Right, am sick to death of this-no-one's else child does it-hair brushing

[Pawslikepaddington]

Dd is driving me stir crazy! Yes, we have fine hair in our family, and it is wavy and generally a PITA, but the minute I go near her with a hairbrush she is HYSTERICAL. I use tons of conditioner at night, and make sure it is tangle free and dry at bedtime (two hours of fuss but makes the mornings a little easier), and I have chased her out of the house in the morning wielding a hairbrush before now as she refused to have her hair brushed (it always gets done eventually-have pinned her in the school toilets before now!). Most girls I know will not only let their mums brush their hair, but will let them put bobbles in, and clips! Am sick of dd looking like an urchin-she looks beautiful at bedtime, but come the next morning all hell breaks loose. I want her to have it up all the time to make her life easier and mine, but how do I even broach getting any kind of "head time" with her?

I will be so happy if it is just a phase-I bet she locks herself in her room with her straighteners for hours at 13!

I have the same problem with hair washing and also nail cutting. You have my sympathies!

My dd is 5...

aww I can laugh heartily about it now..the pain has subsided

i do remind her about it regularly though

Ah yes, the cutting of the toe nails-feel the hyperventilating coming back again! Hair washing gets done every night-I finally don't have to get in the bath with her after 4 years, as that was one thing I could not let slide, as it is so much worse if it is not washed and conditioned. We should have a house of tiny hairaways, get it-oh god I am so funny, ROFL

Blardy 5 year old electra . But last year we were saying blardy 4 year olds, and three year olds-at what point do they become the adorable little scraps we imagined them to be?

5 year olds, don't forget the s you dur-brain (which I have just spelt as brian-argh! Bed! Need bed!)

Use a tangle teezer on my 3yo dd, she still gets upset if the tangles are particularly bad, but nothing like she did pre-TT. Worth the money imo. Also plait her hair at night now, it's just too long not to. Good luck tomorrow!

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Oh my god-do these women beat their children in to submission with hot iron pokers or something? I hate them!!! But also want to be them!

I've alwasy admired little black girls hair with a million little braids and bobbles in and wondered how the hell they do it?

Ah, my friend's little girl is mixed race and has afro hair-she spends 2 hours each night doing it (she has to or it gets unmanageable)!! It looks amazing though. Apparently her neighbours have been round a few times expecting a murder scene too!

Am still having dillusions of dd turning up at school tomorrow with the first 'do on your link ggirl!

have you thought about a wig for her?

She may go for that actually-she thinks she is Hannah Montana (hates the programme but shares the name!) so that may work!

My dd was the same. I threatened to cut it short but couldn't bring myself to do it.

I ended up getting it cut a la Jennifer Aniston (Rachel do) with layers so that it would sit nicely without being tied up.

No probs after that.

Fast forward a few years and a couple of cases of nits and I have no trouble putting her hair in plaits. She hated the treatments and the combing that went with that so I told her she got nits because her hair was out and it was easy for the nits to get to .

Do you HAVE to wash it every night? I use Boots coconut and almond spray on conditioner on DD2 and 3's hair which was waist length until very recently. It wets it enough to comb the tangles out. Also they slept in plaits which helps a LOT. If you do have to wash it every night then plait it while wet and let her sleep like that - makes it a lot easier in the morning.
We now have the opposite problem - DD2 had her hair cut from waist length to short layered bob and now screams blue murder at me in the morning because I CAN'T get it in plait.
You can't actually win.

Yes, I would advise washing once a week and then plaits every day and night. I brush it out every morning and put her waist length, never been cut hair in plaits, and clips.

I use lots of conditioner with my 4.5 DD and it's good - treseme works fine and isn't too sickly smelling - aussie stuff is pretty reeksome.
my Dd doesn't like having it washed in the shower so much, but I think that's with the water in her eyes.

Do you let your Dd brush your own hair? I found that that was very important. bribes also.

And also I know someone who had a very long pushing phase (3 day labour homebirth) with her Dd and she can't get near her head with a hairbrush, or a polo neck - her DD screams and screams - it's like she has a blast from the prolonged and constricting birth again.

Cranio-therapy might be something to think about?

Send her to ballet classes! At ballet classes they have to have their hair up and when it comes to taking Grade exams, the hair styles become even more elaborate! If she would enjoy doing the ballet, she will tolerate the hair styles because all the other little girls do.

DD is 4 and has never liked having her hair brushed. She has a bob with a fringe. This way I can get away with brushing it a couple of times a week.

She has got some hair clips and bobbles and likes to put them on DS and me.

He he, we got plaits and clips in! I stuck Thomas the Tank on, shoved her weetabix under her nose and got stuck in, and it worked!! Was so scared of pulling it too tight that they fell out though when we got to school though-boo! Need to do a french plait I think. I don't have to wash it every night, but she loves her baths now and asks for them, and if I let her get away with not washing her hair once it will cause havoc, so it's easier in the long run. Am going to try two french plaits tonight, am quite excited now! She does ballet, but is in pre-primary, so no grade exams yet-some amazing hairstyles there though!!

get this!!! dd1 has one, i am invested in more for dd2 hair as its simple and quick. keeps hair neat all day

you cou;d always try a routine cof every other night for hair? as long as she kmnows wht to expect should be ok

Look in yellow pages; childrens specialist hairdressers are spreading and even ds1 (autism) let the lady ear his curls! lots of ps2 games, barbie chairs etc etc

Mine was like this so I put her TOTALLY in charge of hair-brushing, and said if she didn't do it, then we would cut it

She brushed it by herself for a while and finally decided that she wanted it short - it is now REALLY short in a bob above the neck and looks very chic and she can manage it herself

If she is hysterical at hairdressers then I would either get a home hairdresser and a DVD or just stick her in front of the tv and do it myself

Life's too short to argue over this

misdee - going to sound really thick now but how do they work? DD would love a bun she has shoulder length thick hair.