Illogical reasons for tantrums in toddlers. Share with me please.

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Out for a walk today. My ds threw an absolute wobbler because the flock of seagulls on the seafront had the sheer audacity to fly off when he chased them.

He then proceeded to fill the front of his sandals with sand, looked up at me as if I was responsible for this horrendous crime screaming at the top of his voice "Mummygetitout'! Mummygetitout!"

was not sure wether to piss myself with laughter or be embarrased.

OMG these are hilarious and so, so familiar....

In Feb we had DD at 20mths hysterical every morning for about a week as she checked outside the window for her snowman and a little bit more had disappeared each day. When he was finally just a lump of ice on the ground she kept vigil by it for about an hour until dragged in.

This morning she found the stones we'd used for snowman's eyes (they were decorative ones I keep for putting in plant pots). She'd remembered they were snowman's and wanted to know where he was and why we couldn't make another!! Cue 'I want snowman, waaaaaahhhh!!'

When DS decides he will "share" his raisens, and put one in my mouth. I dared to swallow. Cue five minutes of NAUGHTYMUMMYGIVEITBACKNOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!

Mindee got off metro train before ds - 10mins

Mindee pushed button on crossing first - 5mins

Mindee built a better sandcastle on beach -at least 10mins

Mindee kicked over ds sandcastle cos he kicked over mindees better sandcastle - we went home

Now I recall why I am going back to work in September...........

My DD (2.8) had a screaming hissy fit this afternoon because I went outside and sat on a garden chair - apparently it was the wrong one - no THAT one mummy, no no you can't sit there WAAAAAHHHH. What was that all about!!??

DD fell to pieces when DH dumped her buggy on the spare seat next to her in the car.... Oops, apparently he had just squashed her imaginary friend. Nothing would console her and we drew the line at taking said friend to hospital!

oh god this is making me feel so much better...recent tantrums have included:
the one about not being allowed to go into space, in a spaceship.
the one where the dog went downstairs ahead of him. oh, the temerity.
the one where "mummy sing! mummy sing!" and i had to go through the entire repertoire of about 20 songs he knows only to be told in mounting hysteria that all of them were the WRONG one. the right one has yet to be identified. or possibly invented.

Why you didn't allow him to go to space??? Just say yes as long as he sorts the rocket out.

After a lovely day out with friends and their toddlers, we were all loaded up back in our cars and ready for journey home. Ds (3) who had been fine all day, had a total freakout because one of other mummies cars went in front of us out of the car park gate.

cue "i want to be first out of the CAR PAAAARRKKKKK" screamed at top volume for most of the journey home. I tried explaining, reasoning, tried "we would go first next time" etc etc, and after 40 minutes just turned up the radio really loud! my ears are still ringing.

This is a fab post as I'm so glad I'm not alone! Where to start with my dd's tantrums (aged 2).In the past 24 hours:

• Grabbing my sunglasses then blaming me and bursting in tears when she pokes herself in the eye with the arm of them.

• Doing a poo, blaming her newborn baby brother and going beserk when I change her nappy, still maintaining it was him even though there's a stinky pile of evidence in her nappy.

• Screaming at me because the horse we normally say hello to isn't in the field for some reason.

• Going utterly mental every time I even dare to glance over at her newborn baby brother, nevermind actually pick him up.

I swear if I was in court and my toddler was on the jury, she would find me guilty of everything and anything without hesitation!

My DS (2 1/2) went up to bed screaming and bawling tonight because I wouldn't wash him with a hosepipe and cold water in the back garden. He also had the screaming ab-dabs this afternoon because he'd eaten some blackberries that we'd picked for Daddy - cue ten minutes of frantic pointing at his own mouth and shouting 'Mummy get them OUT!!'

ds2, who will be 3 next month, usually wakes up in a paddy.

Classic random cues include:

Putting the 'wrong' shoe on first ie: putting right one on him first when he wants the left one on first.

The wrong parent doing the seatbelt up which is not rectified by the offending parent unfastening the belt and allowing the correct one to do it, as then, it's 'still wrooooonnngg!!'

again here - the dogs going down stairs first.

giving him the wrong cup.

not letting him wear his black drainpipe cords with a guitar embroidered on the back pocket EVERY DAY even tho they are so filthy they could walk themselves to the machine.

making him sit in a trolley.

it is generally anything and everything at the moment.

Ds2 is infuriated by the ending to Mr Strong.

Mr Strong eats lots of eggs, but the 'surprise' at the end of the book is that he has icecream for pudding.

"Nooooo he has EGGGGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!"

When his ice lolly melted. Oh and we can't say the word buggy or he will sit in it in the porch & howl until someone takes him out for a walk.

When we go past the train depot in the car. We used to say trains, look DD, ooohooooh! Now, we have to point, but we cannot say the word 'train' we have to ask her what noise the trains make, but cannot do the noise ourself. it took us a while, and a lot of tantrums to figure exactly what we needed to say and what she wanted to say.

If we do not get it exactly right, every time we drive past it, she howls and howls and gets very very very upset.

Sometimes, we forget, or she does not pay attention and we miss it completely, then she sees we have gone past the trains and its the same as getting it wrong, tantrums for a good 20mins afterwards (we normally pass the depot on route to a major road, meaning we are on a journey so not easy to stop!

oh good.
mine are normal then.
Woe betide you if you flush the toilet for ds2.

