Anyone read "Raising Girls"?

[StealthPolarBear]

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theres a book?

why did no-one tell me?!!!

oh don't buy it I'll send it to you!
(and couldn;t you write it yourself? )

with the days i have had lately with dd3, no. lol

will check the library.

is it good?

I've read it. I think you'd get better advice on here. I thought it was all pretty obvious. Might have been revolutionary in 1970?

OK I've kept my neutrality for ...8 mins
It is dreadful
tone is patronising, advice is cliched, and there is a whole section which as far as I can tell is advising dads on avoiding inappropriate sexual behaviour with their DDs, by something she describes as "maintaining the generation gap"
at that and that dads need to be told!

I'm glad it wasn't just me. I thought it was dreadful. I deleted my original rant!

I read it.
Can't remember any of it.
I seem to think it was all either really obvious [don't tell your child she looks ugly] or really patronising [don't tell your child she looks thick and ugly].

oh and in the writer's opinion it's important that women "give fiery speeches to the United Nations General Assembly against war and for justice and peace"
well I've failed there already, it's been ages since I've done that

hey but i've only read half, don;t ruin the ending

g'wan gizza 'nother example

Gah

Because obviously the really succesful women has no greater aim in life than to reign in the males at work. To spread peace and harmony through the UN and cupcakes.

Makes me feel like forming my two into banking hedge funding power houses who make a million every day. Just by way of rebellion.

oh and one more rant then I'll stop for now, promise

on working mums vs SAHMs
(paraphrased)
happy mummy = happy baby, if you want to work then that's what you should do

to quote the great Steve Biddulph, why have children if you're just going to let any old person look after them while you pursue your career

Stealth FFS woman, what have you been doing? No UN speeches? To busy having a real life perhaps. I'm not sure I ever finished it either, now you mention it!

lol, shall i write a better version

my ideal tip is dont have more than 2 girls. they will fight, and scream, and pinch. and all want their own rooms, but end up sleeping all in one bed in the middleo of the night lol.

no one else at the sexual stuff. If aliens are reading this, then they will assume that adult/child sexuality blending as she describes it is common in most households

Too busy, even... Book pisses me off so much I can't type properly!

although the stuff I'm reading at the moment about self esteem and self confidence is fairly good - something I'm working on with both DCs but finding hard to figure out

am a bit but havent read the book

I was stunned by the sexual stuff. I was abused as a child and I honestly think this book made me regard DD's perfectly normal father with a disgusting level of uncertainty. It made it sound as if it were normal for fathers to have sexual feelings toward their daughters. (My abuse wasn't my father). It was a long time before I would leave DD with him. He would be beyond horrified if he knew I'd ever thought that.

ha ha one more since you beg wukter
apparently girls are developmentally advanced when compared to boys. Now I thought that was communication and fine motor skills, but she says it's everything. OK, I don;t know enough to argue. Apparently a 7month old GIRL will draw a line on a sheet of paper. I have an 8m old girl. She would eat the paper and then chew the pencil. I refuse to believe many 8m olds would do much differently.

Has anyone read the 'Raising Boys' version? A friend recommended it to me, but based on the comments on the girls version, I'm scared to go there....

Belle
Yet I don;t think she actually means that...I don't think she knows what she means, think she's just being clever.

play a friend bought me the girl one because she had two boys and thought the boy one was excellent.

stealth I know. It just triggered stuff in me, I think. Something else could as easily have set it off, probably. It's one of those many maternal fears - just determined to do all I can to keep her safe (just like every other mum, of course).

I have and have read the boys one and it was a fairly bog standard parenting book, good in places, bad in places. If you plan to return to work before your child is 30, don't read that chapter though - he has strong views on modern day witches working mums.