think and say is fascinating is such a big mistake. Its bollocks too about building up their self-esteem with this method, it does no such thing. it makes them lost in a cushioned world where they feel they are the centre, that is a terrifying place to be and it is not the source of true confidence. These kids are going to spend their whole lives looking for themselves because their parents were too scared to be honest with them. If they're crap at drawing tell them they are, if they cant play the piano for shit - tell them. If they ask lots of stupid questions - tell them. then you'll be teaching them the most important thing in life - discernment. where they fit in and where they dont. what they're good at and what they're rubbish at.

DS is like that. Yesterday he almost reduced me to tears, as I had such a bad headache. In the end we just went out to the playground in the freezing cold which made us all feel much better.

I've resurrected this thread as it made me glad that I'm not alone.

My DS (almost 4) chatters from dawn til dusk, which is very wearing at times.
I've told him 'Eaglechick, you don't have to talk all day long', to which he replies 'Oh yes Mammy, I do. I like talking all day long'.
If he can't think of anything to talk about, he makes a repetitive noise, which gets increasingly louder, ('derrrrrr, derrrrrr, derrrrrr, DERRRRRR') until a new topic of conversation pops into his head.

I've tried telling him that 'Mammy's going to switch her ears off for 5 minutes now' to try to get a break from the chit-chat.
I've tried telling him that he 'must be quiet until Mammy drives round this difficult corner'.
I've tried begging him to be quiet for 5 minutes.
I need more tips to try please.

PLEASE! Before my ears go into meltdown :)

I love this thread, it made me laugh so much and made me realise that at least I am not alone.
My DS is 3yo and along with the constant chatter, there is constant whinging (sp?), selective hearing and an inability to keep still for a single second.
I am quickly losing my patience and I'm worried that I'm turning into [hangry]

Oh this thread had made me laugh. I was only saying today to my mum how much DS 2.7 talks, he never shuts up. "mammy what's that whats that whats that" whilst pointing to things he already knows, " mr bean on now oh its broken needs batteries daddy get more from shops mammy bean broken need batteries play car now mammy get bob builder where's my bike mammy whats that" yak yak yak drives me mad!!! He never finishes one sentance before randomly starting to talk about something else.

Thank you to everyone here for helping me understand that I’m not a bad Dad for wanting to spend 2 minutes listening to the news or reading a post on Mumsnet without a constant stream of “Dadda?”“Dadda?”“Dadda?”“Dadda?”“Dadda?”“Dadda?”“Dadda?”“Dadda?”“Dadda?”

Lack of acknowledgement just means repetition louder and louder because 4yo thinks I haven’t heard.

A few days ago on a long car journey, I snapped and told them both just to be bloody quiet (2yo son whinging all the time too).

I felt awful and wondered if I might cause a speech impediment or some other psychological issue with social interaction by reacting angrily to something that, under normal circumstances, I encourage.

I’ve tried to explain to eldest:

“Daddy needs you to not talk to him for 5 minutes whilst I read. OK?”

“OK”

Of course, within 30 seconds she’s forgotten and starts going on again. So my voice increases in intensity. Then it happens again and again until, inevitably, tears.

She looks crestfallen. As if I’ve told her that I’m never going to talk to her again.

WHY CAN’T THEY JUST BEHAVE LIKE FULLY GROWN ADULTS????

My wife is foreign and has the ability to just ignore everything around her whilst “fiddling with her phone” (might not be to do with her foreignness - could be simple bloody ignorance) but I literally can’t ignore it.

For me, human speech takes precedence over all other sounds and focus. So, playing a game, watching TV, reading, anything! If someone talks, my attention goes to them.

I think that must be polite right? And I don’t want my daughter to think that the things she says aren’t important so I want to give her my attention.

Hopefully it’s just a phase and the school she starts later this year will help her adjust to conversation patterns.

Also, despite the long, rambling post, I’m not a chatterbox myself. In fact, because of my work, I spent a lot of time focusing on my conversations and training myself to be “the listener” rather than the talker.

I’m economical with words. Why say a hundred words when 3 words and an expression say it all?