Anyone else have a child that WIll Not Stop Talking?

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DD1 never shuts up. And if she asks me soemthing, as opposed to just randomly making noise then she will repeat it and repeat it until it drivesme mad, even if I answer.
I can see that DD2 is heading the same way as well, she was a late talker but is making up for it.

YEsterday they had me in tears after a day out when DD1 just Did Not Stop and I was trying to relax and listen/talk to other people as opposed to being 100% focussed on her!

Anyone have any advice? I feel awful telling her to Shhhh as I hated it as a child (Oh yes, she gets it from me) but when I am on the phone, or cooking , or driving and she is demanding my full attention it is too hard not to.

My son has Asperger's and used to monologue incessantly. Shushing didn't work.
Eventually we worked out a hand signal I used when I was talking to someone that he could
a. Identify as the sign to stop talking
b. Knew that it meant it was time to stop talking right now, but that he'd have a chance in a moment to tell me what it was he wanted to say.
I would also tell him that I was busy cooking and that I wouldn't talk to him until we were eating. And I didn't.
It took a long time, but he did learn to control the times of his need to talk unless under stress. It also worked to stop a lot of those inappropriate Aspie questions that our social conventions say should be thought but not said.
In that case the sign meant 'Don't ask, and I'll explain later'
It is incredibly wearing and you have a huge amount of sympathy heading your way.
As always, I found being specific and consistent made the whole process of teaching him a lot simpler to manage.

I know that other parents of NT children have limited them to a certain number of questions, given them a timer so that they'd try and be quiet for a period of time, Answered a question and then when asked the same one again replied 'What did I say last time?' There will be a lot more ideas given soon.
Failing that, gin and headphones for you and gags for the chatterboxes.

'I would also tell him that I was busy cooking and that I wouldn't talk to him until we were eating. And I didn't.'

Perhaps I finished that sentence in my head. I meant that I then didn't continue to talk to him whilst I was cooking, but that I did when we were eating.

i send dd1 to her room for periods in the day to spend some time on her own and spend a lot of time out in company with others so she doesn't drive me completelt insane!

DS is like this. When he can't think of anything specific it'll just be a repeat of the same question or "Why?" ad nauseum. I try to answer as much as possible but meet repetition of questions with a challenge to remember the answer. I also try to turn it round and ask what he thinks the answer might be. It is so wearing though, and can sympathise with it bringing you to tears. Frustrating doesn't begin to cover it.

My just-turned 4 year old is like this. She never stops talking. When she is playing on her own, even in a different room I still here her chatting non-stop.

She is very imaginative and has ongoing stories with her toys etc

It can be exhausting. In the car she knows she has to stop for a minute if I have to pull out at a difficult junction/overtake or do something that requires extra attention but other than that she never stops.

I wonder how she will cope in school but I suppose she will have to learn.

(I know what you mean JackBauer. If I complain about it to anyone they smile and give me a knowing look as I have been know to go on a bit be a bit chatty.)

JB I think you have raised this before (?) and I offered to send ds over - offer stands......ds doesn't shut up. I went downstairs this morning to find him playing on the ps and carrying on a complete running dialogue (with himself) as he was doing so. Constantly in trouble for chatting at school as well (but like you, I know the apple hasn't falen far from the tree!)

Thanks guys.
I have raised it before and am still bemused as to why you think i want another one .
i think it's getting worse as just as i'm starting to manage with dd1, dd2 has suddenly found her voice so i have one on each side of me.
I also have a hearing problem where if the noise level is too high i can't pick out individual sounds so having them both going on and getting louder to drown each other out is just unnaceptable for me.
That and the fact that it drives me nuts!

I like the hand signal idea, i am ok with her talking at appropriate times but when i am doing some things i do need them to stfu

oh dear GOD YES
i do.

its relentless
its non stop
its wearing
it takes ALL of my energy and strength to not scReam out "JUST PLEASE SHUT THE FUCK UP JUST FOR 2 SMALL MINUTES PLEEEAAAASSSEEEE"
He repeats the same question over and over until he has the answer he wants, he askes questions about things that i just cant answer..."why does that man in the red car in front not want a blue car?"
"who makes water?"

He also screams out, or shouts out. Its really odd, i ask him why he does this and he says he doesnt know. But randomly he will screetch out loud, or shout like he has no control over it.
Saying be quiet or some times please shut up does absolutely nothing but make me feel like an irritable nasty bitch, but i honestly some times feel i cant take another second of his voice in my ear.

Its getting me down if im honest. I adore the very bones of the child,have always encouraged him to be inquisative but this is a very very difficult phase unfortunately.

I'm in the same position as goblin and also use hand signals!

dd ( NT) is a chatterbox also ( luckily ds1 tends to just do teen grunting).
The hand signals work with dd as well.. Or if I'm getting " mum.. Why..." questions non stop I reply " well what do you think?" she stops..

wearing isn't it?

