Help....I love my 14 month DS too bits but constant crying and whinging is driving me literally insane!

[OlaMamas]

Have been on here before moaning about my DS. Was always a whiney babe who cried all the time. Put it down to colic....didn't pass. Thought it would be better once crawling.... not to be.... better once walking..... WORSE if anything! So unlike my eldest son now 3....who although is now extremely trying... was a fab baby.... almost text book!!!! My comeuppance????? Anyway...had to convince hubby to have 2nd and although I DO love him toooooo bits... he has and is putting a massive strain on our relationship and making me feel anger which I know is not healthy! NOT that I would ever harm him... I know I have shouted at him today and need to remind myself he is only 14 months! I just crave a day off to sleep!!! Does anyone feel the same or have words of wisdom to help????

The rewards more than make up for it.... and I've now been teaching nearly 12 years!!!! Bloody hell I'm old! Every day is new, exciting, never dull and I'm sure one day I will appreciate the holidays! LOL. So much sympathy... cannot explain how much Mumsnet (as a new user) has helped me. When I think I'm losing it (frequently) I just want to get on here and rant and get help! Maybe tomorrow will be better for you meandjoe? Hope so.... and if not.... the sooner you get into teaching the better!!!! I have classes of children that do as I ask and 2 of my own that drive me to distraction!!!

Woohoo! Joseph seems much much happier today, he hasn't cried or whinged once yet and he's been up since just before 6, that's like a world record in this house (both the getting up after 5:30am and the not whinging for over an hour!! lol)

I wonder if I've been too hard on him whilst he's been ill?? I often think when he is ill that he is just always miserable even when he's not poorly. maybe because he was so difficult as a baby and my memories of the first 9 months are very very grim so it seems easy to think he is always awful when maybe he's not, if that makes any sense!

I am under no illusions that he is some kind of angel baby and he is still bloody difficult but maybe I do have too high expectations of him.

Hope you have a good day and the ds' don't drive you up the wall!

I am really looking forward to my teacher training, if nothing else it will give me a break from ds

I love mumsnet too for all the reasons you mentioned! It;s easy to think you are the only one with a difficult cry-y baby when everyone in real life seems to find it so different and easy. It's reassuring and quite theraputic to have a good rant!

Just thought Id see how everyones doing? Any miracle improvements yet? No such luck here, dd2 is nearly 17 months and as bad as ever.

Me too thisisthelast! In fact your name has just reminded me to make a bloody vital appointment at the docs for my husband to ensure JUST that! Have spent an hour and a half doing "controlled crying" after being up 6 time last night and he's now 15 months and walking! Have just re-read entire thread... Now awaiting talking to see if that makes a difference! This is one hell of a phase we are going through!

congrats on the walking ola!!! have to say it did massively improve my ds' general mood but then the tantrums are worse so it's kind of the same but different if you see what i mean!!!

i keep saying dh ought to get the snip but i guess it's his choice, i certainly aren't planning on having another!

how did the cc go? thank god joe sleeps well, i really don't think i could be strong enough to do it, i'd cave in and then things just get worse.

anyway, hoping all the grumpy babies had a good christmas, my ds was an angel on christmas eve and christmas day so it was a lovely time, very different to last year.

problem is that he seems to not be interested in any toys, dispite having been bought loads of new interesting ones for christmas so he spends a lot of time just wandering around the house not really knowing what to do with himself, then whinging, arrrgh!

hope the walking improves things ola!

Thanks meandjoe. Christmas day DS2 was fab I have to say... but then makes you look like you're just moaning for no reason! However since... not been the best! Eventually went off after 1hr 30 mins of CC!!! Was hideous! But sleeping at the other end of cot snuggling his extra blanket, so ever living in hope he will be put down that side tomorrow with an extra blanket to snuggle! Watch this space!

does anyone else find their baby is in a foul mood in the morning??? or is it just joseph??! he wakes up so early (doesn't matter even when i put him to bed late, he still wakes up early) always wakes up crying. tantrums for nothing in the mornings and cries and sobs on and off for ages. he doesn't seem to want to play/ cuddle/ eat. he has his milk, then just generally complains for a couple of hours!

it used to be that he'd be awful in the evenings but lately the 'suicide hour' seems to have moved to mornings. i'm sure he's still tired but getting him back to sleep is just not happening!