So, how do you handle it when your dc goes to the same playgroup as a horrible little bully?

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...especially when his Mum seems to think he can do no wrong?

Am in case you couldn't tell!

what happened then?

how old?

I withdrew DD1....bully in question was daughter of a playworker!

2.6

The Child belts my ds, amongst others.

The leaders are not dealing with it. I think I will take him out of playgroup, bu tthis is a wee place and there isn't much else to do.

x-post Accidental Mum! Funnily enough, there is a famillial relationship in this instance too.

hmm - tricky age isn't it?

i think it is doubly difficult when a parent seems to be oblivious

not sure why you should be the one to leave - wouldn't it be better for the leader to have a chat with mum to try to resolve it?

Yes, I think it's unffair that ds has to leave, but the playleaders won't intervene.

Just really peed off about it today as I am either pmt-ish or pg. Hormonal!

aw - poor wee man.

I can understand why you are upset but the child is not a bully, he is only 2 - still a baby really.

why on earth won't the play leaders intervene?

I just keep thinking of the years ahead of us of negotiating nursery/school gate politics.

Ds is such a softie - like I was. I worry a lot about sending him off to nursery and school.

Well, firstly, I wouldn't label a 2 year old a bully.

Secondly I would speak to the playworkers and ask them why they are not dealing with it. If the response was rubbish, I would tell them that I was withdrawing my child and why.

rs, they won't intervene becasue this is a relative.

that is appalling

who are they regulated by? If it is under the auspices of anothe organisation i would let them know

it is not their personal group!

Ok, bully was too strong.

dont leave!

you cant leave every playgroup/event/school/party....theres always one.

not sure how to deal with it, you got to open it up for discussion.

maybe when it happens to another child..."hey! thats not on, we dont hit here"
call offenders mum loudly "X, thingy is hitting again" get it out in the open.

good luck, these parents will do their best to avoid the issue

I know, I know, but my name will be mud if I take any action. I am a well accepted incomer here, but an incomer nontheless...

Feel really stuck.

HAve to go and make dinner. Thank you for your responses. I will check in again later.

My ds used to get bullied by an older boy at playgroup. The playworkers thought this boy was an absolute angel. I wish in hindsight I'd taken him out and just gone to the park or something with him.

Think you need to chill a bit. These are babies and over time they will learn and mature. rubberslippers OFSTED or any such regulator are not going to intervene and remove a 2 year old from nursery 'cause he's bashing other kids .... is that what you meant?.

Oh, and the joy of school gate politics. If you think this is bad, wait 'till your kids start 'big' school - that's where the fun really starts.

Teachers tend to intervene though in 'big school' ICANDOTHAT.

OP says he is hitting indiscriminately.

other mothers probably too polite to say anything ime.

it goes on everywhere.

very, very tricky.

you need to out this behaviour, loudly, and get others on side.