Active discussions

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Behaviour/development

Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.

Original poster

quite clingy, weepy, non-active toddler, am I doing something wrong?

77 replies

mummylonglegs · 14/05/2005 14:42

Message deleted

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Set a reminder
Original poster
mummylonglegs · 26/05/2005 18:37

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 26/05/2005 21:30

sounds great, Mummylonglegs. and your dd sounds keen. when is she 3? I had a talk with my dd's nursery teacher today who said how much she holds back and often doesn't join in with the other children in a group. she's only happy with a couple of friends. it's just the way she is - she sits and observes and you can almost hear her brain whirring away... mind you, I am like that too - v shy within a group but quite loud and confident with friends/family. you just want to do what you can to make their lives happy and stress-free, don't you?

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 26/05/2005 22:09

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 28/05/2005 16:43

Exactly like that - sooooo loud, talkative and extrovert at home. Then clams up - ie. at her 3rd birthday (which was at beginning of May) she was having a fab time playing in playzone thing but went sooooo shy when they did disco dancing/games etc. Bless She has also started saying she doesn't like her new nursery because "It's boring" (great.... )

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 28/05/2005 22:06

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 29/05/2005 08:48

my dd bosses me around so much too - and her little brother but in a v loving way. she just is so sensitive. was speaking to my mum and she said I was exactly the same - ie/ happy to do puzzles etc at playgroup rather than run round giggling with the other kids. !! my mum says she sees it as strength of character...not sure I agree! have consoled self with thinking how well she does to do two full days at nursery - at her age I hadn't even started playgroup. we expect so much of them so young, don't we?
wonder if two shy toddlers would be shy with each other?!

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 29/05/2005 21:56

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 29/05/2005 22:11

Well, thanks, MLL. Hope so. Still, at least she appears cool, aloof and mysterious when being shy as has exotic good looks (unlike me who is just a bumbling English drip!)

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 29/05/2005 22:19

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 29/05/2005 22:20

oooh, sounds lovely. my dd sooo lucky - really dark hair and mile-apart blue eyes.....

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 29/05/2005 22:39

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 29/05/2005 22:41

ooh, will look now

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 29/05/2005 22:41

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 29/05/2005 22:43

oh, bless - what a sweetie! she looks so grown-up!

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 29/05/2005 22:45

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 01/06/2005 08:51

Hi, MLL, feel quite upset today. Picked dd up from nursery yesterday and caught two boys being a bit mean to her in garden (nothing major, usual kids' stuff. She was pretty upset on the way home - just feel she is so tender-hearted and can't bear to think of all the harsh life lessons she'll have to learn. Am I really doing the right thing sending to her to nursery? Her teacher said to me she had adapted well (she has recently moved nursery as our little one merged with a bugger one) but is quieter than the other children. Feel so guilty sending her

dinny · 01/06/2005 08:51

ha, excellent typo - bigger, not bugger!

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 01/06/2005 12:42

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 01/06/2005 14:42

She's at nursery now, so will see how her day has been when I pick her up. It was just boys in a wendy house - she was outside an opened window and said "hello" and they were like "get out, it's our house". So nothing MAJOR... Her retort was to say, "yes, it's nice, isn't it, your house?" but she was upset by it. my dh thinks I am completely neurotic for getting upset by this! didn't tell the staff as too minor really. when dh took her to nursery this am she went in happily and chattering away to him, kissed him bye etc. so maybe she'll have a good day. feel like I want to keep her under my wing for her whole life!

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 01/06/2005 17:38

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 01/06/2005 20:07

she had a good day, MLL! v chirpy and chatty when I went to pick her up. saw her in garden before she saw me and she was playing hide-and-seek with two girls. she keeps saying she doesn't like boys (even her brother and daddy!) thanks for the support. until the next upset.....

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 01/06/2005 22:36

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 03/06/2005 19:11

nasty little sod! would LOVE to send dd to a girls' school. if we ever get an offer on our place we are trying to move to Cheam and get into Nonsuch High School For Girls. ds is already a total thug and he's only 9 months old!
actually, dd is pretty physical - but in a very self-possessed way and she's always v careful around other kids, younger ones.

Original poster
mummylonglegs · 03/06/2005 22:44

Message deleted

OP posts:
dinny · 04/06/2005 06:59

poor Noddy! my dd calls her little brother Noddy (he is called Ned/Neddy!) he drives her mad, his big fists in all her "things" . just put up our playpen as he is so meddlesome and she keeps asking me to shut her her in it if she's doing a puzzle etc so he can't ruin it! boys, hey?!