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mortified my toddler swore

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spanna74 · 10/12/2009 13:38

Things have been pretty tough here since DD2 arrived 5 months ago and I have lost my rag on a number of occasions recenty.

Yesterday DD1 (2 and 3/4) was putting books back on the shelf and they fell off and she said bl*dy bl*dy hell. I am literally mortified as I do remember screaming this at one of my lower points this week. She also kicked the door and said bl00dy door when she couldn't open it.

I do try no to swear in front of them but things have pushed me to the brink recently and I have snapped quite a few times.

I asked her very gently not to use those words as mummy shouldn't have said them but now wonder if i should just ignore it and not make an issue of it. Would die if she repeated it at nursery.

Feel awful about this.

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hohohonotlongtogo · 10/12/2009 13:43

I wouldn't worry, true it's not nice to hear your toddler repeating swear words but we all let them slip occasionaly when stressed just let it be a lesson and don't beat yourself up over it! Ds1 has copied "bloody hell" in the past and i have just given him a stern look and said "i beg your pardon?" he said "you said it mummy" (then i realised i really can't be too cross as it was my fault) so just told him what you did "mummy should not have said that naughty word because it is rude and will make people sad, so im sorry too and we will both make sure we don't say it again ok" I havn't heard him say it scince

lucykate · 10/12/2009 13:47

don't fret, they all do it. dd was about 2.5 when she dropped the bucket of pegs in the garden and shouted 'bollocks' (she's got that one from me ), and at 3.5 she had road rage and called a car driver 'knobhead' (that beauty came from dh). she knows not to use swear words like that now, but back then, they were just words to her, she had no idea it was swearing.

Skegness · 10/12/2009 13:50

Don't worry. Even if she repeats it at nursery they will have heard it all before and far worse to boot. Bloody hell is pretty mild in the scheme of things. Mine proudly produced the obvious word at nursery at age 2 when letter of the week was f. I was mortified but the nursery thought it no big deal, we all ignored it and it didn't become his favourite word or anything. (yet!)

heavenstobetsy · 10/12/2009 13:50

To my horror, we have had a bugger, a tits, a sod and most beautifully nob-jockey!

It is appalling and I am horrified but I found that just ignoring it worked a treat. the only time we have a word said more than once was when I tried to stop DD saying 'sod' - at which point DD sang it repeatedly at the top of her voice

Now, I just ignore it and REALLY watch my language!

Skegness · 10/12/2009 13:51

lol @calling a taxi driver knobhead!

Habbibu · 10/12/2009 13:52

DH, at the very end of his tether one day, said "fuck's sake" in front of dd. Which she repeated. He cunningly thought to buy her a fox hand puppet, and convinced her he'd said "fox says". Worked like a charm, but only for certain words...

jay11 · 10/12/2009 13:54

don't worry, ds said 'bloody buggy' at my nan's funeral a couple of years ago aged 2.5! Between dd1 and ds I have heard fck and wnker said on a few occassions, although I hasten to add these aren't words I say in front of them (dh driving is the source I think). Obviously explained that they were naughty words etc etc, but agree with lucykate in that they are just words to lo's.

jooseyfruit · 10/12/2009 13:55

I used to be a sweary toddler, my favourite being "buddy sake"

my toddler shouts loudly whenever we're out "fuck, fuck, fuck"

which is his way of saying truck.

don't feel awful, lot's of kids do it, I tend to ignore, and then make a huge effort not to swear, which is difficult sometimes.

EffiePerine · 10/12/2009 14:00

DS1's best one while playing was 'fucking ninky-nonk'

We can tell who he's picked the word up from as DH and I have different accents - that one was NOT my fault as no back vowels were involved!

RealityIsHungover · 10/12/2009 14:02

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mistletoemulledwinemoodlum · 10/12/2009 14:04

DD "oh fucking hell"

Me "ooh why did you say that?"

DD " because that's what you say when you are in the car and you want to stop"

LOL at fucking ninky nonk.

