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Advice on what to do with 11 month old DS doesn't like buggy anymore......

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astragirl · 06/01/2009 20:52

....he's just started walking, mostly aided with my hand and the other on the buggy, and today he just wanted to hold my leg when we were out. When I put him back in the buggy, as I couldn't envisage how we would get home otherwise, he went really upset and tried to fling himself out the buggy and ended up screaming all the way home!

I don't really know what to do now as it seems to be getting really awkward taking him out and I feel that I can't go far from the house in case the same thing happens. Any ideas or suggestions or as to whether it will pass as I'm feeling quite miserable at the thought of not being able to go out the house to go to the shops .

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liahgen · 06/01/2009 20:54

i'm afraid i won't be much help as i'm of the opinion that sometimes they just have to go in the pushchair, screaming or not.

hopefully it'll be just a phase.

simpson · 06/01/2009 20:54

Could you distract him with food?

Or have you got one of those buggy toys that goes across the front for him to play with?

UnfortunatelyMe · 06/01/2009 20:54

Well you are the adult, and he cant stop you from going to the shops...some earplugs(or mp3 player) and let him howl. Hes a baby, no point trying to reason with him.
Maybe try to do the buggy things when he is due a nap, he might nod off.
You cant not go out And you cant let him walk all the time either, will take you FOREVER!

pamelat · 06/01/2009 20:57

I know how you feel but my DD is not walking, she just hates being restricted in the pushchair. She is 11.5 months also.

I posted a month or so back because I ended up carrying her for a mile or so home whilst pushing the buggy because she screamed so much

I have bought a sling for toddlers, I havent tried it yet as the experience has put me off going far by myself!

Good luck.

simpson · 06/01/2009 20:59

My DD is 11mths too and not too keen on buggy unless eating so I have a bag of rice cakes with me to give her when she gets too restless.

BigFurryStripeyTiger · 06/01/2009 21:02

I think the sling is a great idea.

Also, DD1 loves the sleeping bag on our double buggy- it's the only pram she doesn't complain about going in. Maybe you could make it really cosy for him?

I find a snack helps distract them whilst they are being put in the buggy.

SwedesInACape · 06/01/2009 21:09

How about one of those little trikes with seatbelt and parent pushalong handle for when you go just for a walk? But definitely carry on with the pushchair when you go to the shops.

Shitemum · 06/01/2009 21:13

Tighten the straps and perfect the 'knee in the groin' technique to get him into the pushchair.
Tell him he can get out and walk at a specific point on the trip and only for a little while. Always let him out when you say you're going to and he'll learn that he will get to walk at some point on the outing but the rest of the time he has to go in the pushchair. Distract with food and small toys.

angel1976 · 06/01/2009 21:16

I second the trike idea. My DS got this one for Christmas and instead of the pushchair, I just put lots of warm clothes on him and push him out in this to the local shops (not sure if I would attempt it anywhere busier!). He loves it! Have a look around, the steering is a bit rubbish (as he's not in the pedalling mode yet so the steering is currently 'fixed') but it's light and easy to just push around and lift up and down. DS is 10.5 months btw.

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astragirl · 06/01/2009 21:16

I think the snacks sound a good idea. I liked the trikes idea too but he hates sitting on things. He was brought a nightgarden truck for xmas and would rather push it than sit on it! I worry what people think when I'm pushing him along in the buggy whilst he's screaming and it makes me feel like a terrible mum

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SwedesInACape · 06/01/2009 21:29

They should be baby ipods shouldn't there?

SwedesInACape · 06/01/2009 21:29

They There

Wispabarsareback · 06/01/2009 21:36

Definitely get a thicker skin astragirl about what other people might think. People are always thinking things, but who cares really - you know your child better than anyone else, and if you know that they need to sit in the buggy for a little while, that has to be that. You can't let a kid who's not even a year old stop you doing the things that need to be done - ie the shopping etc.

But I agree that snacks and other distractions are a very good idea. And a combination of walking-time and buggy-time.

Today I had a random bonkers person telling me judgementally that DD2 looked cold in her buggy (actually she was very cosy indeed in all her layers and her mittens and her fleecy buggy-snuggle). She wasn't protesting at all. And I had a 'terrible mum' moment, but then reminded myself that she was in fact completely fine and I didn't have to let critical strangers spoil our day.

CantSleepWontSleep · 06/01/2009 21:43

I think there are Swedes . An i-ted or something iirc.

Dd never liked going in the pushchair, so at that age I used to use the playtex hip hammock for her - it's a hands free hip sling rather than a hipseat that requires you to hold him on.

SwedesInACape · 06/01/2009 22:22

CSWS - at ipods for babies

OP - How about balloons? Tie two to the pushchair for him to bat? Let him choose what colour. Nice and portable.

CantSleepWontSleep · 07/01/2009 09:09

i-teddy

pamelat · 07/01/2009 09:48

ballonons are a good idea. I might try that.

cory · 07/01/2009 10:17

astragirl on Tue 06-Jan-09 20:52:23

"I don't really know what to do now as it seems to be getting really awkward taking him out and I feel that I can't go far from the house in case the same thing happens."

How worried are you about him screaming? The buggy problem you may find a practical solution to, but it's going to make life very difficult over the next few years if you deliberately start avoiding activities because you can't cope with him screaming. Lots of children have pretty well a daily tantrum (or constant tantrums) between the ages of 1 or 3.

I would try to distract him, but would be hesitant about giving him a snack every time you want to put him in the buggy. You do seem to see such a lot of small children these days who are constantly eating and drinking when out and about and it does mean constant exposure of the teeth to acids. If you can find something else, like a toy or a book strapped to the buggy, I think that would be better.

SwedesInACape · 07/01/2009 10:58

CSWS - How are things going with you?

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astragirl · 07/01/2009 15:33

To cory, I guess it's just that it's so new to me, having a baby that is, and it's just getting to grips with things. I guess it will come with practise. We went to a music group today for babies and toddlers and that went well, although the group is on my road, but it did make me feel better that he didn't scream!!

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pamelat · 07/01/2009 15:42

astragirl, I know exactly what you mean. I do anything to prevent DD screaming. The carrying her a mile was excessive but I just hate it and feel that I look like a bad mum

SwedesInACape · 07/01/2009 15:48

astragirl - You do know that as soon as you find a solution to the buggy problem, he will have moved onto something else that is less than satisfactory?

pamelat · 07/01/2009 15:50

what are we meant to do??? In all seriousness, do we let them scream? I am not sure that my DD would ever stop and I would probably have a nervous breakdown. I really really dont like lots of noise.

SwedesInACape · 07/01/2009 16:49

Pamelat - I would strap the child into the pushchair and sing a song or run. The child will soon get fed up with the crying. They only persist with the crying because they can sense you are about to cave-in and carry them up the hill and push the empty pushchair. My 18 month old is currently peristing with a desire to sit in the car only if in the driving seat.

BigFurryStripeyTiger · 07/01/2009 17:15

pamelat that is why the screaming is such an effective strategy. You have to treat it like any other situation- like the car seat or having to leave somewhere etc. etc. There is no harm in sympathising with them, but it's not really a good idea to bribe. If you want to distract them with a drink or a rice cake, I do it before wego to the buggy and then it's along the lines of, "lets sit down to have our drink etc., so it deflects from the whole buggy issue, IYSWIM.

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