5 months old baby...young for discipling?

[sweetexpectation]

Friends are telling me how i am spoiling him by holding him when ever he cries, but he is one loud baby,he screams until picked up, i dont know what to do.

Should i be strict and let him cry it out?

Far too young for discipline!

way too young. You can discipline to your hearts content, he won't have a clue what you're on about. Just give him a cuddle.

what for - he's 5mo not 5yrs.

fgs he's a baby , he isn't doing it deliberately !

NO NO NO,no hes 5 months old hes a brand new baby,hes not safely cushioned in the womb hes here in the world with harsh noises and bright lights - love him and enjoy him cos soon he will be 16 .

{image in my head of 5 mo old disciple}

Do what you feel is right. Don't listen to your friends. If he cries, then pick him up, that is a baby's why of communication; he wants you to hold him for comfort, so that he doesn't feel alone, or bored etc.

Have you tried carrying him in a sling?

Yes too young.

Babies cry for a reason. They shold never be left to cry it out, their needs should be attended to.

Ignore other people's well meaning but unasked-for advice.

Tell them you tried putting him on the naughty step but he kept falling off.

@ Buda

He can't talk - how else can he tell you he needs a cuddle other than crying?

You cannot spoil a baby by picking it up when it cries. FFS some people are so stupid (not you OP)

buda.

I cannot fathom why anybody would treat a baby in a way they would not treat an adult.

Do you have a DH/DP op? Does s/he ever have a bad day? When they ask for a cuddle or try and talk to you do you lock them in a room and leave them to their own unhappiness for a specified amount of time and/or until they stop moaning?

It's bloody ridiculous that people would ignore a 5 month old communicating in the only way they know how.

Your friends are taling rubbish.

Pick him up, cuddle him and enjoy him. You can't spoil a 5 month old with too much love.

It would be cruel to ignore him.

I think he is too young too, but the thing i dont seem to get anything done, and when i tell this to friends the answer i get is its your fault for carrying him all the time.

cuddle, cuddle and cuddle some more

sling

get a sling?

The research shows the more a child is responded to in the first 6 months the less that child will cry in the second 6 months. So really you are storing up nice quiet cuddly times for the 7 to 12 months bit

I love cuddling my babies, though I have to chase and catch my 3 year old these days.

"Do you have a DH/DP op? Does s/he ever have a bad day? When they ask for a cuddle or try and talk to you do you lock them in a room and leave them to their own unhappiness for a specified amount of time and/or until they stop moaning?"

Not so far, but that sounds worth a try

Also, it's worth remembering that your friends' babies who have learnt not to cry have not learnt to 'self-settle', they've learnt not to bother crying because they can't trust their mum to come to their help when they need them. It has been shown repeatedly that this is very damaging to the development of the emotional part of a baby's brain, and something that can't be undone.

you wont get anything done for the next 5years

For a long time i carried ds3 around in a sling with dhs fleecey jumper over the top of us both - it was the only way to comfort him - although on the good side it did look like i was half the size when i finally lost the blue fleece .

Get a sling ... honestly. You can then cuddle and get on with things. It won't be too long before your baby is a toddler who is too busy rampaging around to want much cuddling. Enjoy it while it lasts