This is so not funny

[MuffinBaker]

The kids have messed with the bathroom door handle so many times, DH has had to repair it so many times, that there are too many holes. DH pulls the handle to open the door, handle flies off, smashes into the loo and breaks it.

£100 for a loo.
£45 for a new door.
£ for handle as discontinued.

30p in my account

beyond that they wreck everything.

i do find that the days when the ds's are at their worst are often the days when I have given them the least attention.

and you know, sometimes you just CAN'T give them the attention they need cos you're knackered, or ill, or just want some space of your own. and that's ok too, as long as you remember that most of the time they aren't doing it to be "bad" or "naughty" they're doing it because they're kids and they have a hard time controlling their impulses and because they need a lot of attention.
we're having a lot of rough days atm due to the fact I am heavily pregnant and can't be arsed to do much with them
But IME it does seem to go hand in hand.

I think the older ones can respond well to chats about what will happen if things get broken though. I've said to ds1 that if he throws toys and they get broken then I will give them to someone who can look after them properly. he gets reminded of this fairly frequently lol
with bigger things I've explained that if I have to spend money repairing stuff then that means less money to do the fun things we enjoy like getting a magazine at the shops, or paying to go over to the big park etc etc

muffin -

What we do is say 'if this happens again...then this will be the result'

so for hanging off the door after being warned not to, they would have not to sit in the hall for 1 minute. Or not play with their toy for 5 minutes. With minimum fuss

If they stopped doing it we would be really pleased with them and tell them so.

(works sometimes..and not others)

but with 3 kids, as young as yours we all shout at sometime or other...so dont feel bad

you're obviously aware that it isnt very affective

flightattendant - I think that is a really good preventative measure and I agree that is really affective...but I know my DS1 gets in moods when he just wants to be naughty.

He honestly loves it sometimes (and as shineon says normally when the gets less attention) but there are points in life when he cant get all the attention and has to learn that there are certain things he really must do

(eg open the front door, using a chair and let his 23 month year old out the house whilst I'm in the loo )

sorry not shineon it was thisisyesterday

Ohhh mass sympathies.

When dd1 was 8 and a right stroppy little mare( only to me of course, sweetness and light to everyone else), I REMOVED her bedroom door after she has slammed it one to many times. DH came home to find the door stored in the garage. She was MORTIFIED. Everytime one of her friends came round, I pointed out the lack of a bedroom door and said that I would return it when she learned to show some respect to the house.. I felt a bit mortified myself about a year later when i discovered that this was a standard punishment dished out to deviant teenagers! 10 out of 10 for OTT parenting I though!

We would threaten the door coming off, mine are slammers, but they were a sod to hang.