I'm single parent working full time. DD was full time at nursery from 4 months... You can imagine how upsetting reading the comments in that book were.
My "choice" was go back to work and support us both (ie keep house, etc). It was bloody awful for the first 2.8 years. DD is 2.8 - sob! I still cry when I leave her some days - how bloody pathetic is that? And she loves her nursery the little traitor.
We all do the best we can really, don't we?