DD and the spectacularly mixed up pronouns

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When dd is busy and trying to say things in a rush she mixes up her pronouns. For example she will say 'mummy read the story to you' or 'can I sit on my knee'. I assumed and still do that this is just a general confusion, doesn't matter and at other times when she's less busy she gets it right or corrects herself of her own accord.

Alpha Mummy at toddler group who specialises in Nasal Talking and Inappropriate Comments Coupled With Smugness, informs me that dd has a problem. As far as I know she is not qualified to diagnose speech problems.

Now, I don't believe her but just wondered if it's a common confusion, to mix up pronouns.

I am almost tempted to start mixing them up in Uber Mummy's earshot.

how old is your DD?
when children learn to speak, which they do all the time, it is a continual process, new words etc etc, they often have a problem with the actual physical muscles not working as quickly as the thought processes. They are not properly co-ordinated yet. This is all perfectly normal and your friend is talking out of her backside.

It's what makes little children so cute, the fact that they do get confused and mixed up.

She's 23 months old so several years too young to even suggest it's a problem.

She speaks in proper sentences, slight wobbly syntax at times but just confuses pronouns.

I'm a bit peeved at this woman really, that's the root of this. We got off on the wrong foot when dd was 8 months. Her ds (about 3 at the time) whacked dd on the head with a fire engine and the woman marched over and said 'that's what you get for sitting your child amongst the toys', glared and walked off. Obviously, she's a loon and the sky's a different colour in her world but...

I was just interested in the swapping of pronouns really and how common it was.

It's extremely cute and one of the idiosyncracies of having a child. Ooh she struggles with the letter l sometimes, just misses it out. Wonderful. Next toddler session I will be getting her to point out as many clocks as possible in full ear shot of aforementioned Strange Lady.

Your DD sounds delightful and this other mother sounds vrey insecure.

I read somewhere that making grammatical misstakes is a sign of intelligence.

Just read your last line...

My 3 year old can't really say his Y yet so yes is more whes. SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO cute when he says it all excited.

You're right. I is very intelligent.

very

and mistakes

sounds perfectly normal to me (also have a 23 month old - but doesn't sound as though he's talking as well as your DD )

DD and the saga of the letter l makes for great entertainment. We take her to get new books out once a week and she runs through the town screeching 'Bribery, going to the bribery today'. Brilliant. Oh whes, tis very cute.

Mine says "Mummy help you!" rather than "Mummy Help Me" Sooo cute
Alpha Mummy needs to wind it in!!

Alpha Mummy's got ishoos. They wheeled in a couple of children's entertainers at easter, ones with puppets and an irrepressible desire to chirrup nursery rhymes, you know as torture a treat for the parents children. Said smiley and upbeat entertainers were singing and waving their puppets about to the joy of the children. Slowly, out of the corner of my eye I see Alpha Mummy sidling to the front of the room. She roundly told the entertainers off for singing 'Baa Baa Black Sheep', the well known racist and hate inciting rhyme, insisted they put the black sheep puppets back in the box and sing Mary Had a Little Lamb instead.

You can have all sorts of fun with a mother like that. Don't forget to laugh out loud if she proffers any more gems of advice.

As far as speech is concerned, my 3 yo ds is only now getting into speech and I love it when he asks me for a tuddle mease

(Cuddle please)

My DD is 33 months old and constantly mixes up her pronouns whether she's in a rush or not (when she's in a rush it's more of the same with added stammer).

Hasn't occurred to me it is a problem. I think it's quite a tricky concept for little ones to grasp and she'll get there with a bit of patience.

This woman sounds like a loon - with a sense of humour bypass.

Wow, Alpha Mummy sounds like a charmer!

Either the pronoun thing is perfectly normal or else my daughter desperately needed help at that age but has mysteriously sorted the pronoun thing out all on her own because I am so slack and didn't bother about it (she's now 2.7 and gets pronouns right about 95% of the time).

DS mixed his pronouns up like this. We thought it was cute, then we started to wonder if we should worry about it, but by the time he was about 3.5 he had it all sorted out, and he's an articulate and literate 9-year-old now.

As far as I can remember, we didn't try to correct him when he got it wrong, as we quickly discovered that it's almost impossible to explain - we just made sure we used the right pronouns and he got it in the end

I think it's a normal part of sorting out language, and if DS is anything to go by, nothing to worry about.

I've recently studied this very subject and wrote on it in one of my finals papers (so I am v glad at this chance to show off!) It is very normal. I came across it in lots of the literature - its just one of the stages of language development. Your DD will keep amusing you with her language skills until she acquires the irregular past tense sometime around the age of ten!
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Laugh in Alpha Mummy's face on my behalf please

My 25 month old says: "Mummy I want to sit on my knee" all the time. It's cute. I think it proves she's getting to understand language - instead of just saying: "Mummy, knee." like she did a few months back.

She's already keeping us amused!

Sounds interesting Geekylass. My first degree was 50% linguistics and given how absolutely complicated the English language is, I'm happy to marvel at the fact that in 23 short months she has gone from gurgling to full, properly constructed sentences. Well instructions really. Like now for instance, she's pulling on my arm shouting 'no more computer, stop it now, play with me'.

It's a really tricky concept to grasp. Because you never hear anyone else addressing you using the words you are supposed to use to address anyone else, if you know what I mean!

Exactly edam. If I point at me and say 'me' then that means I'm 'me' and I'm not, am I? I'm 'you'. Frankly it's a wonder any of us are stringing sentences together.

It's absolutely normal, and really logical, if you think about it - she's addressed as "you" so understands "you" to mean her, etc etc. It's really quite a complex concept, and amazing how children grasp it at all, to be honest.

Geekylass - I do believe you've just done my degree course!

My DD is 2.1 and has me/you and my/your very firmly and consistently back to front. I am impressed that you DD gets it right even some of the time.

When dd started to talk she used to say "help oo?" when she wanted help, I thought it was so cute

DS is now just starting to talk and if he does something and I say good boy he says good girl and repeats whatever he'd done over and over until I call him a good girl. Now that's confused!

If any of my 23 month olds could speak as well as OP's I'd faint with delight.