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my 3 week old won't let me put her down. She just wants to be latched on or asleep. Preferably both at the same time.

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newbabyjustarrived · 12/05/2009 21:20

I'm exhausted. Is this normal? She hates the car, she hates the car seat. She hates the moses basket (but I put her in it when she's fast asleepand she's ok) hates the bouncy chair, everything.

She only shuts up crying when i latch her on.

Tell me this is normal

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LadyOfWaffle · 12/05/2009 21:21

Normal Tuck yourself up in bed/on sofa

thisisyesterday · 12/05/2009 21:24

it is normal yes. get a decent sling, or just sit down and relax with her. it doesn't last long enough imo!

SoupDragon · 12/05/2009 21:25

Get a sling. Something like a coorie is easy and works well.

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Aranea · 12/05/2009 21:27

Really normal. In fact, you're lucky she'll stay asleep in the moses basket - some won't at all!

It won't last for long, don't worry. So make the most of it, curl up with her and a good book, a stack of magazines, the tv remote and the phone. Oh, and make sure you've got lots of water handy too. Then you won't need to move at all.

whomovedmychocolate · 12/05/2009 21:27

Hahahh, wait till you have a toddler with separation anxiety AND a newborn doing this!

As others have said, entirely normal. Nature's way of upping your milk supply, it gets better, eventually.

BTW crying is her only way of communicating, it's not a way of saying you are doing anything wrong, it's just that's all she knows what to do.

TheProvincialLady · 12/05/2009 21:28

Normal. It's such a shock isn't it? And don't be thinking it's because you're BF - because my ds1 was bottle fed and just the same

It starts to get a bit better in a few weeks but in the meantime, go with it. Get into bed with a dvd. And when she won't be put down and you need to do things, a wrap sling is a godsend.

TheProvincialLady · 12/05/2009 21:29

Soooooo....are you7 hearing that sling message yet?

peggotty · 12/05/2009 21:31

You can get her into the moses basket when she's asleep without her waking up!?! I couldn't even do that with ds. I remember one particular night he was latched onto me from 6.30pm until 2.20am. Really. How I emerged from that childs' younger babyhood with sanity intact I'll never know. It's hard hard work isn't it?

whomovedmychocolate · 12/05/2009 21:39

I have a moses basket that DS spent a grand total of three minutes in before he outgrew it as he was permanently attached and/or yelling in my arms. DD was the same. In the end you just accept that that's what small babies do and magically they forget to do it the same day and you start to question your sanity for the previous few months

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newbabyjustarrived · 14/05/2009 10:27

chocolate! i HAVE that toddler!!!!!!!

hes 15 months !!!!

Im having a nervous breakdown i swear....

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Aranea · 14/05/2009 11:28

Oh sorry! My advice completely useless then. I assumed it was your first, sorry.

Do you have a sling? Was the only way I could manage with dd2 when she was tiny.

KerryMaid · 14/05/2009 11:33

Normal? Yes.

Infurtiating? Most defnitely!

If you're not into the whole sling shebang you could try one of those baby swings (not the bouncers, the motorised swings).

It worked for us.

Acinonyx · 14/05/2009 12:20

We did a combination of sling (dh was better with the sling than I was) and motorised swing. I watched a ton of crappy tv movies lying on the sofa with dd on my chest.

phdlife · 14/05/2009 12:22

snap, newbaby (though my toddler is 2.1)

and dd is very heavy - and I had a section - so finding the sling exhausting too.

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newbabyjustarrived · 14/05/2009 18:23

sling seems sensible as does rocker. any recommendations?

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littlelamb · 14/05/2009 18:29

You need a wrap sling. A Kari Me or a Close is a safe bet

llareggub · 14/05/2009 18:29

We should start a new baby plus demanding toddler support thread! Mine is 2 weeks old is sounding very much like yours. Toddler is 2.5 and thankfully fast asleep.

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newbabyjustarrived · 14/05/2009 19:02

support group. yes i'm up for that. posts would be a bit random tho as we struggled to find a free minute!!

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lou031205 · 14/05/2009 19:06

Ahh, even more fun when you have a 3.5 year old with developmental delays, a teething 21 month old and a 1 month old who won't be put down

Kari-me sling is great - saved me when DD2 was born & DD1 still not walking.

iwantitnow · 14/05/2009 19:08

big problem with sling is I can't sit down in it and play with my toddler on the floor. Can't get my 8 week old to sleep during the day in the cot , end up dancing with my DD at 4pm every day to get DS to sleep in the sling. I got a swing this time helps a bit

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newbabyjustarrived · 14/05/2009 19:22

lou, i'm humbled. that sounds HARD ..

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Aranea · 14/05/2009 19:23

I recommend the Moby wrap sling. It's lovely, especially for younger babies. If you get a Moby D with a nice print it even looks cool, too.

I had a Close but couldn't get on with it - it seemed to overcomplicate what the Moby does with beautiful simplicity. And it never quite did up tight enough.

lou031205 · 14/05/2009 20:51

newbaby not as bad as I feared. DD1 goes to preschool 12.5 hours per week, so that helps.

Seriously, just take it day by day, and accept any help offered with open arms.