My two are like this too. I don't think I'll be able to change it so I'm trying to accept it and feel ok about it. Mine just want to feel listened to and that I'm interested in them lots of the time so they talk randomly even when they don't have anything definite to say. Most of the time it is utter gibberish. I've decided it doesn't matter what they are saying at times like that, it is just part of my job to make them feel I am interested in them. I just observe them and all the little things that make them children and the things that are lovely about them and make a few listening noises.

That's when I'm not feeling stressed, tired or ill, or really need to concentrate on something. At those times it really wears me out and makes me feel I could develop a mental illness! I sometimes have to say "don't talk to me while I'm doing this, I'll talk to you when I've finished".

Yep I've got two like this - non stop

No thank goodness.

However my ds has autism and only really says what needs saying iyswim. Dd is a bit more chatty and I must admit to clock watching the hour before bed time just to get some peace!

Ds had a little girl from his class home for a play date once and I was like this at the amount she rabbited on. Really sweet kid but I was knackered by the time she went home.

isn't it wearing?! I have a 3yo like this and he just doesn't stop from the moment he wakes til he hits the pillow at night. It is so exhausting mentally because you can't focus on anything else if they keep asking you questions. I feel cruel ignoring so I always respond, sometimes a bit abruptly

I am evil as I have jusy roffled at
'could Jesus pull me out of a black hole if I went past the event horizon'

Mine are only 4.2 and 2.7 so I have a feeling I am only at the start.
I agree that most of the time it is nice that they are inquisitive and want to know but sometimes (normally when I have PMT and they have been up since 5) I just want them to annoy someone else, for just a few minutes.

It's the guilt of snapping that gets me the most I think. DD1 has a habit of asking for something (normally food) and I will tell her she can have a snack later. She keeps asking, so I say if she keeps asking she won't have one.
Then all I get is a 4 yo's idea of 'evasive questioning' which is 'what time is it? when is later? is it later now? etc etc'

She's now lying on me saying she is hot. 5 minutes she has bene doing this and has found a good 50 ways of telling me how hot she is. I know she wants me to give her an ice lolly and that woudl end it but she is being a greedy pig and I am not bribing her with food to shut up, I am sure that's why I have such comfort eating issues!

Sympathy back at all of you. I have done this thread before purely so I don't feel so alone but some good coping mechanisms I can try as well, feel free to add more!

'DD1 has a habit of asking for something (normally food) and I will tell her she can have a snack later. She keeps asking, so I say if she keeps asking she won't have one.'

A sand timer for her to watch.
You know that you can get hour glasses, don't you?
Can't have terrorised her that much if she's lying on you, sharing the hot.

Lol at can't have terrorised her that much thanks.

She can sort of tell the time so I tell ehr she can have a snack when the clock is at the 12 or whatever. Then I get a running commentary on what the fricking clock is doing
'It's a bit closer to the 212, now it's at the 9, the 10 is next, then the 11, then it's snack time

I love her really, honest

JB I was working on the principle (probably misguided) that they could talk to each other and leave us alone....
Ds has been moved FIVE times in class for talking - they now have him on a table where the children are either a. too scared stiff to talk or b. catatonic (I am not sure which)....Whilst it is extremely wearing I have come to the conclusion that there are worse things ds could be/do

DD1's bff is a chatter, normally they do chunter on to each other but then they come up to me and both start telling me in excrutiating detail about what they have been up to.

I invited her mate round after school the other day, I originallytold her mum it was because we had no car and I knew she had to pack for her holiday so I figured she could use the free time.
Only when shje picked her up full of gratitude did I admit that it was really so that all 3 woudl leave me alone all afternoon.

oh god yes the detail....ds said to dp today shall I tell you X (can't remember the exact topic and it doesn't matter 'cos he does this with everything) X was a one word statement - but oh no, we got five minutes with all the corolarorry and description ...... dp just rolls his eyes and looks meaningfully at me (wonder why )

DD is a total chatterbox. She never stops. When she goes over to her friend's houses their parents ALWAYS comment about it !

It has really been driving me mad in the car recently. I have started having to say 'can we try have some quiet time for a while now please' which SOMETIMES works. If not, I point out things that we drive past and try to get her looking for things quietly (e.g. see how many horses and sheep you can see before we get back home) to take her mind off her inane ramblings.

I also get the 1 second time allowance before the nagging starts - e.g.
DD: Can I have a drink please.
Me: Yes, but give me a minute, I'm just doing something.
1 second passes...
DD: But you STIIIIILLLL haven't got me a drink..etc etc etc

I'm a member of this club too. You know Ben from Outnumbered? I have one who is 4 and actually silenced a palaentologist with the question

"you know all the predators around now, they mostly have 4 legs, lions and tigers and komodo dragons and crocodiles and bears and foxes and things, so why did the dinosaur predators only have 2 legs, like t-rex, allosaur, baryonyx, velociraptor" (continue with list of dinosaurs for about 5 minutes.

Cue me, looking very embarrassed and trying to get him to shush. No answer from the palaentologist though!

Oh and if I'm stupid enough to say "you can have one in a second" I get the retort

"A second means ...now!"

arggggghhhhhhh

DH and I watch Outnumbered in a sort of horrified amused fascination.
DD1 is Karen. We fear DD2 is building to be Ben.