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I am v. worried about 8 nearly 9 months

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hannahlouhoo · 27/11/2008 23:51

I keep reading online development things, of what they should be doing. my 8 month old is sitting but making no attempt to move (crawl bum shuffle etc) plus have looked after my friends little girl today who is a week younger and she is rolling about and going into crawl position(not going anywhere) I just feel really worried and I keep encouraging him to go on his belly but he just cries. when he was younger he used to roll from belly to back, but now wont even do that. In every other way he is happy healthy and talking(?) to me. He is clapping and doing everything else intellectually a 8 month should be, but really worried about not rolling and moving about.

We do lots of things swimming once a week, baby club(sure start run so, lots of thing to see touch and do) baby yoga, and even been to baby ballet, music class ( singing at library)

Is there anything I can do to encourage movement?

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scrooged · 27/11/2008 23:55

They all go at different rates. You can't push him into something he's not ready for so be patient with him. Playing row row row the boat helps with excercising the muscles in his back though.

gigglewitch · 27/11/2008 23:55

some babies just don't want to crawl. And they're all different, My ds (now 8yo) was one of them. he never crawled or bum shuffled, just [later] got up and walked, around 12mo. I got desperate and wanted to chuck the development book in the bin!!
If you really are concerned, no harm in getting your GP / HV to see him, because presumably he's due a development check around now anyway?

lisad123 · 28/11/2008 00:03

i can say, dont worry but no doubt you will. However if it makes you feel any better neither of my girls even sat till 10 months. DD1 never crawled but shuffled on her bum but didnt walk till she was 2years old!
DD2 is just over 14 months, will sit up but only just started crawling properly a few weeks back, does stand but makes no attempts to walk

My HV once pointed out that if their not walking, crawling ect it because they are using time and engry on other things like talking
HTH

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hannahlouhoo · 28/11/2008 00:06

Had him checked with hv they said he was fine.

It just really hard not to compare with other babies mabye i should stop going to so many baby groups! hes 9 months on the 1st, i really thought he'd be up and about by now!
Maybe i should be thankful, that he stays in one place?

the stuff i look at online makes me so worried!!

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Quattrocento · 28/11/2008 00:07

STOP THIS NONSENSE RIGHT NOW. STOP IT AT ONCE.

My DD never crawled but walked at 11 months. DS was a chubby baby who crawled at 15 months (reluctantly) and walked at 17 months. They are the most lovely bright engaging children now.

They'll do things at their own time. It does not mean they are abnormal or slow or anything. You are torturing yourself unnecessarily and you have to stop.

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hannahlouhoo · 28/11/2008 00:12

god i wish i could quatt, its just his cousin is doing so much more(1 on xmas day i know poor bugger), i know they all go at there own rates. i know this in my heart but it is so hard to now be worried my development charts and so on!!!

thanks for calling it nonsense thats just what i needed, really not being sarcastic.

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scrooged · 28/11/2008 00:12

My little brother didn't start to move until he was almost 2! Make the most of it because they never stop.

They all go at their own pace. I would have loved some extra months without ds climbing over my furniture and running into things. Alas, just a dream.

Quattrocento · 28/11/2008 00:40

You are getting over anxious and you know it.

I really wouldn't turn him on his tummy to encourage him to crawl btw. For one thing, he may not crawl at all (DD didn't, as I said).

Even if he does crawl, he may not be a commando crawler but a bottom-shuffler.

He will be fine

There is a saying that comparisons are odious ...

Clary · 28/11/2008 01:05

There is NO developmental parameter for crawlign becuase not all babies do it.

Babies walk between 9mo and 20mo (NT babies) but some bum shuffle, some just stand and walk etc. The mean age to walk is 15mo not 1 yr as commonly thought. I yr walkers are doing it early actually.

My DS1 crawled at 11mo and walked at 16 mo FWIW.

DON'T WORRY

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 28/11/2008 01:11

Don't worry. I was just like you with DD1. I kept looking at other peoples babies and wondering what was wrong with mine. At her first birthday she sat there on a rug on her little fat bottom while her friends toddled around the garden. I could have cried. In fact, I think I probably did. She never really crawled and was speaking in full sentances before she walked - at 18 months.
She is 11 now, plays a lot of netball, is doing her Bronze Medal Jazz Dance exam next week. She doesn't know she never learned crawl.
IT WILL BE FINE.

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hannahlouhoo · 28/11/2008 01:19

He is not doing anything tho! just sat up looking v. expectful things will come to him!! thanks for all you lovely msg make me feel less like hes a pfb!

