My poor 10yo DD has her first period .....

[2sugarsandapuppy]

... well, first after a brownish smudge last month, and it's really quite heavy. She refused to talk about it and the night before last went to bed with knickers on and a load of bog roll stuffed up her fanjo. (I only know this because she asked for a back rub when she went to bed.)

She has a class this morning and has been invited to a friend's house for a sleepover immediately afterwards. I should also have said that when I showed her he pant liners (after having taken a sharp intake of breath about how to tackle it) she went off in a complete huff and refused to talk about it.

Yesterday, bless her, she came back from school with knickers and (thankfully she was wearing them) tights soaked.

I can't get out to the shops before this bloody class starts. What to do about the sleepover?

TIA

Not 'allowed' to use the tumble dryer? What planet is this fuckwit on? (HIM, not you OP). It sounds like your H needs his attitude readjusting sharply: he is not the owner of you and DD, family life is a team effort. He sounds selfish and unkind.

If it helps my DD is 11 (yr6) and started her periods in Feb and her reaction was exactly the same as your dd's.
She refused even to keep the pads in her room and insists they are in a drawer in my bedroom. I offered to buy her a nice pencil case etc to keep some in for school and she just says no and refuses to talk about it
I know she had another period in march but she doesn't seem to have had another one since, but I have come to the conclusion she will talk when she is ready and I just make sure the drawer is topped up.

Am feeling for these poor little girls. They are clearly not psychologically ready for periods. It just seems so unnecessary for them to be saddled with them at their ages. An it seems increasingly common. My friend's periods started when she was 10, and she was the only one in her primary school, back in 1979. Her own daughter's also started at 10 two years ago, but she was not alone in her year by any stretch.

I agree it seems so young. I was 14 1/2 years when mine started and I had no clue at all what had happened.

Since girls seem to be starting earlier is it not a genetic thing?

I was 15 and 1/4 and was perfectly ready for them to start. My 14 yr old still hasn't started, so am hoping that she will be mentally ready by the time they do. Apparently the average age for starting periods back in the early 19C was about 16/17. This was probably due to low weight due to childhood illnesses and malnutrition, as periods are supposed to start once a girl hits about 48kg.

My DD was wighed an mesured at school on Friday Duchesse and she is 155cm so tall for her age but she is only 42.5 kg, thin but curvy.
I had only just started secondary school when I had my first period( I think it was my 12th birthday) so she is only about 7 months younger than I was, but an 11 yr old at primary just seems so much younger than an 11 yr old and secondary

I was 10 when I first got mine. Am very embarrassed to say my Mum had not expected them to start so young so I had not had the talk or anything....I came home from school locked myself in the bathroom and then finally told my Mum I must have wet myself at school. On closer inspection she realised I had started my periods. Even though I was vastly unprepared in that I didn't even know what a period was it didn't really affect me. Mum bought sanitary towels for the first couple of years as they are far easier than tampons to start with and just told me about basic hygeine. It really helped that one of my friends had also started hers though. I think if you relax with her about it she will eventually open up to you.

bruffin- I always wonder a bit about that weight stat, as there must be millions of Oriental ladies having periods who don't weigh 48kg. I think it's quoted as an average trigger weight though.

I always thought it was a supposed to be when there was a body fat percentage of 17%, but even that doesn't seem right for dd, although her BMI does work out at 17. She seems to have very little fat on her but she does have a curvy shape

I'm going to have to quickly sneak in a message since she's back. Nothing mentioned on either side, have bought replacement goldfish (another story!) and both dds are happily playing baseball/rounders/something with a ball. I didn't quiz that wonderful mum who had her last night, and even took her to Mass this morning (something I seldom do but nothing awful stood out.

Except my feelings towards H for the whole thing.

Thank you all so much - it's sooooo helped me not go insane!