Right, am sick to death of this-no-one's else child does it-hair brushing

[Pawslikepaddington]

Dd is driving me stir crazy! Yes, we have fine hair in our family, and it is wavy and generally a PITA, but the minute I go near her with a hairbrush she is HYSTERICAL. I use tons of conditioner at night, and make sure it is tangle free and dry at bedtime (two hours of fuss but makes the mornings a little easier), and I have chased her out of the house in the morning wielding a hairbrush before now as she refused to have her hair brushed (it always gets done eventually-have pinned her in the school toilets before now!). Most girls I know will not only let their mums brush their hair, but will let them put bobbles in, and clips! Am sick of dd looking like an urchin-she looks beautiful at bedtime, but come the next morning all hell breaks loose. I want her to have it up all the time to make her life easier and mine, but how do I even broach getting any kind of "head time" with her?

We don't argue over it, I promise, I gave up on that a long time ago as it achieved nothing, and I cant bear to see her upset. All her best friends have just had their hair cut, so may be a window of opportunity there-children's hairdressers-wow!! Will look when I get off here. She is a poppet-it just breaks my heart because she sees other little girl's hairdo's and wants them, but freaks the second I try one. Slowly slowly we will be beautiful-will be putting how to vids on youtube before we know it!!

I wanted to know that too McDreamy

you brush hair so its knot free, pull it back as if you were going to do a pony tail, but feed it through the loop, with the 'weeth' facing outwards. pull the hair through about half way, then wind up or down, and when it reaches the head, just pull the two hooks together, et voila, a lovely neat bun which stays put all day. will get a pic of dd1's hair tonight for you.

can you use those on long hair misdee? (total novice with hair stuff). My DD1 has hair halfway down her back and sick of endless moaning while I struggle with pony tail or a plait. This sounds great but not sure if I quite understand it yet. Might go and look on youtube for a demo

Fab I am off to buy one on ebay - thanks Misdee

has anyone suggested showering her in the morning, shampooing and conditioning hair, blowdrying etc instead of at bedtime???

i have tried to do buns with clips, chopsticks, schruncies etc over the years, and this is really easy.

i am trying to learn how to french plait, as dd2 hair is really thick and super-slippery. i put her hair up in bunches and by the time she gets to school the bobbles are sliding out, no matter how tight i do them.

Tangle teaser works will over in our house. It's called the magic hairbrush. Really doesn't hurt at all and has revolutionised our mornings.

wow, misdee, sounds great. My dd's hair is very smooth and straight. Do you think it will work?

She has similar hair to mine and I cannot do very much with it except wear it down because it will slip out of buns, grips, etc without lots of gell and pins.

Ooh nailpolish that would kill me-I had to pull her out of bed this morning, carry her downstairs and stand over her as she ate her breakfast as she wants to do everything as slowly as possible-showering etc would be the final nail in the coffin-I need to stay calm in the mornings or spend the whole day sobbing about how awful I was to her. I haven't quite worked it out either lemontart-I am so scared of hair contraptions-does seem intruiging though!

maybe its worth a try one day at the weekend?
it might help to wake her up....

Not read all of this but a friend of mine has this problem and every night her hair is put in a plait to avoid it tangling up in bed.

related thread (I think)

I have not got one yet. Dd does not have fine hair but very fizzy ones, I will give it a try.

Ds has always been a nightmare about going to get his hair cut but we have found somewhere near us that has a kiddies corner. He basically gets to sit there and watch a dvd while they cut his hair. It has taken some tears and screams but he is now used to it and is completely distracted from what is going on by the promise of the dvd!

Am seriously interested in these kiddies hairdressers-I will find one!! Have a tangle teaser and it makes life a lot easier, especially after swimming, but I want to put bobbles in and play hairdressers-she lets her grandma do it!! (Ok, I will step away from the thread now, I have scared myself!)

I apologise if someone has already suggested this - I haven't read the whole thread.
When my ds's were younger they used to get awful matted tangles in the hair at the back of their heads during the night, and these were murder to comb out. Someone recommended the Johnsons Detangling spray, and it was a lifesaver - you spray it on the tangle and then you can brush or comb it out with no discomfort (or no obvious discomfort anyway).

Perhaps you could get some of this and give it to your dd, and tell her that she can brush her hair herself, and you'll leave her to it as long as it is tidy and neat when she's going out (to school etc).

how about getting her one of the little girl play head things (sorry don't know the name) and let her play at putting up the model's hair while you do hers. That and get her to try and do yours/her own. She will probably like the idea of learning how to do her own!

Oh dd1 has fine hair. V long and tangles into impossible knots v easily, our mornings used to end with me chasing around an hysterical four year old with a hairbrush and the pair of us screaming at eachother like lunatics untill I eventually caught her and trapped between my legs with her arms pinned to her sides. This went on untill..........................

Some one on here linked to this. This piece of plastic is a godsend. DD1 calls it her special magical brush and even brushes her own with it.

Oh my god oh my god (jumps up and down and claps hands)-they have a purple sparkle version!!!!! DD will die for that! (and it means I can have the black one all to myself with less possible nit fear-thankfully haven't had to nitty gritty her yet-am really worried about that!!) Bring on the spangle! WIll let her do my hair tonight-oooh!

Have bought the glittery spangly one-ooooooh!!

Personally I think you are crazy to wash her hair everyday. I wash DD's on a Sunday morning and then nitcomb it and then let it dry naturally and she wears it down with a clip to keep it off her face and after swimming on a Tuesday and that is it. I think the plait ideas at night are sounding good.

My dd hates having her hair brushed and refuses to have it tied back or wear clips. She now has a very short bob and really stands out amongst her peers (most of whom have long girly locks). Little girls with short hair rock!

Short hair or v short bob is the way to go. And why on earth are you washing a child's hair every day? Once a week is plenty and we have been known to go a couple of weeks between washes.

What is wrong with washing her hair every day? I'm just wondering as a few of you have brought it up, and she doesn't have an issue with me washing it. I can't abide the smell of dirty hair, and think that while she is in the bath I might as well wash it at the same time-she rides, swims, does ballet, goes to craft club three times a week so gets glue etc in, on top of the usual school paint in hair etc-it is so much worse to brush without a good wash and condition that it makes the job harder without.