ShinyAndNew · 10/12/2009 14:06

Dd2 regualarly has a pish in the potty. This occured after DH announced inf ront of her that the dog had pissed up the doorframe.

We keep saying "no it's wee wee" but she just replies "No mummy pish. I pished in potty"

She also says shit instead of sit and mancock instead of monster.

Dd1 is no longer allowed to listen to my ipod after declaring to mil that all she asks for is one fucking hour

gemmummy · 10/12/2009 14:08

i know it's wrong...but it's so funny!

choccyp1g · 10/12/2009 14:12

DS learnt "wobblies going on" from my brother's "what the bldy hell is going on?"
Brother doesn't really count Bldy as swearing.

jay11 · 10/12/2009 14:15

Bloody isn't swearing in my book either!

Bigbadmummy · 10/12/2009 14:19

I was asked by my DS's pre-school leader one day if she could have a word.

Scene:

Local WPC came in to talk about the police and how they help etc etc.

My DS put his hand up:

"My mum doesnt like you"

"Why is that?"

"Because she went through a red light by mistake and said "Shit, now I am going to get a fucking ticket from the police".

Mortified was not the word for it at picking up time.

AllarmBells · 10/12/2009 14:19

Oh dear...pished in potty . That's what I think when I see ITNG - "fucking ninky nonk"!

We made a heroic effort when DD was about 6 months and managed to cut swearing to a minimum. DP said "Oh shit" under duress - DD got it mixed up with "ouch" and if she hurt herself she would should "ouch it, ouch it". We reprogrammed persuaded her to cut it down to "Ouch".
Nothing since due to our lovely language habits...then the other day she ended a sentence with "and bollocks.". We haven't a clue where it came from. We've both been watching The Thick Of It, perhaps we are channelling Malcolm Tucker.

Good luck to us all with our battle against hilarious-but-wrong tiny children swearing

AllarmBells · 10/12/2009 14:20

would shout not would should...duh

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spanna74 · 10/12/2009 15:12

feeling better now and had a good laugh.

spat my tea out at f**king ninky-nonk...!

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thenewbornnanny · 10/12/2009 15:24

Hahahahahahahahahaha

I once stubbed my toe very badly in front of a 3.5yr old charge and it hurt so much I instinctively said "F*ck that hurt!!!!!" .... that weekend said charge banged into everything she could followed by hissing the same phrase. Monday morning chat with the bosses: "If you hurt yourself, would you mind passing out rather than using expletives in front of our daughter?"

potplant · 10/12/2009 15:36

LOL at some of these.

We've had bloody, crap, piss (as in I'm going for a piss), thankfully no F words yet. My DS once said Knickers which came out as the incredibly offensive N word in front of my ILs. My PIL said 'what did he say?' so he said it over and over again. I could have died of shame.

flimflammum · 10/12/2009 15:44

at bigbad's police story!

I recently picked up something in the kitchen that was covered in ants, and shouted 'Aargh, it's covered in bloody ants!'.
Half an hour later, we're upstairs and DS points out, 'Look Mummy, there's another bloody ant'.

laurielee · 10/12/2009 19:34

DS seems to have thankfully stopped now, but went through a real phase of saying 'Oh bugger' everytime he dropped something/banged into something/anything remotely bad happened. Came from me I'm sorry to say!

I have never been so embarrassed as the time he started chanting 'bugger, bugger, bugger' in church and, when I put my hand over his mouth attempting to stem the flow, he started screaming as if I was murdering him. Still makes me shudder now.

hophophippidtyhop · 11/12/2009 13:07

Dp used to have a text alert that was Mr T saying, mail motherfucker! I kept telling him to change it which he did on the day dd, 2, repeated it after it had gone off!

Diselfchanted3 · 11/12/2009 13:08

Apparantly when I was 4 my mum was cleaning the fire and I said to her

mum why are you using fucking newspaper?

Nothings changed, I swear like a trooper.

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