...than 'normal' behaviour.
DS is 4 yrs old in Feb. In a nutshell, he is a pretty bright, articulate boy, has always been 'spirited', a major enthusiast / very over excitable. He struggled badly at his last nursery as he had a bad biting habit (this was between the ages of 3-3.5 yrs old) and simply wouldn't take instructions (wouldn't help tidy up, wouldn't join in some group activities etc). in the end we had to remove him from the nursery as he spent most of the time on the 'naughty corner' alone and it just seemed to defeat the whole purpose of going to nursery .
He started a new nursery in Sept and thankfully topped the biting, although he still has a tendency to be aggressive. He is extremely clumsy / rough / over enthsuiastic in his approach a lot of the time, which spills over into aggression if he is tired or having a bad day. His nursery teacher is very patient and kind, but describes him as a 'whirlwind' and 'extremely willful / not keen on authority' (tell us something we don't know).
I have always put DS's behaviour down to being a bright, boisterous, easily bored little boy and cracked jokes about needing to walk him daily like a little puppy to get all his energy out etc, but I am now starting to worry a bit about him. He seems absolutely incapable of walking through a room without knocking something over or knocking into someone. He cannot seem to play for a more than a few minutes with another child (or adult!) without somehow hurting them - usually accidentally, but sometimes on purpose. He also will not listen to a word that is said to any instruction/request unless you physically take hold of him, look him in the eye and talk to him very loudly . He is also extremely bossy / willful, which is very tiring for me being a SAHM and trying to keep my patience with him all day.
In fairness he is going through a bit of a bad patch lately, as he has a newborn sister whom he is extremely jealous of - but these traits of his have been fairly constant, really. The thing that worries me is watching him around almost all other children. He really stands out as this nutty little character, constantly falling over and clowning around and eventually causing some other kid to cry (and usually ending up in tears himself). We had several children / family friends over to visit over Xmas, and visited several others, and he was unable to contain his excitement in any way at all and each visit ended in some kind of bad behaviour or temper tantrum. He just seemed so terribly badly behaved compared to all the other children, and I came away feeling depressed.
I don't want to set my expectations too high for such a small boy, but I ams starting to see that he is a bit different to other children and I am unsure where to go from here. Terrified of lavelling him a 'problem child'
p.s. I've made it sound like he is awful. He isn't. The strange thing is, he is a real Jekyll & Hyde character. He can be such a wonderful, co-operative, sweet boy sometimes, but it tends to be only for very short periods and only when he is one-to-one with an adult.