I'm a bit concerned about a comment my 4 year old daughter made.

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, My husband and I took our daughter to see a friends new baby yeaserday. She loves babys and was behaving herself quite well, then she got a bit silly and was rolling around on the floor etc. She then went on all fours in front of where we were sitting and said giggeling, "touch my bum" followed by "touch my lady bit".
I was quite horrified and don't know what to make of it. Is it just her showing off and wanting to shock us? I'm worried what nursery will think if she repeats it there.
I couldn't really discuss it with her at the time. It just seems a very odd thing for a 4 year old to come out with. She has a very sheltered life, she's never seen adult T.V, she goes to an all girls school and is adored by all her family.
Please let me know what you make of this.

I would say, little girls showing off at school.

she was being 4 and a bit silly and excited. As you said she goes to an all girls school I'm sure school will have heard it all before and is quite possibly where she picked it up from another child.
The height of cool to a 4 yr old is a 5 or 6 yr old after all and all they hear may be repeated in the worst possible setting.

ds is 5 but his obsession with all things poo/wee/bum and genitalia related began at 4ish.

Its a phase.

"Bum" is the worlds funniest word to your average 4 year old

Thanks, she is going through a phase of using toilet humour at the moment too. I hope it's just the girls being silly.

Oh blimey - she's just normal! Little girls (and boys I reckon!) are obsessed with bottoms, willies, poo, wee, toilets. It's hilarious!

DD (4) going through showing me she is touching her bum (smell my finger mum) and investigating her bits.
Not worried about this.

DD is completely obsessed with genitalia at the moment. Specifically with her brother's penis in fact.

Your dd's speech is becoming clearer at an awkward time then eh?

Yeah after a bath the other day DS got himself in a very odd position - I asked him what he was doing..'sniffing my willy!' What could I say!

I think the "touch my lady bit" just made me feel very un easy.

He is 4.11 I might add

Do you use the term 'lady bit?'

Well yes. I'd only feel uncomfortable if she were using vocab that I didn't know she knew IWSWIM.

Lol too right her speech is improving at the wrong time. It's always the rude things she says with total clarity.
I'm very glad to hear it's normal though.
Her best friend at nursery is also obsessed with her bits. So much for the posh girls school Children are children. (which is fantastic)

If you dont, ask her where she has heard it from.

Yes, I call it a lady bit. I wasn't sure what term to use and at least that is self explanitory with out sounding crude. (I hope)

Her friend calls it her fanny. I think that's worse.

Oh well, seems perfectly ok then!

I am relived. I was a bit concerned what other people would make of it. You hear so much about abuse these days and I'd hate for anyone to suspect that. She is loved beyond all measure.

I understand your concerns - kids can be just so embarassing sometimes.

..and she is just blissfully unaware of any other connotations.

"I couldn't really discuss it with her at the time."

Have you had that discussion with her? I think no matter where she is, if she says it, maybe tell her that parts of her body are just for her.

If you have never had the discussion, then she couldn't possibly know that her "lady parts" are private.

True.

yes pd I tell DS this and he is nearly 5. I think its an ok age to introduce an awareness without making them uncomfortable.

She dosn't see any part of her body as private. She is a little exobishionist. She's also been known to strip off in play centres. Maybe we do need to have that talk. I've mentioned to her before but she dosn't really listen.

I know, DS has dropped trou before now in a public arena - 'my willy's caught in my pants'. Just keep gently reiterating as PD suggests.