He is, in fact, so 2 that I have taught him to say "i am 2" from time to time. Just to remind me. I once told ds1 to "stop behaving like a 2 year old" when he was, umm, 2.

However, even ds2 knows not to move the cars parked on the kitchen floor as per ds1's plan. They have been there for some weeks now.

I know this is an old thread, but I read it before and laughed... now DS is 18 months and I am starting to see some illogical tantrums. Last night was hilarious - he was quite tired admittedly, but he decided that he wanted to carry a little wrist strap thing with bells on under his chin.

Except every time he put his head up to see where he was going, he dropped it. He could not work this out at all and was getting more and more frustrated with it, he ended up picking it up and putting it very firmly under his chin, and then walking two steps, dropping it and screaming infuriatedly at it on the floor, stamping, etc. He was enraged and I was quite literally sitting on the floor laughing. I did take pity on him after a few minutes and took him up to bed but I admit I had a little chuckle as I was feeding him.

A month or two back my daughter, who is two and a half, had a bad day. I finally lost my patience with her when she began screaming at me in the car because I had not parked in the car parking spot she wanted in an empty B&Q car park.

This is funny - I look forward (!) to some of these with DD.

I remember my nephew being cross because he wanted 'green milk'(semi skimmed) on his cereal, not 'blue milk' (whole milk) so my brother brought him weetabix with whole milk which had a couple of drops of green food colouring in. Cue MAJOR tantrum, despite DB pointing out that he had green milk now!

I'm so glad I found this thread. I have a two year old boy, George. For some time now I've been rather concerned about his tantrum 'triggers'. For example;

Demanding that his food be served absolutely whole and remain that way indefinitely. This can be a tricky one, especially if he is halfway through consumption of said food, and I've learnt that chopped fruit/veg/bread/eggs/sausages/ WILL not be tolerated. Neither will an ice lolly that melts whilst he's eating it or a bananna that accidentally splits in half. He refers to these unacceptable foods as 'BWOKEN' and will proceed to fling/smear/stamp the food in question across the nearest inanimate object or himself....This in turn will invariably create a 'MWESSY' which only serves to exacerbate his anger further. Until I've completely cleaned his face/hands/toes/ears and have refunded 'BWOKEN' foodstuffs for an undamaged item (ie chocolate) his wrath will not be sated!

As you can see I now realise that it's not just my child with unusual tantrum tendancies. I've found this new knowledge greatly comforting but I can't help wondering if maybe there is a secret toddler conspiracy which will result in their world domination? Or maybe more 'CHOC CHOC'!

babyasboismyson, it's really normal for children to hate broken food, as the second it is broken, it stops being the food item they expect it to be.

An ice lolly looks like an ice lolly, not something drippy on a stick ... so when a much loved ice lolly turns into something drippy on a stick, where the fuck did the ice lolly go???

eldest bratski?because she is 7

the middle bratskiWhite knickers!

She wore pink socks/sandles/skirt/leggings/long sleeve top/short sleeve top when we went out.Her knickers were white.
20 minutes later we worked out why.

youngest bratski because he isn't a slug.

Mine has them if I peel his banana, if he sees me cut up his food, if he has a biscuit and it snaps in two, if I wipe his face with a baby wipe, when he puts dads shoes on and cant stand up! And sometimes he'll just have one for no apparent reason whatsoever

Harrowing ABC book-related incident....

"A is for apple, B is for ball, C is for Cat, D is for donkey"
"Horse"
"Donkey. See the picture is grey and has big ears and begins with 'D' noise "
"HORSE!!!!! IT'S A HORSE!!!! IT'S A HORSE!!!! AAAARRRRGH!!!!!"
"D is for horse"

... and relax

Harrowing clothes shop-related incident. I picked up two different tops and was crossing the shop to pay for them when, out of the blue, 3 y.o. DS starts shouting "Don't like that one....Put it back!!!... Don't like it!!!!.... Put it baaaaaack!!!! By now he's crumpled theatrically on the floor doing a bloody good impression of a heartbroken child, wracked with sobs. I'm trying to ignore little Gok Wan and stay stoically in the queue but others are picking him up tenderly, scowling at me and I ended up putting the one he didn't like back on the rack.

My DD (then about 3) was obsessed with Angelina Ballerina.

Me: Would you like to go to ballet classes, darling?
DD: Yes, mummy, dance ballet
Me: It would be fun, wouldn't it. You could wear a lovely dress like Angelina.
DD: Yes, mummy. Dress. Angelina
Me: And you could dance with other little girls and boys.
DD: No. No girls and boys. Mice. Angelina mice.
Me: I don't think they'll have many mice in the class. They could get hurt.
DD: Nooooo. No hurt mice. (starts to sob)
Me: Well, the mice are so small and they might get trodden on.
DD: Nooo. No hurt mice (hysterical edge building). Not small. Like me (indicates mice that would be same head height as her). No boys and girls. Mice. Mice. Mice (shrieking now)

This one ran and ran. In the end just had to say we'd have to wait and see what was at the ballet class when she got there - girls and boys her age, or GIGANTIC mice....