What do you make of my Dad saying to my daughter "Stop that laughing, or I'll take you home"??

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, I don't know if any of you remember my thread last week about me taking my daughter to her Grandads house. Well anyway, he takes any toys away from her if they make a noise, he even tried to take away her box of crayons as she was shaking the box. I said quickly, lets take them out and I'll put the box in my bag. He has no tollerence what so ever. He puts Cbeebies on for her but at a volume she can't really hear, then as soon as she looks away, he turnes over channels.
Anyway, today I came prepared to entertain my daughter in a quiet way. She took finger puppets, colouring books, and bubbles.
She was playing with the puppets and got a fit of the giggles, something must have amused her. She has a really infectious laugh. My Dad then said to her "If you don't stop that noise, you'll be going home early"
I felt like saying, so she can't play with her favourite toys, she can't watch T.V, she can't make any noise or go in to any rooms and now, she can't even laugh ? I just don't know what the hell his problem is. He'll always been a bit of a grumpy bugger but recently, he won't stand for anything. I might have to see him on my own in future. His wife was there today and she's a funny bugger too, she bearly talks to me unless it's to critisize my parenting ,she has a very sharp, cold manner. She's always been the same. ( the sort of wicked step- mother from a disney film )
I like seing my Dad but it's becoming stressfull trying to keep my daughter from annoying him. She is as good as gold, I don't know quite what he expects of a 3 and 3/4 year old. The sad thing is, she loves seing her Grandad and she tells him she loves him. He dosn't understand much of what she says, so I have to interprite for her.
What would you do? stop taking her, just take her once a month or so, or just carry on taking her?
He refuses to come to my house, as he wants me and my brother to come to him.

Thanks TinselBaublesMistletoe's Dad
You are right.

Is he like this when the step mother is there? It does sound like he has low tolerance levels.
My grandparents are 85yrs old and my nan LOVES playing with the children and my grandad has bad legs, but even if they bump into him accidentaly he won't get angry.
Your dad does sound like he is either depressed or has some mental problem.
Its also how we found out my mum had Dementia as she used to hit my eldest (when she was just 14 months old) if she made too much noise .
She tolerates them better these days, but only because she is pumped up with anti-phycotic drugs. She has no emotions whatsoever.

Gosh he sounds much older than 48. Is he depressed?? Or just stuck in a rut already?

My dad is only 52 and my mum 48 so they are young GP's but they are fun for DD.

Is it just his way of interacting with you??? My Granddad is 85 and very grumpy but if someone he didnt know came round he would be different. Maybe your dad would be different outside of his comfort zone, maybe alone with your DD?

I think he does get a bit depressed now and again, I don't think it has anything to do with it though as he's been like it all his life.

edam on Wed 10-Dec-08 09:41:12
"Doubt there's anything medically wrong."

I meant like depression, or even some kind of hypersensitivity syndrome. This does seem to go deeper than just being grumpy (have read your other post too, OP). Depression can take all sorts of odd forms.

Ripeberry, that's so sad. Poor you, and your mum.

I have real problems with certain noises. The sound of knitting, tapping keyboards, pens that make a clicking noise, and some voices, drive me to distraction. One of the benefits of being self-employed is not having to hear those noises. I could have had an office next to the boilers and air compressors and would have been fine, but the small noises sent me demented.

I am sorry that your father puts his grand-daughter's laughter into that category.