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snickersnack · 28/11/2008 06:53

At 8 months neither of mine was crawling or making any attempt to move. ds didn't roll until he was 13 months (seriously - I just don't think he saw the point). They are both currently clambering on the sofas and leaping onto the window seat and have been for the past hour .

Ignore the development charts...and try and enjoy the fact you can put him down for a few minutes and not worry about him vanishing (a massive advantage of late moving babies, if you ask me - NOT that I think 8 months is late )

smartiejake · 28/11/2008 07:03

Really-Stop worrying. It is not at all unusual for an 8 month old to not crawl. My dd was 9 months before she even rolled over but progressed to crawling, pulling herself up, taking her first steps at 10 and a half months and walking really steadily by 11 months. Many of my anti natal group were crawling/rolling over by 6 months but dd walked before any of them.

It's hard not to compare but as snickersnack says the minute they start moving about your life becomes much more difficult.

Buda · 28/11/2008 07:08

My DS is now 7 and he didn't sit till 8 months, crawled at 11 months and walked at 15 months. THEY ARE ALL DIFFERENT!

My friend's little girl walked at 9 months - my friend was sad as she wanted her to stay a baby a bit longer!

DS never rolled over really and hated being on his tummy.

Please don't worry. Just enjoy your baby. Life gets much harder when they start moving about!

ilove · 28/11/2008 07:12

My DD sat on her arse till 13 months then bum shuffled till 23 months when she finally decided to walk...leave him be he is not unusual!

BirdyArms · 28/11/2008 07:16

Stop worrying!! Neither of mine crawled till about 11 months. With ds1 I worried, with ds2 I wished he'd taken longer!

2point4kids · 28/11/2008 07:18

ds2 is 9.5 months and doing exactly the same as yours! he cant roll or crawl, he can sit up lovely though.
not worried at all - he is fine!

sunshineonarainyday · 28/11/2008 07:20

As others have said - please do stop worrying! I know it's hard, I was the same as you with DD (now 4.7). She sat up from 6 months but always hated laying on her tummy and didn't roll much at all.

She crawled at 14 months and walked just before she turned 18 months. But she spoke quite early on and would rather just sit and look at books. This is obviously what she preferred to do (and still does).

Please don't worry - he sounds lovely!

lulumama · 28/11/2008 07:21

My DS sat up at 4 months. but did nothing else until he crawled at 11 months, and that is when he rolled over for the first time. he did not walk until 17 monhts.

DD sat up at 8 months, crawled and rolled at 11 months and walked at 16 months.

Both of them a lot later than their peers, but still absolutely fine

don;t wish the baby stage away, and once they move, that is it !

Weegle · 28/11/2008 07:21

Really stop worrying - it's so easy to get caught up in the hype of what your baby does versus their friends and it's so not worth it. DS was the last to crawl in his group of peers (at only 9.5 months so really not late) but one of the first to walk (at 13 months) - it's completely random. And it means NOTHING - apart from the younger they get mobile the more a PITA for the adult minding them . We also had people saying "oh he's a chilled out chap" and such things just because he would sit there and expect things to come to him, I thought great no manic toddler who can't be contained for me he'll sit nicely and do crafts etc - errr, that never happened - he's a whirlwind of mobility that can only sit still for the 5 minutes it takes him to wolf down a plate of food and then he's off again. These things just don't follow!

IdrisTheDragon · 28/11/2008 07:33

Really try not to worry .

DS crawled at 8.5 months which was earlier than most of his peers. Then walked at 15 months.

DD didn't move at all until she was 10.5 months (didn't roll until 11.5 months). She didn't crawl - did a weird bum shuffle. She also walked at 15 months.

cleversprout · 28/11/2008 07:40

Believe me if he wasn't your first you would be happy he's not moving yet. My first crawled early but my third not until almost a year. I was so happy to get Christmas out of the way with her just sitting looking at the tree and not pulling it over.

mamadiva · 28/11/2008 07:45

First thing first, get rid of the books they make you paranoid!

Secondly all kids do things at their own pace, my DS physically couldnt crawl, and I mean he tried all he could do was a weird commando crawl with his legs limp behind him he was 10 months when he started doing this then at 14 months he got up and walked.

Then he learned to crawl

Honestly I dont know who the books are based on but Ive yet to meet a child who does it by the books.

CharCharGabor · 28/11/2008 07:47

I really wouldn't worry. My friend's DS didn't crawl until 10 months and walked at 12 months. Dsd didn't crawl til 11 months, crawled for a week then started walking. They all develop at their own rates, it's early days yet.

piscesmoon · 28/11/2008 07:54

Do not compare with other children. They are all very different and will do it in their own time.

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