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Are all 7 year old girls moody , demanding and bordering on rude?

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twinsetandpearls · 17/02/2009 18:37

Or am I just an exceptionally crap parent because it is starting to feel that way.

DD is so rude at the moment, snapping at me, lots of rolling of eyes and smart comments. She has just come in the room and started jumping on the furniture, I asked her not to. She carried on so I told her again not to do it at which point she flicked her hair and said "I am just one big mistake, nobody loves me" It would never have entered my head to speak to my mum like that at 7.

She is constantly bored, she is an only child but has lots of toys, friends around regularly, pets, dp and I play with her all the time and open farmland to run about on. This evening she said to me when I suggested she take the dog on the field " I am so bored of the field now" This really annoyed me as most children would love to have open space to run about in when they left like it and it feels as if dd is turning into a spolit diva.

She has come into work with me today and when attempting to be cool has come across at times as quite rude.

What do you do when your child is rude?

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PandaG · 17/02/2009 19:12

agree with your DP - she is being rude to you bacause as you say you are the constant - so it is like a back handed compliment.

I love my children to bits (DS 9 DD nearly 7) but I don't like them some of the time, and I am sure they don't like me some of the time too.

regarding the pestering - could you maybe tey a timer - say that you want to play the
game with her, but you ned to get xyz done first, and she cannot ask agaoin until the timer has pinged - as constant asking holds you up and drives you nuts. YOu could increase time on timer each occasion, and maybe it would as a physical reminder reinforce the pestering driving you nuts?

I have to admit under the same circumstances I get fed up and say if you ask again I will not do x, and stick to it!

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twinsetandpearls · 17/02/2009 19:18

fancy a swap MI?

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ZZZen · 17/02/2009 19:19

I think it is true that the people we feel love us most, unconditionally and who we are closest to are the people we are most likely to unleash our negative feelings on. Unfortunately this is often a mother's situation.

I think too from what you have said your dd has a lovely life

I'm sorry I don't really know the answers myself but I rmemeber when my dd was miserable at school, I got it and I realised she was letting out her stress on me. Teachers and dp have told me she is no problem at all, very caring and pleasant to everyone and I did think so why the hell do I have to get this side of her?! Once the school stress went, that went too although the underlying fieriness is a part of her make-up and she was like that even as a baby.

motherinferior · 17/02/2009 19:22

It's not my parenting, I assure you! I think I'm just having a lucky phase .

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twinsetandpearls · 17/02/2009 19:26

shucks MI I thought you may have all the answers

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twinsetandpearls · 18/02/2009 11:21

Grr she is at it again.

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abraid · 20/02/2009 16:54

'Dp says she is ruder to me than anyone else because I am the person she can do it to'

I think there's something in this. In a backhanded kind of way, it's a compliment to your attachment with your daughter! (Not that it helps when they are. driving. you. demented.)

rvm · 11/09/2010 17:12

OMG.......... I thought i was on my own........... :( I am practically tearing my hair out..... I find i frustrating being in teh same room as her, because of her rudenss. She thinks she knows everything. How long does this go on for. She has been playing with another girls at school (who is extremly rude) so I am trying to get her to stop playing with her, but not make it so obvious.My daughter is confident and popular. I think is is ME, when I ask her or call her she just cant hear me. help .....hmmm

UseHerName · 01/03/2013 18:46

I know this is a zombie thread - but i'm sooo grateful to have found it!

roundabout1 · 01/03/2013 20:13

Ha Ha me too user - sums up my dd right now!

ArmchairDetective · 01/03/2013 20:20

My DD does is rude bossy and demanding and she is 5- I thought it would get better not worse!!

yoyo123 · 01/03/2013 20:30

yup give or take 5 years..they'll get there at some time.....

Yours Mum of a 24 year old daughter who is now quite lovely!..(despite........)

Repetitiverobot · 01/03/2013 21:00

Wow this is like reading about my 6 year old DD who can a blinking nightmare at times, rude, emotional, strong willed, knows it all!!
I honestly love her with all my heart but sometime really don't like her during her outbursts! It's seemed to have sprung up overnight and can last for ages some days. I have found this week that by really biting my tongue and trying not to rise to any drama it's easier to resolve things...although that's not always the easiest!
I'm hoping were getting the teen attitude early and she'll be a delight by the time she's 13....

manyhatson · 24/07/2013 20:44

My fear is that if I don't come down pretty strongly on rudeness and 'princess' behaviour that our dd will be a real handful when she's a teenager. So I'm glad to say that we're having some success using the book '123 Magic' (available on Amazon) for our 7yo dd (and 4yo ds), and I really do recommend it. Some days it's the only way I have even the slightest semblance of control at our house!

By the way, at this stage in our house 'coming down strongly' means 'not getting a book at bedtime'.

girliefriend · 24/07/2013 21:05

Whats a zombie thread?

I have a 7yo dd and I do know where you are coming from op, I don't really do playing with her unless it's something structured like a puzzle or a board game so she is quite good at entertaining herself and will play independently for hours which is brilliant. However I do get 'attitude' quite often, I tend to have a zero tolerance approach most of the time and will tell it is not o.kay to speak to me like that and if it continues she will lose t.v time, pudding, toys etc.

She is also an only and just has me so I think there is definately something in she only has me to take her general frustrations out on. When I think about how much me and my brother fought as kids I can see that makes sense.

If i were you op I would get strict about it and explain clearly what is not o.kay and what will happen if it continues. Also I don't think of boredom as a bad thing, its great for the imagination so let her be bored - you really don't need to be her entertainer!!

wanderings · 24/07/2013 22:15

A zombie thread is one which was started a long time ago (look at the date of the OP), which has since been "dug up" and replied to.

girliefriend · 24/07/2013 22:20

Ahhh o.kay that makes sense

exoticfruits · 24/07/2013 22:21

Why go back 4 and a half years?

helsbels03 · 27/07/2013 22:21

My dd has a terrible attitude, usually to me, her teachers describe her as very polite. I too am at a loss what to do. At the moment I am going for the go to your room until you can speak nicely. But it is hard to get her to go up without more attitude. Her sister 5 yr is copying her now.
Watching with interest for any advice.

lizandlulu · 27/07/2013 22:33

Oh my god 2009!!!! So the op's 7year old is now around 11!! I wonder if she got through it ok?

I have a dd7, she's 8 in oct. I won't say she's rude, certainnly not to strangers, not that I have noticed, but me and my mum get the brunt of her temper. It is mostly temper issues we have, she can explode in a second over the most trivial thing. But the dH is like that, so wonder if it's genetics rather than parenting!

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